My 19 month yr old daughter is still on bottles and hardley eats!!!!!

Danielle - posted on 11/05/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )




My 19 month yr old daughter still drinks bottles hardley likes the cup she always throws it down. When it comes to eating she crys for milk and wont eat shes a very picky eater and im worried. Sometimes the texture of the food shell take a bite of she likes to spit it out and refuse to eat anymore. But when it comes to snaks like cookies aka junk food shes all for it. She sometimes goes through a gallon of milk in days! I dont know what to do. Is this ok???? Please help


Sneaky - posted on 11/25/2010




One way to reduce the amount of milk she is drinking is to dilute it with water, as you increase the amount of water you add to it everyday it will start to taste different to her and she might want to give up the bottle by herself at that point. Good luck!


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My suggestions are:

Don't even have junk food in the house - or keep your special cache somewhere she doesn't know about!

Don't let her see you eating junk food.

Take her shopping and buy her a special cup, or sippy cup. Talk about it like a special present for a big girl.Let her pick it out, and make a big deal of it.

With the bottle, it might be difficult to get rid of it quickly, but can you get a teat with very small holes, so that not much gets through? I don't know much about bottles, but I guess that sort of thing is possible? The idea is to show her that it can be difficult to get milk out of a bottle.

Amanda - posted on 11/25/2010




Interesting a child who will eat junk food but not normal food, will drink from a bottle but not a cup. This isnt a child issue Danielle this is your issue, say no to junk food, say no more bottle. Your daugther will not go without when she realizes her mother will no longer give in to her.

Alison - posted on 11/25/2010




I've got a lot of points for this one...

* Try to serve meals that you know she will enjoy.
* Don't panic if she doesn't like something.
* When she spits out her food don't react - that may encourage her to do it more often
* Get rid of the bottles. She will eventually drink from the cup.
* It is normal for her to be picky at this age.

Mary - posted on 11/25/2010




i completely agree with laura, you are the mum so you decide what she has, if you let her get into the habbit of her deciding then your gonna have trouble when she older hun!
Reduce the amount of milk shes having because that will fill her up but only for a few hours. I had a simular problem and i once got told to reduce the amount of milk, then in between meals maybe have a couple of bowls around the house with raisins or some sort of fruit in so she can snack, then at dinner time cook for her what you will eat, if she eats it brilliant, if she doesnt, let her go hungry, she will eventually eat what you cook, both of my boys learnt the hard way and they are 4 and 7 now, they have a choice at dinner time, they either eat what i cook or go without, sounds horrible, but once you get them into the routine of cooking what they want, and when they want it it'll be hard to get them out of it when they are older, hope this helps you too and good luck x

Louise - posted on 11/25/2010




I agree with Laura you need to take control. My 2 year old only gets a treat after she has eatten her meal and not at any other time. My daughter does not eat alot but she knows that if she finishes her dinner she can have a small cookie. At lunch time she has a sandwich only until it is finished and then she gets fruit and yoghurt and a small peice of raisin flapjack. If she does not finish all of her sandwich she gets the fruit and yoghurt but no flapjack. It is all about compromise when feeding a toddler, it is just getting the balance right. My 2 year old also refuses point blank to drink warm milk from anything than a bottle so I will be addressing this soon. She drinks all day with a cup but will not drink milk out of it. Why I do not know. At the moment I am happy she is drinking milk so I am not to bothered it is only one bottle a day. As for your daughter if she is guzzling milk she will not have any room for food so she will just pick at it. Try and cut back a little and see if that makes any difference to her appetite.

Tracey - posted on 11/25/2010




I have the same issue with my son. The difference is that he reverted back to the bottle after I stopped breast feeding a week ago. He' s always been a small and picky eater, but now he wants nothing but milk, or the pediassure we get so he does get some nutrients. Today I will only be offering water and juice, in a sippy cup until he gets hungry enough for food. Like my doctor said, he's not going to starve's hard Danielle, I'm with you on that, I don't want to be the mom with the screaming child throwing fits all day long because he isn't getting the milk or junk he wants but we also can't have them running the show so young...good luck!

September - posted on 11/05/2010




She's probably not a big eater because she's filling up on the milk, so there is no room for the solids. I would first start by not offering junk food anymore and I would also talk to her pediatrician as soon as possible about your concerns. Good luck!

Laura - posted on 11/05/2010




You really ought to discuss your daughter's eating habits with your doctor/pediatrician; junk food does not supply a growing body with appropriate nutrients and milk alone won't supply enough either.

In the meantime, stop letting her control mealtimes--you are the parent and have full control of what she eats! Stop giving her the junk food and start offering her healthier foods. She may not be happy at first with the new selection. That's okay! Don't be worried, either, if she doesn't eat well at her mealtimes; kids WILL eat when they are hungry enough. Offer her a few healthy options on her plate/tray and let her choose. Give her 15 - 20 minutes to eat then let her go--the meal is over. Be consistent with this mealtime routine!

As for the bottle: She should be using a "sippy" cup given how old she is. I suggest taking out on a special shoppoing trip and letting her pick a new cup of her choice. Find 2 or 3 cups, line them up and ask her which one she would like. Tell her this is her new big girl cup for her to use. Then use it, even if it winds up on the floor at first. Eventually she will learn that this is what her drinks will be served in, not bottles. Again, as the parent YOU control the situation, not your daughter! Have patience (an underrated tool of parenting!), she will get this new routine IF you remain firm and consistent. She may never develop a taste for lots of different foods, but you can at least get her eating the ones that she does like. I have a 12 year old who would eat nothing but mac & cheese if I let her...but I fix the meals so she eats what I make! : ) She doesn't always like it, but she hasn't starved yet either! Hope this helps and good luck to you!

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