My 15 year old son

Linda - posted on 01/21/2016 ( 10 moms have responded )

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He got so mad at me a few days ago when I would not buy him a game for his play station. I told him I did not have the money. He knows that I struggle to get to the next paycheck but just does not care anymore. I mean I get that he going through the teenage stuff but disrespecting me and tearing up his room is just too much for me. I mean at one moment he was fine and then the next he was totally a different child. He was so mad at me that he was drooling from his mouth. Are you serious. wow. I just don't know what to do he wont clean up the torn up room with holes in the walls. until he says I stop irritating him. Heck I don't even know what I did...LOL What are your thoughts? Thank you

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Dove - posted on 01/21/2016

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Sounds like he may need some therapy... and counseling may be beneficial to you as a sounding board and back up support/accountability.

I'd clean up his room for him... and take away EVERYTHING. He can have his bed and a week's worth of clothes (that he will be 100% responsible for keeping clean or wearing dirty). If he wants anything else at all he will need to earn it w/ chores and good behaviors.

If he EVER tries to hit you (assuming he, hopefully, hasn't yet)... call the police and press charges. He is too big and too old to be acting like a maniac. Mom being irritating is a 'legitimate' reason to ask for some space and quiet time... not a legitimate reason for being destructive.

Although I do also have to add... my only boy isn't quite 8, so I haven't reached this stage w/ him (my girls are 14 though). I do remember my brother as a teenager shooting a hole in his wall w/ a spear gun and breaking his hand from hitting a metal door when he was mad at a girl.... He probably could have benefited from some outside intervention to a point as well.

Sarah - posted on 01/22/2016

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I agree with most of the responses, not the pawn shop, but the others. If this is a sudden shift, you may want to schedule an unexpected doctor visit for a drug test. Otherwise, lock up the PlayStation so he can't even see it and remove the privileges from his life. I agree that parenting is about balance, boundaries and reassurance. Above all, consistency.
BTW I am a parent that did strip a room bare. Mt now 19yo son, at 15, decided since he was grown up enough to not follow rules. It took my hubby and I about 3 hours to remove everything from his room but a pillow, blankets, flashlight, change of clothing (one for free time and and uniform for school). He got food and shelter. It took one day for him to realize that everything in his life is a luxury. It was a huge pain in the rear to remove the door, the clothes, the furniture.....but I would do it again in a heartbeat. I never had an issue with this child again and he is off in college and doing beautifully. The younger three were witness to his discipline and know that I mean what I say. I do not make idle threats.

Dove - posted on 01/21/2016

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Sudden, drastic changes in behavior are 'typically' signs of something else going on (drugs, bullying, girl trouble, depression, etc...). Hang in there!

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Carla - posted on 01/22/2016

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I recommend Positive Parenting Solutions. An investment more important than any you could make. Amy will help you. Kids need boundaries, but also control. He needs your time too. It's not just about consequences - that alone never works. Best wishes to heal and stabilize your relationship in these critical years.

Michelle - posted on 01/21/2016

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I agree with Dove, take everything out of his room except for the basics.
You can also let him know that if he wants to get new things then he can get a job and earn money to buy things himself.
I have a 14yo bursting to start working so he can buy himself things. He is even offering to work at my business to earn money.
Also look into counselling, outbursts like that are an indicator that something else is going on.

Jodi - posted on 01/21/2016

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So....did you take the playstation off him altogether? And let him know he will only get it back in a couple of week and only when he cleans up his room and apologises to you for his behaviour?

Linda - posted on 01/21/2016

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Thank you so much. It is so strange how he changed basically overnight. I mean he has called me very bad names. I just don't know who he is anymore.

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