Dana - posted on 04/27/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )
My 17 year old son has left "to go stay with a friend for awhile". He has always been very close to me, has been struggling with wanting to grow up faster the last year. Two days ago we got in an argument because he would not get out of bed to go to school. He LOVES his music and has been in a band for quite some time and when I told him if he didn't get up he would be grounded from band practice for a week...he got up. He packed a bag and is now staying with a friend. He says he doesn't know when he's coming home. He says I need to let him grow up. He's still going to school and working, so I just don't know what to do. I'm lost!! He even texted me a couple of times the first day with just general conversation like everything was normal, but when I told him to come home he said "NO". He then sent a long text about me nagging him and he needs to be independent, and I haven't heard from him since. ??? In the past when we would have a disagreement or argument, he would always come back and apologize within the day or at least by the next day. HOWEVER...he never left before. I'm lost with no clue what to do. I feel like a horrible mother because the boy he is staying with is 18 and lives with his grandmother...I have always had the cell phone to reach my son so don't know where this boy lives or how to get ahold of his grandmother!! I can't imagine what they've told her. Since he is going to school, I'm hesitant to get the school involved. I've been told I could call the police and force him to come home...but my husband thinks if we give him space he will just come home on his own. (I pray that happens, at which time have a game plan showing him he can be more independent, but here's what we need....). I'm sick and can barely function. Any advice???