My 15 year old son has lost his mind!

CHANTEL - posted on 12/11/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My 15 year old son has gone from an A and B student to a C and barely passing D student this year in highschool. He tells me he doesn't like being an over achiever or "smart kid" and only did it to make us happy. He's become very lazy, I mean goes out of his way to be lazy, and is just making poor decisions regarding school this year. Hes on the verge of failing for the first time. Forgets everything all the time, just cant seem to get it together. Should I be worried, or is this truly a phase like I have been told? We are also military and husband is deployed and we just moved so hes in a new school, but this is not a new thing for my son, so I am not going to let that be an excuse.

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Sarah - posted on 12/11/2014

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If it is a homework and time management issue, then no nap, no TV, no phone, no computer until the assignments are done.

CHANTEL - posted on 12/11/2014

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I am definitely not worried about drugs. His maturity level is definitely below his peers, and I think ultimately that is also playing a factor and he is not really making friends like he should, and I know that is due to his maturity level. I am not complaining in terms of what he could be getting into, however, I do feel it affects his ability to make good decisions as it relates to time management, keeping up in school, etc. He is not involved with other things right now, he tried out for soccer and didn't make the team, and he truly is just in lazy mode. Hes honestly not motivated, and I have already had him talk with his school counselor and his teachers have tried approaching him, and they all say hes a normal teen, and boys tend to be slower on getting organized, etc. but seriously, he is just not doing homework and turning it in! I don't get it.

Sarah - posted on 12/11/2014

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I would seek out a counselor for your son, there may be a problem he doesn't want to discuss with you. Kids need to be internally motivated. You can make consequences for not turning in work, but the level of his performance is really up to him.
While changing schools may not be new to him, at 15 his peer group is important. maybe he is depressed and not making friends. Have you had a drug screen done? Does he do any other activities?
The part of your post that raises the red flag for me is "Hes on the verge of failing for the first time. Forgets everything all the time, just cant seem to get it together." that sounds like a sad kid to me. Talk to the school, ask his teachers what he is like in class and get the social worker involved. As a military family, do you have resources to help teens with moving transitions?

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