My 2 month old wont latch on!! PLEASE HELP!

Kierston - posted on 12/26/2010 ( 19 moms have responded )

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My son is having issues latching on he falls alseep as soon as I start feeding him. I made the mistake of listening to someones advice and gave him formula a few times a day when he was a few weeks to help get him back to his birth weight and now I am having issues getting him to breastfeed. Now I get so frustrated after a while of trying to keep him awake to breastfeed that I just make a bottle for him!!



He eats a bottle great and I want to cut out the bottles and get him back to breastfeeding all the time unless I absolutely have to pump and bottle it. How can I go about this??? If I quit giving him a bottle will he get latched back on good? Someone please help!!!!!

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Meg - posted on 12/28/2010

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I had a hard time with breastfeeding.I tried lactation specialists and many things. I was not producing it fast enough and my son was notpatient enough.I finally acceppted the fact that it was not going to work. I pumped what I could and bottle ged him that. He also got formula. Today he is a happy lovig six year old.

Chelsea - posted on 12/28/2010

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i'm having a similar problem with my daughter, but i'm working on it with a few of the techniques suggested here. also, i pump if she has a bottle to keep a steady supply. i am comforted by the fact that even if she's using a bottle that she's still getting breastmilk. the though keeps me calm which is the really big deal :) goodluck!

Sarah - posted on 12/27/2010

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I used to blow on my son's face to keep him awake, and tickle the back of his neck. Have you tried holding him in a different postion, such as the foot ball hold?

I wouldn't try stretching him between feeds, as that will do nothing to build up your supply.

Anna - posted on 12/27/2010

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I had a similar problem: I couldn't get my son to latch on when we got home and caved in to the bottle. To get him back to nursing, I pumped milk and bottle fed him that to make absolutely certain he was getting breast milk. I also went out and bought a breast shield. Medela makes them, and they're little caps that cover your nipples. They're primarily for women with inverted nipples, but for babies who are more conditioned to a bottle nipple they can help them get back to nursing. It worked for my son, and by the end of two weeks he was nursing without it. They're not expensive, I believe the one I bought was about $6, and from my experience they work really well.

As far as him falling asleep is concerned, you may just have to feed him more frequently until he gets used to nursing actively.

Wendy - posted on 12/27/2010

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defanitly stop offering the bottle if you want him to go and latch on to breast....make sure he is hungry even stretch out his feeding till hungry enough...make sure when he goes for the breast his mouth is wide open before contacting the breast this will ensure he gets enough nipple to properly latch on....keeping him awake . talk to him, tickel his feet, get dad to talk to him , if still falling asleep remove him and play for a bit till he shows he is awake and hungry .....hope this helps good luck

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Kierston - posted on 12/29/2010

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Thank you everybody!!! I am trying to relax more and trying to keep him awake as many ways as possible!! Things are getting better!

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I had the same problem! I started using a nipple sheild to help my daughter latch on, and then slowly took that away. The niple sheild is nice, because it is silicone, and has a nice firm surface to help them latch. Squeeze some of your milk into the tip then offer it to him. Make sure his lips are out and you should be in business. Go see a lactation consultant! My daughter also wouldn't nurse, and we saw the speech therapist and did some lip & cheek exercises and they did the trick. She wasn't strong enough to pull off the brest at first, so he *could* be lazy, but nursing is hard work for baby! Relax, use a warm/cool wash cloth to wake him up, rub his cheeks, feet, and strip him to his diaper only. There are lots of great resources out there, most often times your doctor has a list of lactation specialists in your area. YOU ARE NOT ALONE! I took for granted that nursing would just come naturally for both of us, and it didn't. My daughter didn't start nursing until she was 2 months old, and I'm a mother of low milk supply. You're doing a great job! Don't give up! Reach out to those around you, and I guarentee that you'll get the help you need! You can purchase nipple shields at target, otherwise your dr or lactation consultants will give them to you for free. ALSO- if you are using playtex vent air bottles, turn it upside down... it will make him work harder at the bottle so the bottle is no longer the easy way out ;) Blessings & good luck!!

Callie - posted on 12/28/2010

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This just came to me so I thought I would add. If you're having a hard time keeping him latched long enough to let down (my daughter was impatient) you can put a warm wash cloth on your chest. The heat will help you let down faster. Also if you've ever done yoga, you could use some of those breathing techniques to help yourself relax (nursing and let down is difficult when your tense). When I was tense I would focus on relaxing and as soon as I started to feel relaxed I would feel my letdown. Hope you've received some advice that has helped.

Lise - posted on 12/28/2010

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I agree to stop the bottle, but find another way to feed her (you don't want her to be super hungry - that can/will be counterproductive). http://www.kellymom.com/bf/pumping/alter...

Do you have a pump? Babies with bottles can get frustrated by a slow flow, so you could pump until milk starts to flow and then latch baby on.

Check out kellymom.com - huge amounts of advice (and forum.kellymom.net).

Michelle - posted on 12/28/2010

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I know it is really tough... but stop the bottle as much as possible simply because babies get lazy when it is so easy to get milk from a bottle. Nursing is a lot more work for them. I am nursing my third baby currently and because she was jaundice I had to give her an ounce of formula three times a day in addition to nursing until my milk came in. I was so worried we would have this problem too... luckily my milk came in REALLY quickly after having her. Skin on skin, tickling his back, his neck, his feet, blowing on his neck, a cool semi-damp washcloth... anything to keep him awake. I'd also suggest reaching out to a lactation consultant if you can. There are many hospitals that offer their help and his pediatrician may be of great assistance with this as well. Ours helped with our firstborn tremendously!!! Good luck-I wish you the best!!!

Angela - posted on 12/27/2010

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Hi Kiersten. My daughter would fall asleep during a feeding all the time. I usually changed her diaper to wake her up and sometimes that helped. I know you're frustrated and he'll feel that tension. My advice is to try to relax when you go to feed. It may take some time for him to readjust to the breast, but he'll catch on. Have patience. I'm praying for you.

Wendy - posted on 12/27/2010

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I only ment streching out the first time ladies to make sure he is hungry enough to go for the breast....after that i agree with you when hungry feed.......she stated she was having trouble getting him to brestfeed......with all this wonderful advice how can you go wrong.....lol i wish i had this network when my kids were little.....good luck

Callie - posted on 12/27/2010

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Also stretching between feeds can make him so hungry that he becomes upset and won't latch. Try nursing at the first signs of hunger (ie routing and sucking on his hands)

Lynn - posted on 12/27/2010

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First off all STOP PANICING, stress is one of the main factors,if you get your self in a panic so will baby,you transfer all your feeling to your son.I was unable to breastfeed my First baby and I thought I was the worst mother in the world.If I was you I would quit all bottle feedings and when he is hungry he will take the breast,(hopefully) try squeezing some of your milk on to your nipple first so he smells it maybe then he may latch on,but don't forget even if you have to pump then bottle feed.You can hand him to your husband to feed while you take a nap.And you will still be a good mother and you will be calmer

Stifler's - posted on 12/27/2010

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my grandma reckons grandad used to have to tickle my dad's feet to get him to stay awake and finish the feed.

Amy - posted on 12/27/2010

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I would stop offering the bottle till you get him back to breastfeeding if that's what you want. My daughter is 9 months and goes back and forth from breast/bottle because I work full time, but at that age she only was offered a bottle once a day usually in the middle of the night by my husband.
Make sure everytime you do offer a bottle you are pumping otherwise you will lose your supply because your body will think there is no demand. As far as keeping baby awake that was my husbands job with ny daughter when she was little. He would undress her, rub her back, tickle her feet, and if all else failed we used a wet washcloth. The group of breastfeeding moms on here is full of great information and willing to offer their help and support.

Callie - posted on 12/26/2010

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I had problems with my daughter falling asleep while nursing when she was really young. What I did to help wake her up was to unswaddle (at night) and I would wiggle or rub her back ( vigorous enough to wake her but not startle/scare). It was enough to wake her and keep her nursing till she was full. Sometimes during the day I would talk to her while she nursed to keep her awake. As far as the bottle, he know that you'll give him one and its so much easier. He's being lazy. I would think if you just stop the bottles and have him nurse everytime he wants to eat he'll eventually nurse till he's full. It could take a while though. You can always talk to a lactation consultant (La Leche League is a good place to find one). Also there is a breastfeeding group on CoM and those ladies have great advice as well (I think there are a few lactation constants on there as well). Good Luck!

Kate CP - posted on 12/26/2010

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I would contact a lactation consultant. Are you in the US, Europe, Canada, or Australia?

Tyrae - posted on 12/26/2010

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Have you tried doing skin to skin while breastfeeding? It keeps them more alert and awake longer for the feeding.

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