my 18 ur old son left because he does not want to stop smoking weed

Phyllis - posted on 01/18/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )

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when my son was 17, I took his 17 yr old friend in because he was homeless due to his parents drug problems. they started smoking weed, got picked up by the police and was released to me without arresting them. the private school he is in suspected him, so put him on probation because he admitted it, but is subjected to drug testing. if he tests positive they will expel him and it is 4 months before graduation. they both are 18 now. he promised to stop smoking, but I keep testing him at home and he keeps failing. he tries to convince me that the weed stays in the system 90 days, but that is very rare. two days ago, I tested him it was positive, I got upset and he confessed to smoking. I was very upset and we had a fight and I told the boy he had to leave because they both are still smoking. they both left and are gone for good. I am terribly upset and worried that he will not graduate, he will be homeless and eventually end up in prison or worse. his father has parkinsons and I am not well either. we took this other boy in to try to save his life, but lost our own son in the process.

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Jean - posted on 01/19/2014

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No she has not. Things have gotten better though. She doesn't come to hang out yet but she will come visit or call me now. It gas only been 4 months. I am getting help and I have saught out support. That has helped so much! She isn't doing drugs though so that is a little different. Things will get better. Theythink they have the wold all figured out, when in reality they have no idea. Many people have told me as long as they are safe let them figure it out . I know it is hard, but that is what we are doing and she is starting to come around again.

Jean - posted on 01/18/2014

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First of my daughter left at 18 too so I feel your pain! The first weeks are the hardest. Remember you did not loose him, he is just out if your house for a while. After my daughter was gone, it gave my husband and I time for the clouds to lift so we could think. It was the worst thing that happened at the time, but now I think it happened for a reason. As long as he is safe, he may find his way and see how hard it is not living with you. Hang in there! Kids do find means to make it. Then they eventually come to their senses. It just takes time. I have reached out for support and that has helped so much! It is ok that you don't allow pot in your house! Take one day at a time and take care of you ! You will need to gain strength through this .

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