Roberta - posted on 07/21/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )
She has never lived with him, primarily becuase I (and the court) have said no. He does not provide appropriate oversight for her when she does spend a weekend with him. Primarly she goes and does what she wants with no curfew or checking with other parents where she is supposed to be spending the night. He has never provided child support. She has a loser boyfriend who has cost us money and gotten her in trouble with me and her step father. She gets excellent grades, holds down a good job, attends school regularly and is a otherwise a good kid. She drives a car we bought for her ($2200 of which she paid $500). We pay for insurance and her phone. She gets $50/week allowance from us and has a midnight curfew on weekends and 7 pm on school/work nights. It seems clear to me that she only wants to live with her dad for a while, so she can take advantage of his lack of oversight. She says he trusts her and allows her to do what she pleases, and as long as she is not getting into trouble, that should be fine with me as well. I don't agree. Advice? Should I let her go stay with her father? My inclination is no, but if she insists then her car and phone stay here and her allowance stops.