My 15 year old daughter wants to go on PROZAC - help!

Patricia - posted on 05/07/2014 ( 21 moms have responded )

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My 15 yo daughter has been reading up on depression, mood swings and angry outbursts and she feels she needs Prozac to feel better and cope with her big mood swings and stressful and busy days due to heavy homework loads, social pressures at her high school and dark thoughts.
I am very against any type of anti-depressant but then maybe she should see a good therapist to talk out her problems and maybe Prozac would help her cope better.
Any advice you have would be very helpful. I have read about the side effects and there are many. No one in our family has been on any type of anti-depressant before.

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Gena - posted on 05/08/2014

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She should go see a therapist,they will be able to tell if she needs an anti-depressant or not.Depression is a serious problem and should be taken seriously. I started when i was 16 after my sister died in my arms...i got a bad depression and talking to friends or wearing those "big girl panties" didnt help.I had to learn that the anti-depressants help me.If someone has a broken leg they have crutches,for people with depression,the anti-depressants are their crutches. And its nothing to be ashamed of.
Let your daughter see a therapist,there might be things going on that she needs to talk about..and maybe she is depressed and needs medication..maybe not,then it would help her to talk to a therapist.Good luck

Dove - posted on 05/08/2014

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Nope... I had people thinking I should go on them for years, but I refused. When I finally decided to give it a try (a year after starting counseling) I had to go into my PCP and get a prescription...

Dove - posted on 05/08/2014

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Funny... my son was diagnosed in August w/ depression and anxiety and meds were never mentioned. I would RUN from any counselor/therapist that suggested meds as a first defense to depression... especially in a child/teen.

And 'big girl panties'... will do nothing for someone who has true depression... but instead can make the situation so much worse. The 'suck it up' mentality can help some, but have deadly backfiring consequences in others.

Your daughter needs to be evaluated by a mental health professional and I would make it clear to them before meeting w/ her that you do NOT want to go to meds unless weekly sessions w/ them are not helping after at least 6 months.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 05/08/2014

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And people who assume that I am attacking them simply because I am encouraging folks NOT TO POST inaccuracies as fact are irritating as well

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 05/08/2014

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God, I absolutely LOVE people who don't live in a country, yet presume to know EVERYTHING about said country, medical practices, etc.

I would NEVER presume to tell anyone 'facts' about Canadian medical treatment, because I DON"T LIVE IN CANADA.

Just because one has relatives in a country does not make one an expert on the norms of that particular country. Just because I have close family residing in Germany doesn't mean I KNOW everything about it.

Please do not PRESUME to know about another country's medical practices, or anything else. It leads to misleading assumptions, and incorrect information being relayed as fact. Sorry, but to dispute another inaccurate post: ONE CANNOT FIND 'ANYTHING THEY WANT' OVER THE COUNTER IN THE USA. If one knows a person who DOES get illegal prescription drugs, then that person is morally obligated to inform the police about the person illegally obtaining prescription drugs.

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Dove - posted on 05/09/2014

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* We just have to learn to get thru it on our own if we can.

Just so you are aware that not everyone CAN get through it on your own... then I think you will be able to find your daughter the help she needs. :)

Patricia - posted on 05/08/2014

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Thank you for your feedback - I am going to take her to a good therapist next week to "talk it all out" and I hope she can vent all her feelings to the dr. And perhaps regular appointments would help her cope and learn that it is "normal to feel up or down" and life can be tough, no matter your age. We just have to learn to get thru it on our own if we can.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 05/08/2014

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***MoD WaRnInG***

Ladies, lets stop the in thread bickering. Patricia can use some help without members duking it out. Lets keep it clean and friendly or this thread will be locked down tight.

Thanks
~WtCoM MoD LiTtLe MiSs~

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 05/08/2014

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Dove, were you able to walk in to any pharmacy and get them regardless of prescription? Just curious... ;-)

Dove - posted on 05/08/2014

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Oh... and I was on Prozac for a month at one point... all it did for me was make me want to sleep and puke. I have been on 3 different anti-depressants and can take none of them.

Tanya - posted on 05/08/2014

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Shawn, dear god... I'm not going to battle it out with you again....

YOU shouldn't presume anything about anyone.... You have no idea what I do...or who I am...

I told you I spent summers... do you know what summers are, how long they last 3 to 4 months...do you know what I did there.... just take a back seat once in awhile...

Tanya - posted on 05/08/2014

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Patricia I just wanted to make sure you understood I was being rude towards you.

It's just nowadays I see how the girls are, I have a lot of them that age in my family and it's just so disturbing. We had to deal with things so differently. It seems children today just want the easy way out... and parents are not helping...

Tanya - posted on 05/08/2014

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Gee Shawn, thanks for taking concern of my child :)

However, I live in Canada and doctors are a lot more regulated here. My family lives in the USA and I have spent summers in the USA- I know how they work, you can find anything you want over the counter.

Not to worry my daughter has a GREAT pediatrician here!

Molly - posted on 05/08/2014

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I would look at some support (outside of school) I went through this with our Daughter starting at 12 and she found comfort in a church teenage girl group, where they got together every week at a coffee shop. Also, I found a great Nurse/Aesthetician actually from a Spa and she told me that she met with young girls all the time that wanted plastic surgery and botox etc. to look better, and that she would talk with with my Daughter after she gave her a facial and "It worked"!!! Ask around with other Mom's, and groups but def. outside of her school area where the kids won't know her and make fun of her. Lots of understanding and love from you with no judgement of her feelings and lots of communication I wish you the best, our young girls are really having it hard these days.

Patricia - posted on 05/07/2014

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Thank you, Ladies - I will ask some Mom friends of mine for a good counselor or therapist so she can "talk it out with that professional" - I think she is just a normal, hormonal, moody, sometimes insecure young girl that needs a little help at this stage of her life. Her friends are all the same age so they might offer support and a kind ear, but not any real knowledge if she truly has a real depression going on ...I will keep you all posted - thanks much.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 05/07/2014

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Tanya, you do realize that those who you allege 'typically prescribe drugs easily' are NOT the ones you want to be taking your kid to, right?

Most of these types of meds are regulated...that's why it requires a prescription. How about advocating getting a physician and therapist involved?

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 05/07/2014

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Ah, the ol' self diagnosis.

What does her physician say? Has she been in to speak with a therapist? What did they say?

Get her a physical set up, and an appointment with a therapist.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 05/07/2014

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I disagree. She needs her friends. Don't you remember being 15 and having your friends be your life?????? You need to let her have some in independence, but also let her know you are there for anything and everything. That you are not going to judge every little thing she does.

Patricia - posted on 05/07/2014

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Thanks, Tanya - I agree with you. Nowadays the kids can google everything and read up on any subject imaginable.
She used to talk to me more but lately it is just her other 15-16 yo girlfriends so I can only imagine what advice they are giving her, probably not good.
At this age they are very independent but we need to rein them in as well as we can.
I appreciate your advice. Big girl pants, coming on!

~♥Little Miss - posted on 05/07/2014

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You cannot just walk into a doctors office and ask for prozac. She needs to be evaluated and diagnosed with depression. That would involved speaking with a counselor/therapist, and seeing them on a regular basis. If she is having any depression, bring her in and they can talk with her.

Tanya - posted on 05/07/2014

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Sounds to me odd... she has diagnosed herself and told you exactly what she wants.

She could speak to a therapist but...if you're in the USA, they usually prescribe meds easily.

I would sit down with her and help build a schedule or timetable that can work for her. At 15 it's normal to have all different emotions and reactions to them. This is the time we get to know ourselves and we have to learn to cope with ourselves without drugs...

Everyone has busy and stressful days... what will she do when she is a wife, has children, work, activities... Social pressures? Everyone has them even when your a adult.

Come on... tell her to pick up her big girl pants and learn to cope with these issues. They are everyday issues.

Her dark thoughts she be spoken with a therapist perhaps... or to you.

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