My 18month old son sleeps in bed with me and its time for him to move to his own bed. Hes slept with me pretty much from birth and doesnt even know what his crib looks like. Any suggestions on how to start the transition process??????

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Kathryn - posted on 06/30/2013

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Help... my 18month old is kicking me out of my own bed.
He wakes from his own bed at night then insits he is to sleep with me then I have to leave when he gets in he will scream and kick me till I get out and untill then he will not settle and sleep

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Suggestions; Expect sadness at losing his snuggle buddy! Be committed! Have a regular routine. {Bath, Book, Bed} Good Luck!

Jennifer - posted on 12/17/2008

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my kids didn't sleep in my bed but when i had to transition to toddler beds from the crib i started out by letting them play there first so that it wasn't scary and then it was for naps and finally it was for bed time. Don't know if this helps??? If you put the crib right next to your bed for a while then it might not be to bad to him??

Dana - posted on 12/17/2008

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I would put him in there awake during the day and let him play in it for a few days, until he seems comfortable with it. Then, try a nap first... wait til he is asleep and move him in there. If he wakes up and gets upset, move him into bed with you. He should be able to be in there longer and longer the more he does it.

Tiffany - posted on 12/16/2008

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i would start by puttin him to sleep with you and once he is sleep put him n his bed he may cry but let him he has to get use to sleepn n his crib i hope this works

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I am weaning my 20 month old son off of co-sleeping because we have another on the way. The new one won't be making an appearance until April or May, but I decided to get a head start on it just to make sure it isn't such a recent transition that he relapses after the baby's born (we will be co-sleeping with the new little one for at least the first month).

We have enough room for his toddler bed beside ours, and after a couple of weeks of his getting used to sleeping there, he sleeps better outside of our bed. He still needs me to hold his hand until he falls asleep, and around 7am he joins us in our bed for the last couple of hours of sleeping, but I am perfectly fine with that (7am-9am I'm mostly just pretending to be asleep, more so when there's a new little one in the house) - and I really enjoy that special time with him.

We'll probably keep that arrangement for our 2-bed apartment (the master bedroom big enough to have crib, my son's bed, and ours with plenty of space to spare), and start transitioning him into a different room entirely once we get into a 3-bed apartment or house. Ultimately, none of us (husband included) are ready for that big move yet.

Kimberly - posted on 12/16/2008

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I agree with Katie's suggestion. I had a lot of trouble trying to get my son to sleep in his own bed in his room when he was 2. I did the same thing she did, but you really have to be persistent. It does hurt your feelings to hear them cry, but it's new to them.
All children are different though, so maybe you could try a few suggestions that appeal to you and see what works for your son.
I had to be like super nanny and sit outside his bedroom door and when he got up I calmly walked him to his bed, tucked him in again, kissed him goodnight, and said "goodnight, I love you, now go to sleep". This only took about a week. It took about half hour to an hour each night to put him to sleep in his own bed. If he got up in the middle of the night, I would do the same thing, calmly and quietly. I think he just wanted to make sure that I was still there for him.
Also, my oldest child slept in my bed until she was about 6, so the way I saw it with my son was the earlier the better.

Brooke - posted on 12/16/2008

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I had the same problem. I started putting him down in his crib for naps first (rocking him to sleep and then putting him down). When he got the hang of that I started putting him down at night in his crib (also rocking him to sleep first) that is in our room. I make sure there is a lovie in there with him so he doesn't feel like he is alone! When he wakes up in the middle of the night I first try soothing him without getting out of bed (talking, singing, telling him to snuggle with his "white hat", etc). If that doesn't work I help him lay back down and sing a little, if that doesn't work I rub his back, then as a last resort I rock him. It gets progressively better as he gets used to sleeping without me and being able to put himself to sleep! He now only wakes up once a night and I talk to him from the warmth of my own bed...and he puts himself back to sleep. Unfortunately we are moving in a few weeks so I have a feeling that we will start back at square one. I know it sounds like alot of steps, but I couldn't do the crying it out thing!

I am considering the toddler bed for when we move...but I don't know if that would make it worse since he wouldn't even have the familiarity of the crib???

Erica - posted on 12/16/2008

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Our twins co-slept until 22 months when they transitioned to their own beds. I wouldn't bother with a crib at this point and go straight to a bed. The first few nights, they were up and down but they are sleeping in their own beds 100%.

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Start with making his nap time in his big boy bed. Make his bed special and as comfortable as possible. Once he is settled, transition to night time. Do not cave in at night, especially at first. If he comes in at night, talk gently and lead him back to bed. Linger only as long as necessary.

Rody - posted on 12/16/2008

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We started by putting a toddler bed next to ours, then when my daughter got used to it we moved it to the foot of the bed, then across the room, then the hall, then her own room. It took about a month for the whole process, but it was worth it because there was very little trauma.

Mallory - posted on 12/16/2008

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I would suggest that you start putting him in his crib at nap time. After a week or so of nap time I would then put him in his crib at night. Don't let him see you get upset about it (you will be sad not having him there.) Try to make it fun for him, so he wants to go to sleep. Read to him while he is in his crib, or sing to him. Then just leave him. If he cries just let him be, eventually he will fall asleep. Just have patience, it may take a couple of weeks to get him used to it. It will be well worth it in the end! Good luck!

Jamie - posted on 12/16/2008

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hey Jen, Im jamie. I have a 2 yr old that was still sleeping in a crib. but my dad went out and got my daughter a big girl bed. maybe u should start to introduce ur son's crib to him and tell him this is where u start sleeping until u get a big boy bed. They have awesome Big girl and big boy beds. Does ur Son like watching Thomas the Train on Treehouse?

Pamela - posted on 12/16/2008

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I would start slowly. Adjust him little by little so the fear doesn't overcome him. Put him in the crib during naps and, if you have, put on musical toys to grab his attention. After doing that for about 3 days, try night time. You will have to stand over him for quite a bit and stroke his face or pat his back till he falls asleep but in time, that will subside and he will be putting himself to sleep, "in his crib". The musical toys works wonders though, especially the aquarium that attaches to the crib. Hope it all works out for you...sincerely, mother of 3....P.D.

Staci - posted on 12/16/2008

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try taking naps in his room. Start with both of you and then just him, then at night lay down with him for a bit so he fills comfortable and safe in his room!

June - posted on 12/16/2008

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omg how can u sleep with him in bed i remmber when u was breastfeeding in bed i was to scared to fall asleep, and if i did i cat naped, cause i was scared,

Samantha - posted on 12/16/2008

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I think u will just have 2 put him into his crib perhaps not in a different room yet he will most prob cry but just try to ignore it all thes x

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ok, please don't EVER put your kids to bed with bottles or sippy cups unless it has only water. it creates bad habbits for potty training not to mention rotting the teeth. with my daughter i got her used to her crib in the day time and made it a happy place. get your son familiar with it and possibly get a fisher-price aquarium or something similar. gradually, use the crib for nap time, then transition slowly to bed time. your child won't understand and may feel abandon if you just put him in his own bed and let him cry it out.

Jackie - posted on 12/16/2008

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I completely agree with Jennifer. Make him want to be in their. I would forgo the crib and get a toddle bed. If hes a roller you could even just start with the crib mattress on the floor. This also makes it easier to lay with him. I did this with my second child since I was "largely" pregnant with my third. I started with naps during the day for a week or so before I tried bed time. I did not close the door but I did put a baby gate up just so she wouldn't get out while I was sleeping and get hurt. Ultimately, I don't believe in letting children cry for more than a few minutes (like less than 2-3) before I go calm them. If you make it something special for him instead of it being like he is getting the boot he'll be more receptive. My daughter got my pillow and my blanket when she transitioned, and the first couple nights my husband and I stayed with her until she was asleep. It was kinda like camping. try to keep bedtime routine the same as if he is going down with you (i.e, same bedtime, same night-night song/story) just in his room. Good luck.

User - posted on 12/16/2008

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Hi I think you dont want to make his new bed & his own room a scary place. You want it to be happy, calm and somewhere he wants to be. Try starting him off by making it his (his toys etc in the bed). Then take him in there to read a story and laying with him till he falls asleep. Try to keep it calm It MUST be a nice experience. Throwing him in there crying with a locked door will make it prison-like and he will have bad feelings about it.



I kept my sons in my bed till they wanted to get out. Not good for restful sleep (especially when there are many) but great for bonding. Hope it all goes well. Just remember that he still needs you close.

Amanda - posted on 12/16/2008

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I have 2 suggestions for you that worked for me. I slept with the crib sheet for a couple nights so it had my scent on it then I slept in my daughter's room on an airbed for a week so that she could see me if she woke up and I have had no problems with her not sleeping in her bed. Hope this helps!!

Michelle - posted on 12/16/2008

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I had the same problem, and what i did was i bought a toddler bed and put it right beside my bed, so that if he woke up during the night i would be there to comfort him, plus it was a good way to get him out of my bed and into his own. Over time, (roughly 1-2 months) i moved his bed into his own room and even though we had some rough nights at first he took to his own bed in his own room.

Katie - posted on 12/16/2008

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I slept with my son until he was about 11 mo but he was a BIG 11 month old anyways, it was really hard but right before he was 1 after encouragement and support from my parents and sister I knew it needed to happen plus I got pregnaunt and my bed just wasn't big enough. I would put him in his crib (i had a radio with music) we would do a routine of bath, cleaning up toys, new diaper and then I would lay him down in his bed and give him a sippy cup of milk and he would scream in the begining for quite awhile less than one week and he fought it less and less sometimes he'd still cry for 5 mintues or so but soon enough he would just go to sleep at a set bed time. If it's really hard for you to hear him cry cause it was for me, I'd go with my husband to put him to sleep then I'd go for a walk or go work downstairs or in another room so that I didn't hear him cry and they when I would come back or finish he'd ususally be done crying and like I said it got less and less for him, no my daughter is 5 months and she only slept with me the first 2 months and it's awesome having my freedom back and I just can't sleep with her because then If my son needs me in the middle of the night I'd have to wake her up. I would encourage you NOT to lay with your baby until he/she falls asleep because then they never learn to put themselfs back to sleep in the middle of the night. My son routinely wakes up in the middle of the night he might cry for 1-2 mintues then goes back to sleep by himself. You don't want to be getting up in the middle of the night every time he wakes up. That's my advice. Good luck it can be a challenge.

Cristina - posted on 12/16/2008

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If you have a crib for him, I would place it in your room for a while. I like the idea from the previous post about having him sleep with one of your pillows or blankets...it would have your smell on it, which might make him feel closer to you. When he gets comfortable enough with sleeping in the crib in your room, then move him into his own room...

User - posted on 12/16/2008

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my son was sleeping with me and i introduced him to a toddler bed with the gaurd rails and now he is always wanting to be in his big boy bed . let him pick a special pillow blanket and toy he can cuddle with every night even if its one of ur pillows and soon enuff ull have ur bed back hope this helps..

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