my 15yr old Daughter has told me she is 9wk pregnant

Terrie - posted on 07/30/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My daughter told me she is pregnant yesterday, she is 15 and is 9wk gone, I had no idea she was sexualy active whitch has made me feel so stupid, we have always been so close, I love her unconditionally and she knows it, she never wants for anything I tell her everyday I love her, I feel now I failed her. She says she wants to keep it, I will stand by her no matter wot but I feel like my heart has been torn out, I know she is scared but she now seems excited I really don't think she understands at all. She thinks because she has changed nappies and babysat she knows wot to do. She wants to study media and photography and become a model. The farther, says they are just friends and she is not in a relationship which makes me even more mad, she has had sex only 3 times with him and no other. He is 17 and I want to kill him. I can't even talk about her having a baby yet, but she and other people do. It my me sick. I just don't know how I can cope, I know I will and my love will always grow for it, I feel so diapointed in her and myself, I feel like such a bloody fool.

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Terrie - posted on 07/31/2013

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thank you, i will still give her all the love and support she is used to, its so hard at the minute, i have just found out my is ill with cancer too, i just feel like my whole world is crashing around me.Thank you for the kind words Linda xx

Linda - posted on 07/30/2013

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You have not failed her! Sometimes things happen. I was 16 when I became pregnant on purpose and had my baby when I was 17. My father threw me out in the street when he found out. It just happened to be my 17th birthday. I was fearful that he would try to make me get an abortion, so I never returned home, but instead I turned to foster care. She sounds like she really wants the baby. You just need to love her and tell her that this is her responsibility. She will have a changed life from here on out, but it is so important to share love in this whole process for the good of the baby. Help her eat right. I have often played out in my mind what would have made me feel loved in my situation and the things have been at the top of my list is the little things such as giving me a good meal and making me feel safe. The years have passed and I am now 44 with 7 wonderful birth born children and 2 added children from my soulmate. I love my children, especially my first baby. I almost gave him up for adoption but the question that came to mind was, "What could I give him that no other mother could?" And the answer that came from my heart was this, "That I was his mother and that I would do whatever it took that was honorable to give him what he needed." He is 26 now and he thanks me from time to time for being his mom and for how special I am to him because I have taught him to believe in miracles and destiny and to never give up. There was a time when I was a single mother of 4 and I had to sell my blood to give him and his siblings the little things like rented movies and videos on the weekend. We did not have a car and we just had made it out of a battered women's shelter and had a cheap rented house on Section 8, but we made it through those hard times by focusing on love. Now is your time to focus on love. It will be alright. If you need someone to talk with, I will be glad to help.

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