Cary - posted on 09/17/2013 ( no moms have responded yet )
I am heartbroken, I unexpectedly cry throughout the day. I love my kids so much and feel terribly betrayed they chose their Dad over me. Why
Yes I have sole custody and lived for all their childhood barely scrapping by while he (the dad) did the minimum and never consistent. I spent a decade strategically bouncing checks and providing very well considering and running myself ragged to have my kids both leave me. I feel cheated!!! It's NOT FAiR he doesn't deserve to step in now and I can't do anything. I want to be rational and make good decisions but I am suddenly dumped. No decisions asked of me no anything just pick my life up without my children and go on.
It hurts so bad.
I agree legal maneuvers would be just be waste of money. I fantasize a judge would say to him all the things I know to be true. You ruined our marriage, you failed in visitation / support etc. You are a loser and send those kids back to their mother. But it's not going to happen.
I am so sad, my heartbreaks all day long I can't believe what has happened.
So, for all u mothers out there in same shoes - I get it, I feel ya.
All I can do is one day hope that I am loved and respected - I hope it is soon. Until then I am going to try and start my 2nd life. Because one day these kids would have left me anyway and that would've have been easier to bear, but the same situation I need to develop my personal life. Not easy, spent along time being part of kid things and now I MUST move on. Even if they come back! I have to do something for me so I am not caught so abruptly with no life outside my kids.
Anyone need a friend in Phoenix?