Sammy - posted on 02/05/2015 ( 14 moms have responded )
I have an 18 year old daughter, who is in high school, about to graduate, and she's out of control. She has a curfew of 11:30 on school nights and 12 on weekends, she breaks her curfew and sometimes doesn't get home until maybe 1 am. She has a boyfriend who is the same age, and he drinks, smokes, has a history of breaking the law, and hangs out with troubled people. She was not doing any of these things until she met him. He has influenced her in a bad way. She feels that she should be able to go and come as she pleases with no questions asked, and that's not how it works. Kids nowadays feel that they should be able to run rampant and do whatever they want just because they're 18. Being 18 doesn't give you any special rights. Just because the law says that you are an adult and that you're ready for the world doesn't mean you actually are. When I was 18 I still had rules and if I broke them, I got grounded. When you can take care of yourself without your parents help, pay your own rent, make the right decisions, act like an adult in any situation, then you are an adult. Not when you're old enough to buy cigarettes and whatever else you're old enough to do at 18. Also, just because you're old enough to do something by law, doesn't mean you're necessarily ready or mature enough to do it.
For example: you can have a baby when you start puberty, but does that make you ready for a baby? NO, it just means that your body is developed enough to conceive one. Teens need to understand that being an adult is far beyond being 18. That's why so many teens make reckless decisions because they feel that they are ready and they are invincible, and it's completely false. 18 or not, you still need your parents guidance because you are inexperienced in a lot of ways. That's what I'm trying to get my daughter to understand, and I will continue trying. Moms of teens, am I right or wrong?