My 18 daughter is pregnant. And what I do.

Arletha - posted on 04/02/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )




My daughter is 18 and pregnant in the 11th grade. I want her to have a abortion because she aint ready and I aint ready. I need some advice because I am so mad @ her. I am very upset. Beacause we are very poor. We are living with a friend of mine I am out of work but is looking every day for work. What do I do!!! Now she is very disrespectful and lies all the time. I found out because she gained alot of weight. So I had her tested. Thats how I found out plus she will not tell me who is the father. She is my only child and I thought we where close. But I guess not obviously. So what do I do.Please help me


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Jodi - posted on 04/02/2014




Unfortunately, she is an adult. Even if she weren't, you don't get to make this decision. You can make the choice on whether to support her or not in the choices she makes, but you can't choose FOR her. If she doesn't want an abortion, there is nothing you can do about that. If she doesn't want to adopt the baby out, there is nothing you can do about that, she will just have to find a way to support herself and her baby. But ultimately that is her choice.

Gena - posted on 04/02/2014




Here where i live with my family, 18 is legaly an adult and you wouldnt be able to force her to get an abortion. Are their any Mother Child houses where you live.Places where young mothers have a place to stay and get help with the babies?I think the best would be if you support her,not financialy but with showing that you care.And its not your desicion if she must have an abortion or not..Its her desicion.Look if there are any of those shelters nearby,or adoption centers..or any other centers that could help.Goodluck

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