My 17 year old is supposed to graduate a year early but is now failing

Carla - posted on 05/26/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My son has always had no problem with school. He could do one assignment and pass the test with an A. He knows the material but won't do the homework. Last year was so hard trying to get him to do homework and go to school that we decided to let him graduate a year early. Now here we are at the end of the year and he hasn't been to school in almost 2 months. The teachers have given him work that I pick up but I think he may still fail 2 or 3 classes. I won't know until the end of the year. If he fails it's not a problem because he was a year ahead anyway, but I know there is no way he will go to school next fall to finish these classes. I would let him do it online but my husband says he won't have a high school diploma and thinks that will impact him negatively. I dont know what to do. Anyone else experience this?
thanks
Carla

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Ledia - posted on 05/28/2015

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He needs to learn that not everything in life is exciting. Sometimes we have to sit through boring crap.
No matter what career he goes into, there WILL be boring aspects of his job, and he will hate doing those parts of his job, but he has to do them or he'll be out on his butt.
Furthermore, if he things school is so boring, he is REALLY going to hate working in the kind of jobs he will be qualified for without a high school education. Without a diploma, he isn't going to have many career options, and the options he will have are going to be very boring ways to spend 8+ hours every day.....Does he understand that? Isn't it worth sitting through a few weeks of boring classes in order to avoid a lifetime of boredom?

Personally, I would not home school him at this point so late in the game just because he is bored. You will not be there to rescue him from the boring parts of his job, so he needs to learn to endure a little boredom.
Now, if he were younger, like in elementary school, and he was so far advanced that a classroom type setting were holding him back from reaching his full potential, then I would consider home schooling, so that he could learn at his own pace and have time to explore subjects not explored in school. Homeschooling for these last 3 classes is not going to make them any less boring.

One thing you might try is rewarding him for enduring the boredom with something exciting that he likes to do. If he earns an A, he gets to do the thing he wants to. Also, make sure his extra curricular activities are still interesting to him--sometimes as kids mature, their interests change, and a kid who used to love baseball will find themselves more interested in music or art. Talk to him about what interests him, and help him find ways to invest time in those activities. If he has something interesting going on for part of the day, the boredom of school will be less taxing.

Carla - posted on 05/26/2015

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He doesn't want to go because he is bored. He could not do any homework and still get an A on the test. I just don't know if I should try to home school him for his final 3 classes because he won't get a diploma.

Ledia - posted on 05/26/2015

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You need to find out WHY he does not want to go to school. I mean, obviously it's not fun and no one really wants to go, but there are big consequences to skipping out on it, and if he understands that not going to school will destroy his future and is still skipping out of school, there is a bigger reason at play.

Once you know WHY he is skipping school, you can figure out how to address it, but until then, you will just be running in circles.

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