my 17 yr. old lacks motivation and is failing in school,just today he has mentioned quitting school-which i really don't want. i cry over this daily- even just to join the miltary one needs a hs diploma. he also has anger issues and he tends to take out his anger on me. i am seeing a therapist today, but my son refuses to go. my husband and myself have prayed countless pryers over this. please, is there any out there going through what we are?
Tammy - posted on 04/23/2012
He's bored with school. There are classes available to let your child finish early. My daughter took all 4yrs of english in 1 month, because of that she was able to go to school late her Sr. year and get out early. Talk to his counselor she may have different options for him. Also instead of asking God for things to be done in his life begin to speak things over him. Speak those things that are not as though they were. Speak it until you believe it. My son will prosper at whatever he sets his hands to. My son will serve the Lord with his whole heart. Gods blessing are on my child and he has great favor with men. etc. You are the prophet of your future and his.
Krista - posted on 04/23/2012
Have you tried sitting down with him and just saying something like, "Look, I'm not going to get in a fight with you, I just want to talk. When you picture your life 10 years from now, what do you see?" Prod him gently, and show genuine interest in how he envisions his future, and don't let him cop out with "I don't know."
He'll likely picture himself with his own place, and a car and a job. Then ask him, "Okay. So how are we going to make this happen? In order to get a car and your own place, what do you need? A job. Okay, let's look at what different jobs pay, and how long you'd have to work to be able to afford a nice car. "
Start at the goals ,and work backwards, so that he can see that school isn't just about the here and now -- it's currency. It buys you CHOICE. If he drops out, he is closing 95% of his job options out there. So ask him -- does he want to be able to work at what he LIKES, or does he want to have to work at what his limited education allows him to work at?
Hopefully some of the big picture thinking will rekindle his motivation.
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