Carla - posted on 02/13/2015 ( 8 moms have responded )
I found out my 14 year old daughter has been telling lies to her boyfriend. She lies about herself and me. She told him I mentally abused her and her life at home is horrible. He called a hotline, and I ended up being investigated by child protective services. The case was thrown out because it was obviously not true. At first we didn't know where the report came from, but because of other things that happened afterwards, we found out it started from my daughter. She denied any knowledge about it. She also told her bf that she cuts herself and that she was thinking of hurting herself. The police showed up at our door at 10:30 at night to do a well-being check on her. Again she acted like she didn't know why anyone would think that. Of course she had no marks on her. Finally she was called down to the office at school because her bf reported that she said she was raped at school. She denied it and would not cooperate whatsoever with the police. She eventually wrote a statement that she would prosecute for the rape. The whole thing was investigated and proved false. She has subsequently been arrested for filing a false report.
I can't for the life of me figure out why on earth she would say these things. I guess it's for the benefit of the bf (who is her age and seems to be a very nice boy). She met him in middle school so he doesn't have a history with her from her younger days. She would never be able to pull this off with anyone who has known her very long because they would know she was lying about me for sure. I am the opposite of an abusive parent. I have loved on her since she was born; gone to every game, field trips, raised butterflies every year, let her play in the rain. Besides feeling very hurt that she would say these horrible things about me, I am worried she won't stop even though she is in serious trouble for lying. If anyone had told me 6 months ago that we would be going through this, I would have called them nuts. She had never done anything like this before; never been in any trouble, always followed the rules and genuinely seemed happy and content. I'm not sure what to do. I went to a counselor because I was having trouble sleeping due to all this, and he started seeing her also. It didn't get anywhere because she will not talk about it to anyone. Now I worry when the phone rings during school hours because I'm afraid she may be in trouble again. I wish I could just make the last few months disappear and go back to the simple life we had. I want her to stop telling lies; I don't trust her anymore, and that makes me very sad.