My 2 yr old son doesn't communicate at all

Olympia - posted on 04/26/2016 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Hi, I'm new to forums. I decided to join because I feel stuck and hopeless at this point. I've literally tried everything I could think of, looked up, and what professionals have advised me to do. Most days my son screams at the top of his lungs, hits me, throws things, and now gets very angry when I can't get him what he needs/wants because he can't or won't communicate.
My son in the past has said words. Like yes, no, mama, dada, this and stinky boy. He has only said these words ONCE, except he used to say "this" all the time but randomly stopped. But in the last year he hasn't even attempted to say any words at all. He does say "uh oh" "woah" and "wow". He is supposed to see a speech therapist, however they aren't responding to my messages so now I'm here. He's very smart, he understand everything we say and follows directions very well. And he has had his hearing checked. I also know a decent amount of ASL (American Sign Language) and have tried relentlessly to teach him it but the only sign he will do is "more" and that's very frustrating because all he does is that sign and I have no clue what he wants "more" of.
I'm in desperate need of help and advice. I'm a single mom, I don't work so I'm with him all the time except the weekends when he's with his dad. I'm at my breaking point. I can't watch him do this anymore. It breaks my heart and at the same time frustrates me to no end because he IS very smart and theres nothing disabling him from communicating with me. If any of you can help me, please do.
NOTE* his father lives with his grandma, she's on board with everything I do, and she's going to get him on board too. Hopefully us all working as a team will help out more.

Thank you!

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Dove - posted on 04/26/2016

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If he is supposed to see a speech therapist has he been evaluated by Easter Seals? If they aren't responding to your messages have your child's doctor get in contact w/ them.

Evelyn has good points and advice.

Ev - posted on 04/26/2016

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}}My son in the past has said words. Like yes, no, mama, dada, this and stinky boy. He has only said these words ONCE, except he used to say "this" all the time but randomly stopped. But in the last year he hasn't even attempted to say any words at all. He does say "uh oh" "woah" and "wow".}}
~~~First, he is only two years old. And if he is understanding you and will do some things you ask him to do he is fine. He might be one of those kids that does not talk a lot and that is normal too.
}} He is supposed to see a speech therapist, however they aren't responding to my messages so now I'm here. He's very smart, he understand everything we say and follows directions very well. And he has had his hearing checked.}}
~~~Thhere you said he understands and follows directions which leads me to believe he is pretty much normal for his age. You can not expect a 2 year old to spout out more than two to three word sentences anyway. If his hearing is fine and he is understanding things you say he is on the right track. Just because he does not meet a milestone on that age does not mean he has any issues. Also those milestones are just an average doctors use to see where a child is at. If your son was not talking at all and did not pay attention to you or seem to get what you said or followed directions I would be concerned then. Since he is doing that, he is fine.
}} I also know a decent amount of ASL (American Sign Language) and have tried relentlessly to teach him it but the only sign he will do is "more" and that's very frustrating because all he does is that sign and I have no clue what he wants "more" of.}}
~~~It is great you know ASL but when he does the more sign you need to ask him more of what he wants and have him show you. Then say the words for the things he points at. This will help him learn new words and reinforce what he does know. Also you can make him tell you what he wants. Do not use just ASL to teach him to talk or he will likely depend on that to talk instead of with his voice. Also when you see colors on objects mention it like "did you see that blue car?" Give him some options there.
}}I'm in desperate need of help and advice. I'm a single mom, I don't work so I'm with him all the time except the weekends when he's with his dad. I'm at my breaking point. I can't watch him do this anymore. It breaks my heart and at the same time frustrates me to no end because he IS very smart and theres nothing disabling him from communicating with me. If any of you can help me, please do. }}
~~~You need to start working with him more and more like I mentioned above. If you do have him evaluated for Speech let them know your concerns because all the information you give can help them determine if he really needs extra attention for this or not.
{{NOTE* his father lives with his grandma, she's on board with everything I do, and she's going to get him on board too. Hopefully us all working as a team will help out more. }}
~~~This NOTE is the best part of this post because I do not see it often when a mom has a issue like this she is worried about with her child or children. If you guys are on friendly terms and can work this out with three of you--all the more power to ya as they say.

My advice is just to work with him on saying what objects are, pointing them out and asking him questions about them including colors, numbers, or other descriptive words, also make him try to say it more, read to him a lot, sing songs, play music (helps brain development), do not use too much TV time or screen time on tech devices, play pretend with him like house or something he likes, get him books with lots of pictures and small words under them that says what the picture is like an animal book that shows an animal and has what the word name is under it. Anything will help him learn to speak more so. But as I said, a lot of kids are not really talkers and does not mean there is anything wrong. My son was 3.5 before he was really understood in his talking. He jabbered a lot up to that point and he did know a lot of words but never put them to sentences much. He is 19 years old and working a job and saving money. He also was diagnosed later in years with an Autism Sprectrum issue. He graduated from high school with above a 3.0.

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