my 2 1/2 yr old just recently stopped wanting to go to bed.

Sara - posted on 03/25/2012 ( 11 moms have responded )

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In the last 2 weeks my 2 1/2 ye old doesn't want to go to bed. He will scream at the top of his lungs and jumps on the furniture. He wants this and that. He does everything he can to stay awake. He used to go to bed at 7:30-8 no problem but now its 10-10:30 before I can get him to bed and that includes me getting frustrated with him and yelling myself. What do I do I need to go to bed too HELP PLEASE.

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Liz - posted on 03/27/2012

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I know it has been hard and will continue to be so, but it's clear that you need to keep doing what you're doing and reinforcing a bedtime, so that he doesn't learn that all this negative behavior will reward him with what he wants.



One thing that is working with my 2 year old is telling her that if mommy asks her to clean up a toy or toys for bedtime and she doesn't do it, then that toy is removed for a week. Same thing if mommy or daddy ask her to do something and she ignores us (and it's clear that she's heard us but is deliberately tuning us out) to keep playing with something, then that something goes away. We give her a clear, simple explanation: 'Mommy asked you to clean up and you didn't listen to mommy. Because you didn't listen, your train is going away for a week."



Now we've been doing this for a while (nothing works first time or without tears of course), I can say, "This is your warning. Do you want mommy to take your train away?' She'll say 'No!' I'll say, "Then clean up. Mommy asked you to clean up and get ready for bed." She then puts her train away and goes running to her bedroom to start the bedtime routine.



Something like that may work for you, but there's no quick fix. We just have to keep reasserting the boundaries for good behaviour. Good luck!

Sara - posted on 03/26/2012

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He's become destructive. He throws his food at the table. He screams at the top of his lungs, throws things and hits u when he doesn't get his way.

Sara - posted on 03/26/2012

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I'm not letting him stay up late. He's in his room but he refuses to go to sleep. I'm going to try to put him to bed later and see what happens

Tabitha - posted on 03/26/2012

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Even if your sitter can wake him up 30 minutes earlier, it might make a difference. If not, start his bedtime routine a bit later. Try 8:30-9, he might be more tired and maybe you'll get less resistance from him. But no matter what you decide, you need to stand your ground! He can't be allowed to stay up until he wants just because it's easier.

Sara - posted on 03/26/2012

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He only takes one nap and its about 2 hours. He's at a sitter. I don't think she will cut his nap BC of theother kids. I thought about locking his toys up at night so he can't get to them. Otherwise he gets them out even if I tell him no. That's what starts the fight. That and telling him he can't have anymore to drink.

Tabitha - posted on 03/26/2012

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Dad might have to suffer just a bit while you get him back on schedule. And have him put his toys away before you start the bedtime routine. Then he'll know that he can't get them back out tonight. I agree with Jodi, maybe shortening his nap time or cutting out the 2nd one if he takes 2 naps. Let us know how things go.

Jodi - posted on 03/26/2012

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How long is he sleeping during the day? It may be that you need to cut back his daytime sleeps.

Sara - posted on 03/26/2012

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I tried to put him to bed at 8:30 last night. I started with a bath at 7:30 then sat down to watch some quiet TV. Then he started playing with his toys and when I told him he had to sit on the couch or go to his room all hell broke loose. Then it was a battle from then until 11. And I do see ur point with my temper. The more I yelled the more he yelled. But his dad is also ib the other room trying to sleep so I can't let him scream. And when I shut his door he opens it and slams it shut again. I have to figure something out .

Sara - posted on 03/26/2012

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I tried to put him to bed at 8:30 last night. I started with a bath at 7:30 then sat down to watch some quiet TV. Then he started playing with his toys and when I told him he had to sit on the couch or go to his room all hell broke loose. Then it was a battle from then until 11. And I do see ur point with my temper. The more I yelled the more he yelled. But his dad is also ib the other room trying to sleep so I can't let him scream. And when I shut his door he opens it and slams it shut again. I have to figure something out .

Tabitha - posted on 03/26/2012

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Stay firm and keep calm. Look at his bedtime routine, do you need to adjust it for more quiet time before bed? Maybe an 8-8:30 bedtime will be better. Just keep taking him back to his bed quietly. He will feed off of you if you get stressed and upset and start yelling. Just take him by the hand and put him back into bed...over and over and over. Eventually, he'll figure out that you're not giving in. Try not to get frustrated. Good luck!

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