my 17 year old daughter just told me wants to be a boy

Marnie - posted on 09/04/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )




I don't know how to handle this situation.My daughter says she is a boy trapped in a girls body.she has started dressing as a boy no makeup mens cloths piercings (that i told she could not do).she even says she will get surgery later. I feel like the worst mom ever cause i dont know how to handle this. I need to get a grip on this as we have two more daughters.any suggestions.


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Dove - posted on 09/04/2012




Seek a counselor that maybe she would go with you to see together. Not to change her, but to help you both adjust to this.

S. - posted on 09/04/2012




Please dont feel like the worst mum, I think this is a situation that 99.9% of us mothers would struggle with. I think it's going to take time to get used to but with the right support and as long as you try to be undestanding and stay united you can learn to be ok with it. The first thing I would do would be to research so I had a little more understanding of what my child was dealing with, your can probably find some support by parents to parents. I'd then probably go to the doctors with my child and ask to be sent to counselling. This is a massive deal and will take a long time to get used but people do except and get used such a big change.

Gale - posted on 09/04/2012




I'm sure there are support groups for you and there are some for your daughter, once she hits legal age of adulthood there is nothing you can do, in the end it hers and hers alone decision, you can either support it or not but if you choose not she most likely to cut you out her life, I don't think her choices will affect your other two daughter but I do think if you chose not to support your 1st daughter they will see that and could affect your relationship with them as well. I do wish you the best and I hope you and your daughter find the support you both need.

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