my 17 yr old

Mommy - posted on 01/27/2014 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My daughter gets all anxious when its time to do homework and lashes out, cries etc. We had to move to a new town last summer but she should be settled in by now shouldn't she?

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Jodi - posted on 01/27/2014

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Have you actually asked her if she is happy? Maybe she is having trouble making friends. Maybe the work she is doing is stuff she hasn't done before and she is feeling behind in her work. It could be any number of things. This is where you ability to communicate with your teen is so very important, because you need to discuss with her whether she is having concerns.

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Mommy - posted on 01/28/2014

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Thanks for this very helpful insight. I have suspected the same thing. SHe needs ways to distress. Getting organized has helped her to feel that she can get everything done and turned in on time. I bought her a large dry erase white board on an easel and suggested every week she write down each subj. then list assignmts. and due dates. Also I keep a small weekly calendar in the kitchen for her. She loves to swim but being on the team at school was too time consuming so we are going to join the Y so she can just go as she can and hopefully join the summer swim team there. She is so stressed though that she worries about going. We may get an exercise machine of some sort as well so she can do that indoors without going somewhere. As you said - the purpose being to clear her head before she tackle's her homework.

Jodi - posted on 01/28/2014

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I'd say she is stressed. Maybe she needs your help keeping on top of things. Can you help her set a schedule, but still manage to put in her schedule some time for destressing? Exercise can be great - my son plays sport, this has helped. I remember I used to get up 1/2 hour earlier in my final years of school and go for a jog. It was a great way to clear my head for a new day. I was also lucky enough to have a horse, so in the afternoons, I'd go for a ride before I started on the homework, again, just to help clear my head. I think it is really important to find an activity to help her destress every day - it also means she can accomplish more when she does get down to her studying.

Mommy - posted on 01/28/2014

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Jodi - I think she is having trouble adjusting to the extremely high expectations at the new school. THE AMOUNT OF WORK IS PROLIFIC! SHE IS LEARNING NEW SKILLS FOR ORGAINZING HER WORK LOAD AND ACCOMPLISHING HER GOALS. My prayer is that she finish this semester with a grade point average that will help her get into her favorite college:)

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