My 14 year old having party while we are not home
Kellie - posted on 12/27/2013
I wouldn't judge her about this. Fourteen is old enough to be home alone for a short period of time. Kids do stuff like this all the time but she just got caught. Sounds to me like she came back to the house and had a party. It's hard raising kids. I have kids as well and my youngest used to sneak out. She's now 19 but kids do things we don't approve of.
Ev - posted on 12/26/2013
To get this right-Your teen daughter was staying with friends and was planning a party to happen at your house but you caught it before it happened? What kind of party was it going to be? Booze? Boys?
Yes, it hurts when your child does things against the rules or your expectations. I am in agreement with the other posters here. It would take a long grounding and a long time for my kids to earn my trust back. But at the same time, I would not be leaving a 14 year old whom I am not sure is mature enough to be home alone. Kids, in this time and era, seem to be 14 but act more like they are a lot younger and have no responsiblity. As parents we need to show the kids how things in this world work and how what they do affects others and the situations around them. THat for every choice they make and everything they do there are consequences. Please keep that in mind. Kids in their teens think they know it all already when they still don't have much of a clue.
Jodi - posted on 12/26/2013
My kids are 21, 16, 14 and 8. None of them have ever done this. I do leave all but the 8 year old home alone and have never had this happen (and the 21 year old lives away from home). I was stating what I'd do if it did. I mean, my kids have had a couple of friends over to play some XBox before I get home from work (which is literally around the corner) but that has been with my permission and totally out in the open. They never invite anyone without asking first. I wouldn't trust them if they organised something like this, and trust is a big deal in my home. A HUGE deal.
J - posted on 12/26/2013
And BTW we were not leaving her home alone. She was staying with friends and was planning to come back to our house to have friends over. We calmly told her she was grounded and basically we don't trust her anymore- do either if you have teens?
Jodi - posted on 12/26/2013
How long did you leave your 14 year old alone at home for? Clearly your 14 year old is untrustworthy, so I would not be leaving him/her home alone again any time in the foreseeable future. In fact, I wouldn't be leaving my very untrustworthy 14 year old alone anywhere. Totally grounded until said 14 year old can earn my trust back. And THAT would take some earning.
Or are you asking if this is ok? (Sorry, not quite sure, because you haven't really elaborated). My answer is no, never.
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