My 2 year old hoarder!

Brenna - posted on 03/29/2011 ( 218 moms have responded )

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I have a little girl about to turn 2 on April 30th. She sleeps in a toddler bed and goes to bed at 7or 8pm-ish and wakes around 7am-ish. She usually sleeps through the night once in a while waking up.



The problem is she likes to put everything in her bed after we leave her. I mean everything; Books, clothes, baskets, toys, blankets, shoes...everything and anything she can get her hands on! She even uses her desk chair to climb up and take things off of dressers and shelves. Once she has it all in her bed she gets in and sleeps. Each morning we have to dig her out of the overflowing rubble. I’m not sure why she is doing this and I’m a bit worried. Any ideas on why or how we can get her to stop??



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Hi, some of you are asking for answers to your questions. I did answer as many as I could but I think the answers are lost in the comments so I thought it best to put them here with the start:

My husband and I are happily married with 4 kids (Girl 18, Boy 16, Boy who will be 4 April 30 and Kat "The Monkey" who will be 2 on April 30) none of our other kids did this…she is only looked after by family members so no outside stress or anxiety as the reason in that regard. She had been in her big girl bed for about 6 months before she started this so I don’t think it’s due to new bed anxiety. When we put her to bed we give her one bear and her binky and she goes to bed without fuss. She is getting up in the night to load up her bed. She takes a 1-2 hour nap during the day with no fuss and does not do this during her nap. Her speech is a bit delayed but we chalked it up to her being a preemie. She says: Mom, Dad, Bug, Book, No-way, me & “Coming” clearly. She also uses another 5 or 6 words in heavy baby talk ( Jute for juice, Peees for please etc.) but she is open to try and repeat what you say if you ask her to. She very seldom has meltdowns and has a very silly personality. She is also going through some major teething. (Only had 4 teeth until just before this started now 4 are coming in at once!). We have tried a night light and playing soft music. She has been adding things to her bed for about a week or two now. She does not bring food to her bed and we have removed her chair and any hard things she could put in her bed. but she has started to leave her room and pile things around her on the couch in the pitch dark down stairs and then just sits and waits for us to find her in the morning. We don’t act angry when we find her but I do tell her I am very worried when she leaves her room and try to encourage her to go to find mommy and daddy (Our door is open at night and next to hers) We have tried several baby proof door handle devices but she is a ninja and gets out. We are now trying to tie her outside door knob to the railing in front of her door for a few days until she realizes she can’t get out. I hate the idea of tying or locking her in (Even for a short time) but I think it would be more dangerous for her to roam the house at night while we slept. Yes she climbs over baby gates too! LOL (I know, not funny, but big picture funny) Thank you to everyone, It is very comforting to hear this is a normal 2 year old thing that others have also experienced with their kids…I hope with time it will run it’s course and I will be on to scratching my head on the next thing this little monkey does :)





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MaryEllen you are a genius! I never though that she could be doing this in her sleep! My 16 year old did amazing things in his sleep (Still does occasionally). He would roam the house, make food, sit in front of the TV and laugh but the TV was off. He even once took out all of my canned food and made a castle on the kitchen floor with silverware balanced on top! We found him sleeping in closets, cupboards and even on the dining room table. We could have full on conversations with him and he would even start talking to a third person who was not there adding them to the conversation LOL. Thankfully he never left the house (We installed high locks) they said he would grow out of it and for the most part he did by age 9. It never dawned on me that she might be doing this too because the doctor said it was a rare thing for him to do this and no one else in our immediate or extended family ever did it. I guess I have a new direction to explore with this little one, thank you! And thank you to all the well-wishers and supporters :)

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I HOPE you have taken some good pictures! goodness at least she doesn't come to your bed and bring all her stuff in the middle of the night and YOU wake up SURROUNDED! hahaha.... seriously though i know you are looking for advice but i think you've gotten some good encouragement and reminders that kids are the BEST at doing what works. NEVER punish a coping mechanism - in fact you should REWARD her for figuring it out on her own - she needed comfort and safety while sleeping alone in her room in a big girl bed at such a young age (i know the whole i'm gonna crawl outta my bed at a year old type quite well :-)) and she figured it out on her own - that is really a sign of INTELLIGENCE and RESILIENCE. most kids scream for mama or daddy or come to mom and dad's room in the middle of the night over and over and over.... not your kid - she developed her own mechanism and one day she'll be done with it because she won't need it anymore!

Tansy - posted on 03/30/2011

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Your little girl is not hoarding, she is protecting not only her things but herself... Those items that are in her room are precious and dear to her, she feels a comfort in them. at her age it is not really going to be easy to communicate that this is not the thing to do, but what you can try is, ask her not too, make it her idea not to put the items in her bed. Ask her why? ask her questions there is a reason in her little mind as to why she is doing it. does she have to share items? Is there something that has changed in the family, moved, parent changed rolls, even grandparent? other siblings where she sees something go and not ccme back, even it does come back, it is past her attention span of 12 hours.
She may be doing this to make sure her items do not leave, that maybe they are even protecting her to not leave, make a space for everything in her room, and make a special place on her bed where she can put 5 items one night and the next night she can change them if she wants, I think once she realizes the other items are still there in the morning it will make difference. don't reprimand the adventure she is having, but explore the reasons why, she very well may be having seperation anxiety and this is her only way to communicate that to you.

JuLeah - posted on 03/29/2011

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Simple, she sleeps better with her things around her. I am house sitting right now and was not sleeping well, even though the bed is comfortable. I came home and got my pillow yesterday and slept well last night. It's a comfort thing and she will out grow it, or not. She is not a horder, BTW. That is a symptom of a mental illness. She has simply found a way to comfort herself while sleeping. She might, as she grows transition to 'just stuffed animals' but I have seen kids with so many in the bed I question if there is room for them :) The thing you wanna keep in mind is this: she is sleeping thorugh the night. Don't look too close in this gift horse's mouth

Louise - posted on 03/29/2011

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You wont get her to stop you need to put these things in boxes with lids that she can not take off. Ask her at bed time what she would like to have in her bed. One teddy, one book or whatever. Then put her to bed and hope for the best. lol

Carolyn - posted on 03/29/2011

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maybe try a body pillow, or an oversizes stuffed animal that can help consume some of the room in her bed and make her feel secure with ? you might less in her bed in the morning.

definitely sounds like a comfort thing.

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Christina - posted on 04/07/2011

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Wow!!! I thought my child was the only one. I even tried to google it. I have never seen anything like it. I have 4 kids and my 4 yr. old just starting doing this. I have to admit I thought it a bit funny at first. Took some pictures for a keepsake. But then it just got obnoxious and weird. She would litterly pull everything into her bed. Picture frames, lamps, dirty clothes & shoes that were out in the hall. Once she emptied her entire dresser full of clothes. That's when I lost it. I don't have time for the amount of clean up she makes in one night. I tried making her clean it all up but yeah did not have much luck. She cleaned up just as a 4 yr. old would. This has been very frustrating because she has now started hoarding things up onto her brothers bed in the night. I finally cleared out her room of everything except her favorites (stuffed animals, blankies, ect....) I also had to put a lock on her door to keep her from going and getting things from other areas of the house. She has always been an amazing sleeper so I am puzzled to why she would start this at almost 5 yrs. of age. I cannot tell you how comforting it is to hear that other children do this. I really thought my child was developing some weird disorder of some sort. I am so open to any suggestions.

Jessica - posted on 04/07/2011

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Sounds like my daughter! She is 7 years old and sleeps with books, animals, small toys.. she even keeps stuff under her pillow. I think it started when she was a baby and my husband had this nightly routine with her where he would make all her little animals dance around the crib then jump into it. She would laugh and look forward to bedtime just for this. All the animals have names and it's impossible to throw anything out. I think she has given her things personality and feelings. I remember doing the same thing as a kid, I hated letting any of my stuffed animals fall on the floor because I thought they would be hurt. I bet your daughter associates these things with time valued spent with you. She probably likes having the books you read to her and the toys you cuddle to her with her at night for comfort. The only suggestion I have for you is to make deals wit her. For instance, my daughter loves finding things. First it was flowers and rocks and now it's trash that has potential. The last time we were at the park she found a whistle and a little flashlight. The deal was, the whistle was in someone's mouth, so that's trash, but if the flashlight worked she could keep it. She also found a ripped up bunny outside and the deal was, if it could be salvaged, she could keep it. Luckily for me, it could not be fixed. I did notice when she took it home, she was said to it, Don't worry, we're going to fix you up. i don't even know if I'm doing the right thing! Good luck with your 2 year old hoarder!

Lori - posted on 04/07/2011

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lol.. you've got a ninja.. lol

I'll tell you what we had to do with my oldest.. We reversed his door knob so it locked from the outside in the hallway.



Took about 2 weeks before he stopped trying to break out of his room in the middle of the night. But once he found out he couldn't get out he stopped trying.



Oh and I mentioned the haircut because Caitlyn (my child who does this same exact thing) Was stashing kids scissors in her room as well... In the middle of the night she would get up and cut her brothers hair. I was finding clumps of hair all over their rooms. When I scolded her and she started hiding the clumps of hair under her mattress.



I finally had to lock the scissors in my fireproof safe at night. So we finally got her past the hair cutting. The stacks of stuff in her bed at night is just not worth the fight.



I know what she's doing.. she's getting up and playing with all this stuff in the middle of the night until she falls asleep.

Jessica - posted on 04/07/2011

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MY son will be 2 on April 30th- and he is the opposite- he throws everything in the garbage... we have tried to explain to him that it is not good to throw everything in the garbage...

Debora - posted on 04/07/2011

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For sure Danielle is joking, the kid has not done anything to deserve punishment. Don't worry Brenna, it's just a phase just make sure whatever she puts in the bed cannot harm her in any way. I agree with those who think its a comfort thing. My kids use to drive me nuts every night because they would crawl into our bed, they broke the habit when they were about 5/6. Humans are just remarkable and unique.

Angela - posted on 04/07/2011

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My daughter would get up and get a couple thingsin the night but she laready had like 5 or 6 "baby" blankets in her bed. Now she doesn't get up but I think it is because she now likes to sleep in the sleeping bag she got for Christmas. And then she want one blanket over it. No issues of her getting up at night any more. Hope you get it figured out.

Christina - posted on 04/07/2011

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does that with bath time. you just have to be gentle but stern and teach what belongs where and when its appropriate to use them. he would want to bring books and car magazines in the tub with him and i just told him in a way he would understand that if he brought books in the tubby with him he'd give them a booboo and they would have to go in the trash can. a couple of times using that he stopped bringing them upstairs at bath time. hope this helps with your 2 year old hoarder.

Aditi - posted on 04/07/2011

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How do i view my own answer without going through other's...cant seem to find the way to get straight to my answer, in the process of finding mine from 200 + replies, i accidentally rated someones answers with a - sing! sorry whoever that is... still finding my way!

Lorie - posted on 04/07/2011

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A suggestion about baby gates: since your daughter can climb over the ones made for babies, perhaps you should look at the ones made for big dogs. They're quite a bit taller and you can get them with only vertical rails that would make it more challenging to climb over. They're also available with a pass-through gate that can be latched so doggie noses (and toddler fingers) can't unlatch them, but at the same time they can be easily opened in case of emergency.

Anastasia - posted on 04/07/2011

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I have a three year old and he doesnt like change at all. I have realized that if I want to change curtains or move furniture I need to do it when he is not at home. I have noticed that many kids hate change they truly believe that all their toys are special and if they see you taking stuff away it is really hard for them to watch. When I donated my kids toys I waited till he was sleeping and I went through his toys it is the best way. I believe your daught might be sleep walking. I would clear the room as much as possible, remove the chair and only leave soft items. I would do this when someone takes her for a walk or out to the store though. I would also lock her in her room the risk of falling is too great. My son sleeps with a closed door because I would not want him to be walking around.

Lovely - posted on 04/07/2011

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Omj my son is the same way. He see me putting his stuff in bags to give away and he will take it out and say NO NO NO. I took his high chair (something he stop sitting in a very long time ago) to a lady that live in my building and he literally fell out like i took his soul away. I thought i was the only one having this problem thank you sooooooooo very much for posting this. Im almost in tears because i thought i was alone.

Pepita - posted on 04/07/2011

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I have a 12 year old, 10 year old and 5 year old. All of them go through stages of wanting quite weird and seemingly uncomfortable things in their bed. Every now and then we have a clean out and my husband and I giggle over what we find in their beds. We try and impose limits but if they are comfy and getting enough sleep its really not a big deal. Perhaps if you let her choose a number of things she may not feel the urge to get so many. Perhaps you might like to reevaluate the bedtime routine you use and see if you need to slightly change anything to suit her better. Have you thought about letting her share a room with her 4 year old brother for a while?

Erin - posted on 04/06/2011

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I just want to say that I totally understand your concern. I thought it was a little rude that so many people made a joke of it. It is funny and cute, but if it were my child, I would probably be a little worried, too. Not that I'm trying to worry you more, I'm just saying it's easy to laugh about when it's not your child. I think bringing it up to the doctor (not rushing to the phone in the middle of the night) at your next well visit would be sufficient. I'm sure he or she will let you know whether it could by an underlying issue. Also- is it possible that your older child takes toys away from her throughout the day and she's dreaming about it? And then sleepwalking in her dreams to bring her toys back to her?
Good luck :) Hope you are feeling better about this!

Jonna - posted on 04/06/2011

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Try setting up a video camera in her room and see if you can catch her doing anything interesting that might give you some clues! Maybe that will help you figure out why or when she's doing it! Hope that helps some with your 2 year old hoarder!!

Jessica - posted on 04/06/2011

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if my child did that i honestly would take everything out of her room and lock it up somewhere else and tell her that its not safe for her to be doing that cause she can suffocate from all that stuff being on top of her like that and you are only thinking of her safety.when she can show you that she is improving start giving one toy or thing back at a time but if she starts again take it away but you will have to keep doing that till she gets the hint. maybe even start talking about giving some of her toys away to the children who don't have any and are poor. you might go through a couple of ruff nights and maybe ruff day but keep her occupied with other activities like being out side and reading books. but if you are going to break her of this break it now before it gets worse later on in her life and then you will have a real problem on your hands. good luck with your two year old hoarder.

Jenny - posted on 04/06/2011

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My 5 year old son is the same way! It started at 2, and has been an issue even to this day. He always has to have a bag full of stuff anytime we leave. As far as the bed issue, I found a little hanging plastic basket that I attached to his toddler bed. I told him that he can only have enough stuff to put in the basket, but only one stuffed animal in the bed with him. It worked. Now, I have to warn him ahead of time before we leave, to pick only 2 things to take, otherwise, he'll have a melt-down. Giving him choices works!

Heidi - posted on 04/06/2011

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Mine does it too. I would probably take the chair out of her room, so she can't climb. But other than that, not much to do. I do make my 28 month old DD help me clean everything up before she can leave her room in the morning or at naptime. One day 5 time outs were involved in the process, but she is learning.

Brandy - posted on 04/06/2011

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I totally know what you are talking about. My oldest did the same exact thing. She did this until she was about 3 or so. I really would not worry about it too much. I think it is more comforting for them in some way or another lol. I know it seems weird, but I promise you it's not and it will eventually stop. Some kids like to sleep with one lovie and blanket and others like to sleep with lots. If you really dont want her sleeping with that much stuff you might have to take some of the stuff out of her room, but I really wouldn't worry about it. :D

Tracey - posted on 04/06/2011

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sounds like you have a very entertaining household!!!! I used to sleep walk but never did any of those amazing things but I have a friend who used to tie her son's bedroom door closed so he couldn't wander through the house at night. it's funny for someone so young to be doing it. I have no advice really was just intrigued by your story! :)

Lily - posted on 04/06/2011

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Both my kids loved to hoarde stuff in their bed at that age. I've never given it a second thought. They like the comfort of having their stuff around them. I think young kids also have a concern that everyone stays up and plays after they go to bed so they want to make sure they have all the good stuff so no one can play with their favorite things in the night. I'm sure your little one will outgrow it.

Brenda - posted on 04/06/2011

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My son did this, I would go in to check in on him and the lights would be on and he would have all his toys in bed with him and he would even have his boots on. I never said anything to him I would just take all the toys out of the bed once he was a sleep and cover him up, and turn out the main lights. After a while he just quit doing it. It will pass.

Valerie - posted on 04/06/2011

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My son was that way with his toys and stuffed animals until just recently and he is 13 lol. They do out grow it if you give them time. He finally about a month ago went through and packed up on his own a bunch of his stuffed animals and set them in a bag in the garage. I say if its not hurting anything dont worry too much about it now. She is only 2

Mary - posted on 04/06/2011

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My grandson used to do that too. I just let him go with it for a while and he eventually got over it. I think it's a security thing because he started it shortly after moving to a toddler bed. It is kind of hard to see them sleeping like that though. lol Kind of like ET in the pile of toys!

Carol - posted on 04/06/2011

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You need to be firm with her what you should do is give her one toy to sleep with and put all the rest of her toys in a locked toy box, take all of her books and put them on high book shelves on her walls. Also take and figure out a way to lock her clothes in the closet and if you have a chest of drawers for her clothes figure out how to lock the drawers and also take the chair away from her until she is older if you leave the chair in her room she might fall off of it some night and break an arm, leg or worse, She can be taught that it is a no no to have all of the stuff in her room. Also mom she could easily suffacate on a toy or clothes, or a blanket if you don't stop her now.

Tosha - posted on 04/06/2011

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It's normal for kids to go through a hoarding phase. My daughter used to hide toys in her sleeper. I'd go to change her diaper and there would be an avalanche of toys as soon as I unzipped it. When you get her up in the morning, does she seem rested or like she's been up all night? If she is still getting plenty of rest, I wouldn't worry too much. Just make sure there's nothing she can get to that could hurt her and write it down in her baby book to reminisce about when she's older.

Bette - posted on 04/06/2011

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as I said...breen to the Psych doctor...no problems..gets A's and B's in school and is the most out-going kid I have ever met...and having worked at BENHAVEN school for the severly autistic and brain-damaged in New Haven, Ct in the 70's, I believe I would have no trouble identifying the sihns...but thanks

Mary - posted on 04/06/2011

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maybe you should put her to bed a little later so she is very tired and will go right to sleep I dont think it is a problem but just to you . Have you tried to have her put the things back her self and explain to her these things don't belong in the bed she dose and her favorite doll or stuffed animal . I always found the best thing to do was talk to your child she may get tired of having to put the things back or she may be sleep walking who knows why children do the things they do . I don't think she is a hoarder some children do things out of need for approval or just attention .

Lisa - posted on 04/06/2011

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Aloha Brenna! My eldest was a sleep walker and talker - as was I as achild (and even a bit into adulthood!) and my hubby. Yes, sopunds like a possibility your sweetie pie is sleep walking and gathering all her "friends" for a party while she sleeps. I would consider placing high locks on all doors leading to areas that might be dangerous for her to get into - if she can't reach the lock and there's nothing nearby for her to climb on, she's less likely to get it open. I would also consider a baby monitor in her room - then you'll hear her when she gets up and might be able to confirm whether she's sleep walking. Blessings to you! Lisa M

Lisa - posted on 04/06/2011

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My daughter is 4 and loves to take all of her things to bed with her. This usually includes dolls, stuffed animals, special blankets or pillows, favorite toys, and once or twice even her jewelry box. She does it because she feels these things are special and important to her and they comfort her at night. We just let her. Sometimes if her bed is overflowing, I'll go in and take some stuff off after she's fallen asleep or if she's gone to sleep with something like say her jewelry box I'll take that out. Otherwise I figure she's outgrow it. And it does go in spurts. You should see when she's in one of those "everything I love has to be with me" phases and goes to spend the night at grandma's. Last time she packed 6 cloth grocery bags plus her backpack!! :)

Bette - posted on 04/06/2011

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I gave up trying to get my 10 y/o granddaughter to sleep alone. She has had trauma from birth from a messed up mom...indifferent dad and a murderous step-mom, so you might think she has a real problem with anxiety....but ...she has lived with us for 6 years, did therapy for 4 and the psych doctor said...leave her alone. Like so many kids today...she wants friends and the baskets,books, frying pans etc...may be from another make-believe place. Ok. She makes very good to great grades, is well liked, has no problems with sleep-overs...here or elsewhere...so...we leave her alone. don't know if this helps, but since we have confirmation from a doctor,, I thought I would add my two cents

Adriana - posted on 04/06/2011

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My daughter had a sleeping disorder when she was younger (until the age of four the most she could sleep was 3-5 hours at a given time). Though it is very different, I can't help but wonder if you employ some of the same tactics perhaps it may help.>>1>2>3>4

Brooke - posted on 04/06/2011

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My 3 yo has done this since she was in a toddler bed too. I don't see anything abnormal about it. I have heard of many other toddlers doing this. I think that my daughter just likes to have an abundance of comfort items to sleep with. It may also have to do with the new found ability to explore the room and retrieve items she likes on her own. She also will bond with really small and what we would consider strange comfort items such as a small fabric heart and a brightly colored pencil eraser topper. When she was younger, I was concerned about her putting them in her mouth and choking on them, but now she is older, it is just more of an inconvenience because she will lose them in the middle of the night and cry for me to find them for her. We have started having her leave these items on her night stand, and she has been good about leaving them there since we threaten to take them away if she doesn't. I think that she is satisfied just knowing they are within arm's reach. She also liked to sleep with her books. She would "read" them before bed and would not put them back. She would wake up in the morning or after a nap in a pile of books! This has tapered off now. I think that she has realized that it is not comfortable sleeping in a pile of books. I didn't mind the habit because she was entertaining herself. i believe it is just a phase that children will outgrow.

Tracie - posted on 04/06/2011

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We went through this with both our 3 year old and 4 year old! I would let the phase pass, but I would take the chair out of her room and reinforce that we NEVER climb on things! It will eliminate a lot of things she can get too as well!

Jessica - posted on 04/06/2011

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It sounds like she is insecure I would try and move her into your room for a while that way she won't feel alone or make sure she is extremely tired before you put her to bed that way she may be to tired to get up. My daughter who is now turning 7 had this problem somewhat and all I did was put her in my room and when she turned 3 I started transioning her into her own room and she was fine after that.

Michelle - posted on 04/06/2011

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I just wanted to let you know that my 2 yr old daughter also does this too. I am not sure why but she does. She also changes her clothes at some point in the night. There is a lock on her closet door but she has figured it out. I think that it is just a comfort thing that they may go through. I wouldn't be too concerned about it. Eventually it should go away.

Jennifer - posted on 04/06/2011

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My son is now 5 1/2 and still has a bed full of his treasures. He started when he was young with stuffed animals and blankets and sometimes will bring a toy or a book. As long as there is nothing that could hurt him I didn't have a problem with it. I'm still not sure how he fit in the bed but it worked for him. He still will sit on the couch or floor surrounded by his favorite things. Their world is very little and those are the things that mean the most to them, besides mom and dad or course. Take pictures, it will bring a good chuckle years from now.

Lori - posted on 04/06/2011

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Oh and put anything super special on a low shelf to reduce the climbing she is going to do to get to it! Like don't store favorite blankets on the top shelf of her closet. Don't give her any reason to go after something way up high.. (that will reduce your stress level until she gets bored with this)

I had one kid that figured out how to unlock my front door and would get out of the house.. So you may want to get a key dead bolt.. Don't worry like everything else this too shall pass. Remember the bigger they get the harder the problems.. Enjoy this one while you can. It will make for great stories when she gets bigger.. :)

Lori - posted on 04/06/2011

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It will stop when she is good and ready... The fact is she's in a big girl bed and has the freedom to get up and do this. To her it's the coolest thing in the world to be able to get up without Mom taking her out of the crib. She can get to all her favorite stuff at any time. (I have 4 been through this a couple times) Took all their stuff out of the room and they moved onto their dressers and emptied those out. lol... Just a word from the wise make sure your scissors are locked up or you may wake up with a hair cut... :)

Elly - posted on 04/06/2011

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What a situation! Yeah it could be sleep walking...but it could be an attention stage. I was going to mention putting bells on her door, or a small alarm that will signal in your room. (we did this with a young foster child who always left his room, so he couldn't 'sneak' out ;)) If shes not sleeping it might be enough of a reminder to go back to bed and if not you can as least know when shes getting up and can guide her back with out the rest of the house with her!
Kids love to throw tricky situations at us!
Good luck!

Liberty - posted on 04/06/2011

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My 2.5 year old does this as well on occasion, though she asks for toys and we put them in bed with her. She doesn't do it every night, and I think she's starting to grow out of it. By morning, most of the toys are on the floor. Other than worrying that I'd stumble if I needed to get to her over night, I don't worry about it too much.

Aditi - posted on 04/06/2011

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Hi!!! I guess most of us have gone through with this at some point or the other. My daughter who is now 5.5 still sleeps with a mickey mouse ...
One fun way to deal with this is to make a bed for all the toys she likes to keep on her bed. make a bed or a house out of a box, recycleable material and keep it next to her bed and tell her that her toys need to sleep too in their own bed/box and keep them next to her bedside instead with her on her bed...we have done this for my daughter and it worked..a bit animated and funny but kids like fantasy and role play and after that my daughter would put all her toys on this make shift toy bed and sleep with just one toy each night ....that way all her toys get a turn to sleep with her.....
good luck!

Diane - posted on 04/06/2011

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Hahaha, I am glad other parents are experiencing this as well, my twins do it and have since they were about 11/2, now three, it has grown less in the last year but in the beginning it was anything, even my magazines, feather duster, dish towels. I let them do it, when they are asleep I take out anything that could potentially harm them, and put them on the floor next to the bed. Now it is just a few books and stuffed toys, I take the books out when they are asleep. They out grow it and it does not do any harm, it makes them happy and they sleep right through the night.

Sonya - posted on 04/06/2011

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I read your Story and i wondered is it the wieght of all these things that comforts her. My son was the same but he liked the weight. So i got a wieghted blanket. He hasn't done it since. So you could try a wieghted blanket too. Hope this helps :0)

Natasha - posted on 04/05/2011

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My son used to do this when he was younger. He is 5 now. He would throw everything in his bed, clothes, hangers, shoes, toy cars, stuffed animals, you name it, if it was in his room, it ended up in his bed. It got so bad that we had to put a lock on his closet and lock all his toys up. He seems to be better now but we still keep his closet locked (only at night times though). He as ADHD, and a non specified mood disorder (maybe even Bipolar) . One dr did consider maybe that he has some type of attachment disorder but ruled it out.Don't want to scare you, your lil one might be just perfect. Right now he only sleeps with his blanket and 1 puppy but will cover his face with a sheet. It should get better. I would suggest maybe doing the same by putting everything away and only having a few toys out and with time start putting those toys you packed away back in sight. I do think it's a good idea to let her pediatrican know about that. Get things documented, wouldn't hurt. good luck

Donna - posted on 04/05/2011

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I don't think I would let her fill her bed but a few things isn't going to hurt anything as long as there are no shoe laces or things that could wrap around her neck. At some point she will find her bed more comfortable without all the stuff in it and won't want it there. If you make a big deal out of it you will just have a big power stuggle on your hands.

Maggie - posted on 04/05/2011

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Oh.....funny but i think it's normal - my now 5year old used to do the same - load all her stuff in bed including a minnie mouse umbrella etc.....such that in the morning you just thank God that she is well. The amazing thing is that ever since her small sister (turning 2 on April 14th) joined her in the room - they now share a room though the little one is still in her cot - she has completely stopped loading the bed. So i think they just do it for comfort.....fear of the unknown of having to sleep in a whole bedroom alone when dad n mum are sharing a room - LOL! Nowdays she has no problem with the door being closed but when she was all alone she never wanted the door closed ever.

So just take heart - she will out grow it.

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maybe she just likes her all of her stuff, my daughter won't let me throw any of her stuff away and she is almost 3, although she does not sleep with them, it can't leave the house!!! So maybe you should put some of her stuff up in her closet and the things you will allow her to sleep with, let her put that stuff in her bed, in other words limit the things she can have and put the rest away..... when she's not looking of course. I tried to get rid of some of my daughters things and she had a fit, so now i do it when she is in daycare. Hope this helps

Jessica - posted on 04/07/2011

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Sounds like my daughter! She is 7 years old and sleeps with books, animals, small toys.. she even keeps stuff under her pillow. I think it started when she was a baby and my husband had this nightly routine with her where he would make all her little animals dance around the crib then jump into it. She would laugh and look forward to bedtime just for this. All the animals have names and it's impossible to throw anything out. I think she has given her things personality and feelings. I remember doing the same thing as a kid, I hated letting any of my stuffed animals fall on the floor because I thought they would be hurt. I bet your daughter associates these things with time valued spent with you. She probably likes having the books you read to her and the toys you cuddle to her with her at night for comfort. The only suggestion I have for you is to make deals wit her. For instance, my daughter loves finding things. First it was flowers and rocks and now it's trash that has potential. The last time we were at the park she found a whistle and a little flashlight. The deal was, the whistle was in someone's mouth, so that's trash, but if the flashlight worked she could keep it. She also found a ripped up bunny outside and the deal was, if it could be salvaged, she could keep it. Luckily for me, it could not be fixed. I did notice when she took it home, she was said to it, Don't worry, we're going to fix you up. i don't even know if I'm doing the right thing! Good luck with your 2 year old hoarder!

Christina - posted on 04/07/2011

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does that with bath time. you just have to be gentle but stern and teach what belongs where and when its appropriate to use them. he would want to bring books and car magazines in the tub with him and i just told him in a way he would understand that if he brought books in the tubby with him he'd give them a booboo and they would have to go in the trash can. a couple of times using that he stopped bringing them upstairs at bath time. hope this helps with your 2 year old hoarder.

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Try setting up a video camera in her room and see if you can catch her doing anything interesting that might give you some clues! Maybe that will help you figure out why or when she's doing it! Hope that helps some with your 2 year old hoarder!!

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if my child did that i honestly would take everything out of her room and lock it up somewhere else and tell her that its not safe for her to be doing that cause she can suffocate from all that stuff being on top of her like that and you are only thinking of her safety.when she can show you that she is improving start giving one toy or thing back at a time but if she starts again take it away but you will have to keep doing that till she gets the hint. maybe even start talking about giving some of her toys away to the children who don't have any and are poor. you might go through a couple of ruff nights and maybe ruff day but keep her occupied with other activities like being out side and reading books. but if you are going to break her of this break it now before it gets worse later on in her life and then you will have a real problem on your hands. good luck with your two year old hoarder.

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