My 17 years old son

Paola - posted on 11/10/2016 ( 7 moms have responded )

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One of my twins who is 17 years old is making my life very difficult. He is being very impolite towards me and now towards his teachers. He is a straight A student but his actions don't show that.
I understand he feels superior and thinks he is better than others but now the school is complaining. Is it normal????? Please help me

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Paola - posted on 11/10/2016

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Why do i have the feeling that this kind of punishment don't work anymore with our children???
He is so stubborn and i am trying to leave a kind of relationship with him.
I raised my twins alone (their father work abroad) and i was very tough with them.
Maybe it's my fault

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 11/10/2016

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Stop letting him have everything, for starters. All he NEEDS (and all you are responsible for providing) is shelter, food, a mattress, bedding, and clothing. The rest are not needs, they are wants.

Start by removing privileges when he is disrespectful. He can earn them back, gradually

Antriana - posted on 11/10/2016

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you may have to take things away from him to act better. my niece had this issue and my sister had to take a lot of material things from her so that she can straighten her attitude.

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 11/11/2016

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Why do I have a feeling that you have never tried restrictions?

My kids are stubborn as well, and restrictions worked quite well. It is true, restrictions do requite that a parent stand strong and enforce them, but they actually do woork.

Michelle - posted on 11/11/2016

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Why do you say removing privileges doesn't work?
Have you actually done it and stuck to it?
We are talking about all technology (computer, phone, Ipad/tablet). He only gets to use a computer if it's for homework and only in a common area of the house. You don't just give them back after a couple of days either, he has to work to get them back. He has to prove that he will respect others as he should.
He is old enough to know how he is treating others and it's YOUR job to teach him that he needs to treat others with respect.
Don't use the excuse that you have raised them alone, millions of women around the world have done just that and don't have disrespectful teens/young adults.

Antriana - posted on 11/10/2016

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He's 17 and by the age 17 he knows exactly what he is doing. He may need counseling. Does he have any issues in his life that may make him react in anger?

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