Autum - posted on 12/21/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )
His father thinks 50/50 is seeing the kids every other day equally, although it's not actually even because he works and I don't. The court order mentioned every other weekend, but the father thinks its every other day. He threatened to report me if I don't agree with him. It has been like this since my son and his sister were toddlers, so I'm used to the schedule and have bonded with them that the idea of going by the court order would only make me worry about my kids, more for my 14 year old because he lives with his father for the most part. The kids go to different schools. I have asked my son which place he wants to live, but he never say so. He's used to the back and forth routine. I'm glad in that respect, but it would be easier if he chooses a place. Because I see him more I feel I should be the custodial parent, but my son isn't agreeing to the idea of living with me. His father denied that I spend more time with the kids and refuse to sign a tax document that would entitle me tax benefit for supporting my son more than 50%.
I would like my son to live here so he can get a better education and closely monitor his daily homework, where as if on the day I don't see him, I have no way of knowing. I have voiced my concern to the father but he only gets defensive. Not having custody is not giving me the right to allow my son to seek treatment for his ADHD, that his father denied he has. He's failing two classes and I cannot do anything about it. After a consultant with an attorney they only say I'm complaining about the father. I know I have more time because I'm home, but I should not be the only parent to instill responsibilities in our kids. No I do not get child support because of the 50/50. Other problems are medical/dental insurance. The father's wife who is living elsewhere because of their marital trouble, has insurance coverage for the kids, but she does not provide me contact or rights so I can discuss the kids insurance status, etc. Since I'm the one taking them to appointment because the father does not have time, the bill comes to me requesting payment. I understand step parent isn't require to cover step kids, but the father does not have insurance. He's also trying to avoid paying bills if he does not take his child to an appointment. Sorry for the lengthy description. Thanks