Mirjam - posted on 03/07/2016 ( 8 moms have responded )
My son of 16, Sary, a happy, spirited, funny, good-looking child, and an A student at school, got insulted by a school mate and busted him up for that by punching him in the face and breaking his nose. He has never gotten into fistfights, so the insult apparently annoyed him pretty hard. Instead of behaving like a wise and understanding mother, the other guy's mom went straight to the police and filed a complaint. Nevertheless, me and my husband went to make peace between the kids and visited the parents and all seemed well. Today, three days after the incident, there are rumors of the other kid preparing a counter-attack, and he's been said to have tear gas or pepper spray which he is planning to use in order to later beat my son up with some friends. I am not sleeping these nights because I expect school to phone me any moment and tell me that something really bad has happened to him.
We've talked to Sary and told him that he shouldn't have reacted to the verbal insult like he did, and that people with bad language aren't even worth listening to. We've also told him that trouble with the police can destroy his future and because he's a top student he won't be able to have the job he wants if he has a case in the police.
But my worry is that the other guy(s) is going to come for him anyway. And what even worries me more is that my son has a black belt in karate and he can easily finish the others off if he wants. I guess that's why he underestimated his powers in the first place by breaking the nose in one second. Meaning that he'll be looked upon as the violent guy in the end that is to be blamed for all.
I want my son to be able to stand up for himself, but I don't want him to get involved in violent clashes. I really don't know what to do. And I go to work expecting my phone to ring any moment.