My 15 yo daughter does not want to go to her dad's anymore bc of her step mother

Cassie - posted on 11/07/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My 15 yo daughter does not want to go to her dad's house anymore. When she is down there she is a real life cinderella. She has to do all the cleaning, cooking, laundry and taking care of her little brothers. She's not allowed to have her phone while down there. She's not allowed to visit friends or call them or get onto any of her social networks. Even though her step brothers are allowed all those things. She wants to come move in with me but she don't want to tell her dad because she is worried about the repercussions she will suffer with her step mother. She is constantly screaming at her that she does nothing while she is down there and that she is turning into me (what ever that means). She has told my daughter that if she ever decides to move in with me that she will no longer be welcome in the house again. Her father's family is all disguised with her actions and how she treats my daughter and the other children down there. They even have my daughter doing home repairs too. They sent my daughter up in the attic to find the leak in the roof and my daughter fell through the ceiling and hurt her ribs. My son had gone and told his dad that he no longer wants to go down to his dad's and the step mother treated him even worse once he told him that. That is why my daughter is afraid to tell her dad that. She don't want to have to deal with what her brother had to deal with. She said she is not as strong as her brother to be able to do that. What can I do or say to help her? I told her we can talk with her dad but she keeps saying that it won't work. I know from years of dealing with him that she is right but at least we will talk. I know that she had a talk with her dad last november about all this and wanted to work it out but things did not change and in fact they have gotten worse so now she wants to just leave.

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Cassie - posted on 11/09/2013

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I have decided that when I get her on Wednesday for girl scouts that instead of taking her to school Thursday, I will keep her and force his hand to talk with us. Then I can take her to school on Friday to say goodbye to her friends while I get school records switched.

Cassie - posted on 11/07/2013

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I tried to get her to stay but she is so afraid of what is going to happen. I'm trying to help her as much as I can but keep the ball in her corner. I told her if she decides that she wants to come here she can borrow her friends phone at school and call me and I will come get her. It just stinks. I want to just tell her she's staying here but I understand her fears. We are going to meet and talk hopefully next week. This is a very strange situation. See he has 51% because I moved to another county and the judge felt well she can't vote for me but he can. Even though my ex told him on the stand that he beat our son. Now my daughter has told me they haven't struck her yet but I know she does keep things from me so I don't get upset because I told her that if they lay a hand on her I will be down there with a baseball bat. So she spends the week at her dad's and I get her 2 out of 3 weekends, wednesdays for girl scouts and the summer. So she wants to do the talk next thursday since that will be the day before she comes to me for the weekend. I really want to tell her next wednesday when I pick her up for scouts that I'm not taking her back down. She can stay here and miss a day of school until we meet with her dad that way her step mother doesn't start anything with her knowing we are going to meet. Well, meet if he agrees. But if I keep her he will have no choice but to meet with me.

Heather - posted on 11/07/2013

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That sounds awful.I remember when I was 15 and use to go to my dads for the weekend. I couldn't wait to leave BC of my stepmother! She was so degrading to me. But never that bad. If that was my daughter I definitely wouldn't let her stay there ! till you talked to your x about what's going on & make some ground rules. If that doesn't work get a lawyer!

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