Dana - posted on 09/05/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )
I have been a single mother for almost 17 years now. I have three sons aged 16 (17 in November), 15, 12, and a 1 1/2 year old daughter. I have been all they had, and they have been all I've had for their whole lives. 2 1/2 years ago, my high school love came back into my life, and into theirs and it has been nothing but postive for them. At the time, I am the only one working. I have a full time job, and am a consultant for an independent company. I am also currently looking for a part time job that will be mainly nights after the kids go to bed and the weekends. So I guess you can say, we are struggling a little bit. To make a long story short, Tuesday morning my 15 year old says that he wants to move in with his dad because he knows we are struggling and that will give me one less mouth to feed. He did add in there also that he gets to do some things there he doesn't at home. He added that his younger brother whom he shares a room with now, will have his own room. I of course cried and am dying inside not sure what to do. I talked to his dad yesterday about it, told him my feelings, that I would have to have constant contact and that I might be crazy for awhile until I somewhat get used to it. I just don't know if I should let him, maybe do it for a couple weeks and see how it goes. I don't know if us struggling is his real reason or if he's not telling me something. I just don't know what to do or how to handle it. We've had typical teenage issues with him, but nothing so major that I would expect this. And then I think, if he does move out, and his younger brother gets the room to himself, where is he supposed to sleep when he comes over? Is this his way of not having to come over? SOOOOOO confused and hurt....HELP!