my 19 unwed pregnant daughter wants to go to the hospital all the time ,i am at the breaking point

Ray - posted on 10/03/2013 ( no moms have responded yet )

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ok first off my daughter lives with me again because she was literally starving at her boyfriends house.no lights no food and then found out she got pregnant.4 hospital ER trips before we could relax about her carrying the child .she is due in December /November. we went through all the you don't have to go to hospital because you are nausea and feel faint . now she is around 27 weeks an has back pain and the muscles on lower tummy hurt. she refuses to exercise an lays in bed only getting up to go to bathroom,go out with her bf,get something to eat things like that .she is in bed most of the time so I know her body is not strong enough I have tried to get her out of bed as much as I can and have explained the reasons why her doctor has as well but she just refuses and says she cant because of the pain..her doctor is informed and says she wont get anything even if she was to go to hospital.the doctor gave her acetaminophen with codeine
#3 advising that she really wants her to not take it unless it is totally necessary .the reason she did give her them is that my daughter has a mild case of scoliosis(most of her life) and a sunk in chest locate on one side under her right breast.
now having said all that i know she is hurting and the baby is low in her belly. no matter how many times i try to reassure her she constantly fights the meds an wants to go to the hospital for some kind of quick fix. Her doctor agrees with me and we both try to keep her from stressing mostly because it makes her feel worse.But it is a constant every 2 or 3 nights only wanting to go to er,I am trying to be supportive and reassuring but i am so stressed now that my chest hurts most of the time and add that my husband is so not supportive because he does not agree with her having this baby because 1 she is living off of us and 2 it is a mixed race child. I have no problem with that except the boy isn't going to support her now or after the birth and has been in trouble with law and add to that smokes weed,his family is not the best about her being another race and lets her know it. she still goes out with him but he is not allowed in my home while he is doing wrong
all of this is on me alone no one has to deal with it and i am about to blow a heart vein .there is nothing i haven't tried and have come to the conclusion that among all of them not one is willing to look and listen to what I am saying. some where along the way i got lost and no one knows it .I don't know anymore what to do to help her relax and breath through the pain and help her unborn daughter have a healthy stay in her tummy.we don't fight or anything like that but this constant battle is wearing me down

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