My 2 year old son won't talk at all! :(

Alyssa - posted on 09/08/2014 ( 11 moms have responded )

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(This will be such a long description, sorry :/) Hi everyone! My son is 2 years and 4 months old and he still doesn't talk. He won't even say things such as mama or dada. I did notice, however, that he babbles a lot. He makes a lot of noises too and sometimes it seems as if he's speaking to himself or even the tv in his own kind of language. He was seeing a speech therapist and she was coming here once a week for about an hour and a half. I just cancelled with her recently because nothing she did was working. I may end up calling her back though in a few months if he still isn't talking by then. He has not been diagnosed with autism but he hasn't been officially checked for that. I have been told by a lot of friends/family to get his hearing checked which should be happening at his next doctors appt (in november). Something else he does which seems odd is he puts his hands on his ears. At first I thought it was because things were loud but then I started noticing him doing it a lot, even when noises weren't loud. Some tell me it's normal and that he's just a kid testing out how things sound when his ears are covered, while others tell me that he may be doing that because he has some sort of blockage and maybe he needs tubes in his ears or something. I am also very guilty of giving him things; which is a problem that I'm still working on. What I mean is, if he is hungry, he will walk to a bag of snacks or something and bring them to me, and he knows I will open them for him. Or when he's sleepy, he will grab his blanket. I almost always know what he wants just by what he does. So I know part of the problem is me not making him ask for things etc. Any tips on what to do for that? Because I had mentioned to the speech therapist that people have suggested me to not give him something unless he asks or says what it is, but she told me not to do that because it's too harsh for the child. She also told me not to use flashcards, lets him watch cartoons even if they're educational, and not to teach him to count because he doesn't need that right now. So I'm sort of at a loss. I'm a young mom (20) and I'm just not so sure what to do anymore. Someone else had even told me that his speech delay could be because of me since I'm so young... but I've been trying really hard to help him. He isn't around kids much, there's not many in my neighborhood that are his age. So I do plan on taking him to playgrounds a lot more and also to a library where they have a special room for kids up to age 5. It's like a little town and lots of kids go there. I took him once and he was so overwhelmed by all of the things there so at first he just ran around, scoping out the place. I noticed that he really liked building blocks with kids, but the quieter kids. I definitely plan on taking him there more often so that he's around kids. I don't want to put him in daycare because quite frankly, I don't trust daycares these days. Especially in my neighborhood, I've heard awful things. Also, what if something bad were to happen to him there and he wouldn't be able to tell me because he can't talk? I wasn't planning on even putting him into school until he was about 4, whereas the speech therapist recommended putting him in school at age 3. (Which I don't agree with, so I'm not doing that.) The weird part is that he seems to understand everything we say and does what we tell him; he's smart. But he just won't talk and I get more worried each day. :/ Any advice or tips would be helpful and very much appreciated.

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Layyah - posted on 01/20/2015

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Hi guys - I need some urgent guidance!! My son is 2 and 3 months and doesn't not say one word or one association - speech therapy isn't doing anything and is vey expensive! He does things that bother me and a lot more lately as he doesn't respond to his own name!he has however not been assessed as autistic - pls tell me if you feel that there is anything I should try!!

J - posted on 03/13/2015

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Hey there, my baby brother is 2 and he doesn't talk AT ALL!!!! I read this and thought about him because we are in a big family (5 kids and my mom and stepdad) so there's always someone just ready to hand Jonah anything at anytime.. Joan hands us his diaper bag when he wants his sippy and he hands us the cookie container stuff like that... so I'm thinking maybe we just enable him not to speak because he knows we will just give it to him as soon as he wants it. I'm wondering how your son is doing now? Is he 3?? Does he talk? I'm trying to not give Jonah what he wants as soon as he wants it.. I'm trying to make him use his words. I just really want to know what's up with him.

Sarah - posted on 09/08/2014

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Talk to your child doctor. Call your local school and ask about AEA (area education agency). AEA offers free hearing tests and speech evaluations. Then if they find that there are issues they will offer treatment or speech therapy or both for free. 2 yrs old is the perfect age to get connected with them. By time a child reaches 3 yrs old there are certain services they no longer can get due to their age. You really need to keep with the speech therapy and follow their suggestions. Sometimes as parents we do hinder our kids learning.....we don't require them to say the word for what they want instead a point or a noise will do. Sometimes putting a child in preschool is the best speech therapy. Kids often times learn faster and pick up language better when around other kids. Teachers are also trained in their area as well. An early childhood teacher is going to have schooling on how kids learn and how to teach certain things.....this has nothing to do with age more just their profession. I often times turn to early childhood teachers and special needs teachers with questions (no matter if they are 25 or 45 yrs old)....I am 39 yrs old. I am a firm believer in address a delay or an issue early as this helps with success and not furthering the delay or issue. But there are also some kids that just are late talkers. There is no real issue or delay just that the child is not ready to talk. I do think that sticking with the speech therapy and having his hearing tested is a good idea no matter what. I would also suggest having his hearing tested more then just once and over a period of time. I once had a little boy in my care that at the age of 2 yrs old was having speech issues. Hearing was tested by a hearing specialist at 2 yrs of age. Specialist said no hearing problems.....speech evaluation indicated a delay and speech therapy was started. At the age of 5 yrs old hearing was retested and a hearing loss was detected and he got hearing aids. Imagine how much better life would have been for him if he had gotten those hearing aids at 2 yrs old.

Priyanka - posted on 09/08/2014

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hiii alysaa my son who is also 2 year and3 month old don't talk much.. he can only speak few words... and many words are not clear... so don't worry about that.. i also took my son for hearing test.. and it was fine. through one home test you can check your child hearing.. call him from back. call his name from seven to eight step back..make sure call him from back side not from front side ,if he turns around then he must not have any serious hearing problem....talk to him as much as you can...keep repeating a word again n again..play with him and call the name of toys ...don't change the way of talking... if he try to say ma then always try to say ma is giving you food.. don't change the word ma or don't call it mmama or mummy etc... hope every thing gonna be fine.. keep patience.....

Debbie - posted on 09/08/2014

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Hi Alyssa, my name is Debbie. I am a mom of 3 (1 mine and 2 step sons, but they feel like they're mine) and a "mawmaw" to 8 grand babes, from 17 down to newborn Aug 19th.
My daughter did the same thing your son is doing until she was about 3-31/2. Like you said, she understood everything we said and I was guilty of "knowing" what she wanted and not making her express it in words.
I am also an RN, but I must say, most of my experience was in geri-psych. So I worked with patients who were elderly and had some sort of dementia or mental health issues.
I would read to him every night. Then afterwards, see how much he understands. Asking him questions that could be answered with "yes or no." Does he shake his head now if he wants to respond this way? "No" I don't want that or "yes" I do, for example? You could do this after each page or after each event on the page. "That's a really big red dog. Do you like dogs?" Keeping it simple to see how he does.
I know you said ST said "not to withhold items as it would be too harsh," but maybe you could try giving him the first cookie or snack (for instance) when he brings it to you and then hold up the second one and ask him to say "cookie" before you give it to him. I did this with my daughter. Really, I just had to make her talk and ask because I was making it too easy for her not to speak. Granted, this was after knowing there was no hearing or health issue that would prevent her from speaking.
I'm not sure I agree with the ST saying not to teach the letters or numbers and such as I would think learning any/all of it would be useful. If he likes the blocks, having the ones with the alphabet on them and saying the letters as he stacks them and trying to have him repeat it would help him. Or even the colors of the letters.
We homeschool our grandson, my daughters son, and he too started to speak "late." She actually had a ST come to work with him also, but really he didn't speak until he was ready, almost 3 y/o. I don't believe anything she did made that process faster. With John, we just kept talking to him, reading to him and encouraging him to verbally ask for what he wanted and express himself. Both of them clearly understood everything going on around them and neither of them were diagnosed with any developmental issues. Although, John does have a processing delay. Which was just recently diagnosed. It has more to do with how quickly he does things verses whether or not he understands them.
Have you stood out of his range of sight and called him to come to you? Or made a loud sound to see if he responds to the noise? Even just standing behind him and clapping to see if he responds might give you some relief knowing he can hear you. if he does react.
I am curious, not to be too nosey, but what has the Dr. said about it? When he goes for his shots or check ups do they seem concerned about a delay or some type of learning or developmental disability?
Speaking to the Dr. about your concerns and asking for his advise would be my best suggestion. You can always read to him, talk to him and encourage him to speak back to you, as this will be helpful as he grows up.

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Kim - posted on 07/21/2017

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PS.....SPEECH THERAPY IS A MUST!!! EVERYDAY YOU WORK THE EXERCISES WITH HIM THAT SHE DOES....HE WILL NEED THIS SUPPORT CONTINUED IN SCHOOL!! HIS READING ABILITY WILL BE SLOW, PLEASE KEEP IT GOING!!!

Kim - posted on 07/21/2017

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He should have a hearing test done right away as well as a visit with a neurologist. Speech therapy will be beneficial for him and the schools have that as part of services that will provide him continued support through high school if necessary. If he is showing social anxiety or isn't comfortable interacting with other children, an evaluation for Aspergers Syndrome may be an idea. Make or get him some picture flashcards and work one on one with basics and tape some on routine places in the home...one on fridge says "juice" "milk", "drawer" "spoon", etc., and each time he points or babbles what he wants, ask him to say what the word is to where he's pointing, etc...hang in there. :)

Mallory - posted on 07/21/2017

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Hi Alyssa, it's been a few years but I was hoping you could tell me how your sons speech has progressed. I'm currently in the same situation u we're in with my 2 year old. He sounds exactly the same even covering his hears some times and testing out sounds. He has no siblings and never any play dates, he points to things or brings me things he wants. I also stopped speech therapy because I feel it wasn't helping at all and just making me anxious about the whole situation.

Regina - posted on 01/28/2016

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Hey there! We recently adopted a child about a year ago, she is pushing two years old and is the exact same way. I have three grown children none of which ever had this problem. We always laugh and say our children are brought into this world talking. I've tried everything I can think of my little one just wont turn loose and talk she will however do sign language. Of course the first one she learned was passy. But that's kind of hard to keep up with you have to make a conscious effort to teach it to her and you can always teach to everyone around she certainly has his vocals for talking because she doesn't least say uh oh, mama on occasion and loves to call the cats and dogs name. Not to mention that occasional I'm almost to and I'm practicing tantrum.

Sassyvixen20082002 - posted on 11/03/2015

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This is so freaky because thats c exactly what I'm dealing with with my 2 year old. He turned two in June and still won't talk. I have two older kids who didn't have this problem

Mia - posted on 09/08/2014

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My son said his first words at 6 months- "Wa Baba" for "Want Bottle"- and then he didn't say much of anything until he was nearly two- then he was busting out three to four word sentences. I spoke to him a lot, even if he didn't answer- saying the names for everything and talking to him in normal English, not baby talk. It's good that your son is making sounds and trying to mimic what he hears.
All kids are different, so it's hard to say if he has an issue, or is just a late bloomer. Socialization is important- and it doesn't have to be preschool- any place that has kids around will do for starters, like the local playground or if he has cousins around his age. You could also try reading to him and see if he can imitate some of the words. It might be a good idea to get a second opinion from another speech therapist and take him to your pediatrician for a hearing test. My cousins had ear issues (required tubes) and had speech impediments, but I don't think speech was delayed. They all went to speech therapists and eventually worked through their speech issues.

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