My 2 year old son won't go to sleep on his own...

Marnie - posted on 02/08/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )




My son is 26 months old and usually goes to bed on his own just fine. But for the past week he has been continually getting up out of his bed and room, sometimes even opening the curtains, and wont go to sleep unless myself or his dad fall asleep with him. We have done so for the past few nights as it gets so late we just want him to go to sleep. I realise this was probably the wrong thing to do, but we dont know what else to do!! Can anyone please help us with any ideas about how to get him to go off to sleep on his own again??? I would LOVE any advice we could get.

I guess an important point to mention is that we have had another baby who is 4 weeks old. Im not sure if thats a factor or not but thought it would be useful to mention.


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Marnie - posted on 02/09/2011




Thank you all so much for your help and taking the time to respond to my please for advise =)
I completely know that i have to regain control of the sleeping situation and i will try the 'no talking, putting back in to bed' approach. Ive seen this done on Supernanny too i think =) I will let you know how it all goes. Fingers crossed!

Tonya - posted on 02/09/2011




I've just discovered 'the no-cry sleep solution' by Elizabeth Pantley. I haven't gotten to read it yet, but it can't hurt! My almost 5 yr old has a 9 wk old baby brother, and started having sleep problems right away. It probably doesn't help them knowing baby gets to be with mom and dad while they have to stay in their room. Good luck!

Bridget - posted on 02/09/2011




Hi Marnie, my little man goes through stages when he refuses to fall asleep on his own - he has always fallen asleep on his own from 5 months of age, unless he is teething or sick. Even now at 20 months he suddenly won't sleep - he had croup over the weekend so waking up coughing and screaming has made him wary of going to sleep. I do the gradual retreat process - for 2 nights I lay beside the cot until he falls asleep, then the next 2 nights I sit further away, then the next 2 I just stand inside the doorway and then I stand outside the door and then he doesn't need me there anymore (until the next time he is sick or we go away or change his routine - typical bub).
Good luck with whatever you try - each bub is different and responds to different methods so keep trying and before you know it your little one will be sleeping on his own again!

Louise - posted on 02/09/2011




I am afraid you are going to have to get tough on him and put him back to bed every time he gets up. At the moment he is being rewarded by 100% attention from mum and dad so he will continue to do this. If he keeps coming out of his room then place a gate on his door. Tell him at bedtime that he is not to get up because mummy and daddy need their sleep in their own bed. Tell him that mummy wants to sleep in her bed and he is a big boy and he needs to sleep in his bed. When he gets up place him back to bed and tell him again about where people sleep. When he gets up again do not talk to him just put him back to bed and let him moan ( I know this is difficult as all you want is sleep with your new born) when he gets up again put him straight back to bed and try to keep this up it is a battle of wills! At the moment your son has control of the sleeping situation and you need to gain control. When he does go to sleep give him a big cuddle in the morning and tell him how nice it was to sleep in your own bed and make a big thing of being a big boy. When he sleeps for a couple of nights on his own make a big fuss and take him to the park or somewhere he likes to go to reinforce how pleased you are with him.

He is probably feeling a little pushed out with the new baby so the secret is make him feel important like let him help with the baby by fetching nappies and wipes for you. If you make him feel like the big boy in the day he will thrive on the fact that he can sleep through the night not like his baby sister/brother.

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