Alyssa - posted on 09/08/2014 ( 8 moms have responded )
(This will be such a long description, sorry :/) Hi everyone! My son is 2 years and 4 months old and he still doesn't talk. He won't even say things such as mama or dada. I did notice, however, that he babbles a lot. He makes a lot of noises too and sometimes it seems as if he's speaking to himself or even the tv in his own kind of language. He was seeing a speech therapist and she was coming here once a week for about an hour and a half. I just cancelled with her recently because nothing she did was working. I may end up calling her back though in a few months if he still isn't talking by then. He has not been diagnosed with autism but he hasn't been officially checked for that. I have been told by a lot of friends/family to get his hearing checked which should be happening at his next doctors appt (in november). Something else he does which seems odd is he puts his hands on his ears. At first I thought it was because things were loud but then I started noticing him doing it a lot, even when noises weren't loud. Some tell me it's normal and that he's just a kid testing out how things sound when his ears are covered, while others tell me that he may be doing that because he has some sort of blockage and maybe he needs tubes in his ears or something. I am also very guilty of giving him things; which is a problem that I'm still working on. What I mean is, if he is hungry, he will walk to a bag of snacks or something and bring them to me, and he knows I will open them for him. Or when he's sleepy, he will grab his blanket. I almost always know what he wants just by what he does. So I know part of the problem is me not making him ask for things etc. Any tips on what to do for that? Because I had mentioned to the speech therapist that people have suggested me to not give him something unless he asks or says what it is, but she told me not to do that because it's too harsh for the child. She also told me not to use flashcards, lets him watch cartoons even if they're educational, and not to teach him to count because he doesn't need that right now. So I'm sort of at a loss. I'm a young mom (20) and I'm just not so sure what to do anymore. Someone else had even told me that his speech delay could be because of me since I'm so young... but I've been trying really hard to help him. He isn't around kids much, there's not many in my neighborhood that are his age. So I do plan on taking him to playgrounds a lot more and also to a library where they have a special room for kids up to age 5. It's like a little town and lots of kids go there. I took him once and he was so overwhelmed by all of the things there so at first he just ran around, scoping out the place. I noticed that he really liked building blocks with kids, but the quieter kids. I definitely plan on taking him there more often so that he's around kids. I don't want to put him in daycare because quite frankly, I don't trust daycares these days. Especially in my neighborhood, I've heard awful things. Also, what if something bad were to happen to him there and he wouldn't be able to tell me because he can't talk? I wasn't planning on even putting him into school until he was about 4, whereas the speech therapist recommended putting him in school at age 3. (Which I don't agree with, so I'm not doing that.) The weird part is that he seems to understand everything we say and does what we tell him; he's smart. But he just won't talk and I get more worried each day. :/ Any advice or tips would be helpful and very much appreciated.