My 2 year old shows me no love help please

Victoria - posted on 07/30/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I am finding everything so hard lately my daughter who is 2 will not cuddle me or kiss me she tells me to go away and hits me :( i feel like a failure as a parent i love her so much and that is why im so sad she is sometimes cuddly with her dad and other people and when i see that it hurts so much please does anybody know what i can do to get her to act lovingly towards me i see other girls her age give their mummy's cuddles and say i love you and it really does break my heart because i want that to be me

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 07/30/2011

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Good point Neva, I totally forgot she said the daughter was hitting. That most definitely MUST be addressed! Also, it is a power issue for sure! Kids seek out whatever control they can get. They get like this when they start potty training also. They have control over their body's in this manner, and they will not potty train if they are not ready, or don't want to.

Neva - posted on 07/30/2011

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I agree with Marina. 2 year olds are exerting independence, and it can almost become a game, especially if they see that they have the "power" to make you feel sad. In no way should she be allowed to hit you. If she does, then she needs a firm "no hitting" and put her in time-out. Children this age need to have consistent limits. When she knows that you have limits for her, are consistent, then she will develop more respect for you and will seek out more cuddles.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 07/30/2011

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Awe Victoria, I am sure that you are a great mom! You obviously care. I know my son (who is 5 now) went through a similiar stage. He would want everyone BUT me. And it hurt, cause I am the one who spent the most time with him. Then, a light went off, I was spending TOO much time with him. If you can take a couple of hours to yourself here and there (especially if you are a stay at home mom) to get away from one another....that can help. Or have her spend the night at a grandparents house? That is a good way for her to miss you a little bit. She will eventually grow out of it, and be right back to it in her teenage years...LOL...but don't force yourself on her...that only will make it worse.

I wish you the best of luck! *hugs*

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