My 15 year old Daughter Hides and steals candy and sweets and often leaves nothing for the family

Barb - posted on 02/15/2014 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I have a 15 year old with anxiety problems. We have been told she has asperger tendencies, but she is high functioning. The problem is a total LACK of will power when it comes to taking candy, cookies, and anything around our house. I had a couple dozen cookies I was saving to take to another craft show in November, she ate them all. Anything we have around the house, she gets into. I used to hide it, but I think it made matters worse because when something was out she took it. Now, I am trying to explain how many of something she can have, but save the rest for other family members or sometimes just to have as a desert, etc. I want her to develop some will power and realize that she can resist the temptations that are around her. Help!! Is this too much to ask of a 15 year old who is immature for her age.

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Barb - posted on 02/17/2014

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Believe me we do! We have tried everything we can think of, but she does not care. When it comes to chocolate and sweets, she lies about it, steals from her family (even grandma), and whatever we take away, she gets over it and does it again. We even tell her we will not let her drive when she is 16, lack of trust between her and us. She does not seem to care. I am going to be seeking more help from the special groups we have her in, one for her social anxiety, and one for Aspergers, but her ODD is definitely overbearing when she wants something. It is a difficult situation.

Jodi - posted on 02/16/2014

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What about some consequences for stealing? Honestly, taking things that were given to others is simply not ok. She needs consequences for that....such as removing some privileges.

Barb - posted on 02/16/2014

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I did hide things for awhile, but then thought I'd try to teach her some will power by having some things around. However, she did take a valentines gift that was for me, and finished that off too. Thanks for the post, I may have to consider the locks!!

Jodi - posted on 02/15/2014

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Stop buying the candy and cookies. Put locks on the cupboard. It is not to much to ask a 15 year old to show some self restraint, especially when it is an action that has an effect on others (eg. cookies that you had saved for a craft show).

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