My 2 year old gets mad at the ipad??

Brandi - posted on 01/18/2016 ( 20 moms have responded )

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So my 2 year old boy Noah, gets soo mad if he accidently clicks on an ad when he's playing with his ipad. Sometimes he will throw it across the room (if he does this then I take it away from him) and other times he will just scream as loud as he can out of anger. If I try to help him, he goes absolutely nuts! and will flail his arms and legs around and throw himself on the floor while screaming the entire time...after throwing his ipad. I just don't know what to do and it makes me not want to give him his ipad anymore. It really helps him with his motor skills but he's in the stage of wanting to do EVERYTHING by himself and he just gets angry very easily. : ( can anyone help?? What should I do??

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Ev - posted on 01/18/2016

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Its not a matter of doing wrong or not, Brandi, its a matter of getting the kids to do other things than play with tech all the time. At the age of two it is reccommended that a child this age not be exposed to too much of TV or tech devices and allowed to explore the world around him or her. I have 20 plus years experience with working with kids of all ages in different environments from Sunday School/Church and preschool. I have also studied the effects of early childhood where tech and such is concerned. Put it up for the both of them and let them explore their world for a change.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 01/18/2016

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"What should I do"???

For starters, quit allowing a 2 YO to use a device that isn't age appropriate for him.
Next, stop trying to "equalize" between older and younger siblings. Different ages get to do different things. Its not that hard to explain to either kid. Mine were 3 years apart. The younger DID NOT get things at the same time the oldest did. We got the oldest a laptop when he was 13. The youngest did not get a laptop when he was 10...he had to
wait until he was the same age his brother had been. THAT is how you make it "fair" between siblings of different ages. Yeah, you have to explain it each time, but seriously...

Here's an example: You decide that your eldest, who is 18, has demonstrated responsibility enough to warrant you purchasing a car. Are you then going to run right out and purchase ANOTHER car to give to your 15 YO, just to make it FAIR???? Or are you going to tell the 15 YO to wait until he's 18, because his brother didn't get a car at the age of 15? THAT would be fair. After all, you didn't give the oldest whatever privilege until the was of an appropriate age, correct?

Here's another thing: It's been proven that screen time at the age of two is detrimental to development. So, WHAT DO YOU DO??? You get rid of the electronics. Make those kids play outdoors, or do a challenging activity such as those puzzles you say they have...

Bottom line? In my opinion, a 2 YO is WAY too young to have an ipad. Get rid of it.

Dove - posted on 01/18/2016

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Stop letting your 2 year old play w/ an iPad. Electronics of this type (or any type really) are inappropriate for a 2 year old. Playing w/ a ball, doing puzzles, coloring, etc... are all activities that are good for motor skills and they are more appropriate for toddlers.

Ev - posted on 01/18/2016

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He really does not need an iPad at this age. He needs all sorts of toys and things he can manipulate with his hands, needs as much time in a large area to run and play and climb for those motor skills, books to read and look at, access to colors and paper to draw on, one on one time with you. iPads are a tool and not the end all to getting motor skills learned. It can not get his gross motor skills worked on as he sits and touches a screen. It can only do so much for eye/hand coordination. It can not meet all those needs. Time to put the ipad up for a long time. Let him play with other things.

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Sarah - posted on 01/21/2016

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There are many other ways to develop his fine motor skills. Technology is great but is not a necessary part of raising a child. The majority of us managed just fine with notebooks, tablets, smart phones etc. Find a different reward for him than an expensive electronic device.
On the issue of his behavior, this is very common two year old antics. They want to do things by themselves and have low threshold for frustration. There is no reasoning with a toddler in a tantrum. you just let him burn it out. many toys or tasks will frustrate him, zipping his coat, assembling a puzzle, stacking blocks. That's why kids' toys are so durable.!

~♥Little Miss - posted on 01/19/2016

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How about not letting him use the Ipad at all until he is a bit older? They are very expensive and really aren't childrens toys. There are great age appropriate devices that help them learn, count, draw, and the alphabet. I must have 3 of them at home.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 01/19/2016

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Or, look at it this way: Throwing the ipad is inappropriate behaviour. Consequence? No more ipad.

Jodi - posted on 01/19/2016

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So just don't give him the iPad anymore. Simple.

And no, the iPad does NOT help with motor skills, particularly the fine motor skills he needs to develop to enable him to draw and write.

And I haven't read the other comments yet. But seriously, just don't give him the iPad if he can't control himself.

Dove - posted on 01/18/2016

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So true Shawnn. The boy is 6 years younger than his sisters and it is really hard on him... and I do feel bad for how he feels (especially since there are two of them and only one of him), but I just have to keep explaining it to him over and over and over again. Frustrating for us both, for sure, but such is life.

Raye - posted on 01/18/2016

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Electronic screens, particularly interactive ones (as opposed to passive ones, like television), increase dopamine in the reward center of the brain. Dopamine is known as the brain's "feel good" chemical, but is also related to stress, addiction, anxiety, mood, and affects attention. Dopamine in excess can lead to psychotic symptoms--voices, delusions, paranoia, or confusion. Many children, even teenagers, have experienced these negative effects of electronic devices. Parents should always set limits for their usage.

Parents who allow their kids to use electronic devices should do so wisely and have the child engage in learning via the devices, not just trying to get them to shut up for 5 minutes while you can do housework. And the electronic devices should never be a substitute for personal interaction and three-dimensional learning of the real world.

I also agree with Dove saying that life isn't always "fair". But between siblings, and especially when one is older than the other, there may be things that are "fair" but not "equal". Yes, it can be "fair" for an older brother to get to use the ipad, and not the toddler. My daughter is on a "fairness" kick, and I keep telling her that her and her brother will have different experiences because of their age, their gender, and any number of other things. She will get to do many things before her brother will, and maybe he'll be involved in different activities than she was at his age, so many things are probably not going to be equal. But somewhere she's picked up that if it doesn't benefit her, then it's not "fair". Too bad. Life isn't always fair.

Dove - posted on 01/18/2016

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No one assumed anything... I do not believe electronics of this type are appropriate for a 2 year old. I never have, I never will.... even if you said it was 5 minutes a week I wouldn't agree w/ it.

Maybe that's because I've been taking care of kids since long before these devices were in existence though.

If he is behaving inappropriately w/ anything... he needs to not have it until he can. if you told me he was chucking puzzle pieces at his brother's head... I'd tell you not to let him play w/ puzzles for a while as well. Quit getting hung up on the fact that you want to let him on the iPad and pay attention to the advice and the reasons behind it....

As for him throwing a fit... walk away and ignore him as long as he's not hurting himself or anyone else.

Ev - posted on 01/18/2016

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I answered your question. And since they have all the other toys and things, focus on that instead of the tech. Its more important than an iPad anyhow. If my kids had issue like this the toy or tech disappeared.

Brandi - posted on 01/18/2016

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Sorry I would like to give them a bit of a reward 2 hours a week. Stop just assuming things people.

Dove - posted on 01/18/2016

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WHAT SHOULD I DO?

Not let a 2 year old on an iPad.

How is that not answering your question....??????

Brandi - posted on 01/18/2016

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And also BOTH OF MY BOYS have tons and tons of toys, books, puzzles, etc!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Dove - posted on 01/18/2016

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And lol... life isn't fair. If someone can not handle something appropriately... they don't get it. That's not being mean. That's being a parent. If you try and make things 'fair' all the time... you will drive yourself insane.

If they are twins... neither one should be on an iPad... If the brother is older... well, trying to keep things 'fair' between a toddler and an older child is a 100% impossibility because you will always be being 'unfair' to one or the other because they are not on equal ground.

Brandi - posted on 01/18/2016

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I posted this in need of help with my problem. You're all acting like he's on it 24/hours 7days/week. He is not. He's on his ipad maybe a total of 2 hours per week!!!! I know I didn't specify. But seriously none answered my question.

Brandi - posted on 01/18/2016

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And I'm not taking the ipad away from his brother who has done nothing wrong........

Brandi - posted on 01/18/2016

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It wouldn'the be fair to him if his brother got an iPad and he didn't. That would be very mean.......x

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