My 16 teen year daughter

Jean - posted on 09/29/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I'm at my wits end with my 16 yrs old daughter. She struggles in school with algebra and history. I try my best to help her out and ask her every night what she has for homework so she can graduate on time. Come to find out she lies to me on what she does have for homework. I go through every binder every night with her and ask what is homework what isn't. Just to come find out she lies to me and this hurts me I don't want to see her fail and in the long run she is going to end up hurting herself. I hate that she lies to me and doesn't try her best when I know she can do much better if she put her effort into it. The only punishment I can do is take away her phone and then that doesn't do the trick. Any other suggestions or help I would greatly appreciate it.

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Dove - posted on 09/29/2014

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If she doesn't have any learning disabilities hindering her... I'd let her fail. Also sit down w/ her and talk about what she wants to do w/ her life and help her outline the steps she needs to take to make it happen. MOST life paths require a minimum of a high school diploma.

Now might also be the time to let her know that once she is 18 she will need to be either a full time student making passing grades, working and paying rent, or finding another place to live.

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Tamara - posted on 09/29/2014

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Hi, I am in the same exact boat! My daughter is a sophomore and struggles. Her problem is she gets overwhelmed with her reading. Comprehension. Have you tried talking with the school counselor? A lot of the time they like to help and critically think of a way for parent and child to work together. I know if I badger and I am not saying you are, my child won't listen because I sound like a dripping faucet that you can't stop. Also, sometimes children have to suffer the natural consequences which is hard on us moms. Try calling the counselor and maybe stop with the every night binder search and see what happens. :)

Lori - posted on 09/29/2014

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sometimes people learn a lot when they fail...not the end of the world if she doesn't graduate on time but it might be a great lesson learned.
she is old enough to be responsible for her own homework.

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