my 20 month old son not talking yet

Nina - posted on 07/06/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Hi there moms! I have a 20 month old son who cannot talk yet. It worries me alot. Every day and night i keep on researching about the possible reasons of my son's developmental delays but cant find exactly whats happening to my son. He can say dad but pronounces it as deyd. He can say bababa. He cant even call me mama! Everyones saying he should be speaking phrases by his age and should be able to communicate his needs and wants but he simply cant. I was frustrated, worried since he is my first child and only one. I didnt know what to do. He can understand what i am saying so does it mean that he doesnt have a hearing problem? I have read some possible reasons of speech delay like hearing problems and autism. Im scared that my son has more serious problem than i ever imagined. Please help. Thanks.

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Ev - posted on 07/07/2013

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Sarah-she said he heard and did as she asked of him. I do know for a fact that kids this age are not supposed to be talking in phrases and sentences. I also know that boys are slower in development than girls. I work with kids like what you describe all the time. It is normal for a 20 month old to say a few words and babble the rest. Its not until betwen 2 and 3 that they do develop more speech patterns.

Sarah - posted on 07/06/2013

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I used to baby sit a little boy that had some speech problems. I was doing the same thing you are....researching online. It was really hard because no one was acknowledging the delay, so they were not doing anything about it. Then when they started to try to get help they were either given the answer that boys take longer to talk or pushed aside. I learned from trying to research is that speech delay is VERY confusing. You go in circles trying to figure out what is wrong with your child and get no where. I would suggest that if you are in the US have him evaluated by AEA (area education association).....you can find them through your local school. They will do a free evaluation of speech, hearing, neurological, and other areas. If they find a delay or a problem then the next step may also be free. It is a free service, but sometimes that means they are not very fast on getting things set up.....so keep on them. Call often and push to get things set up.

The little boy I watched ended up with hearing loss and a delay in speech processing. It took the parents seeing multiple doctors and the AEA to find out what was going on. They had first started with a hearing specialist. The specialist was the one that gave the answer that everything was fine and boys tend to talk later. It was not until 2 years later did they find out that yes he does have hearing loss and needs a hearing aid. So if you feel there is something wrong......keep pushing for answers! I learned that no one is going to care more about your child then you do. So you have to push for the help your child needs.

Ev - posted on 07/06/2013

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Okay take a breath and calm down.

1) He is a baby still. A toddler. This means he knows some words he can say but he is not ready for phrases as yet. He will do a lot of babbling mixed with real words. And, yes it is normal for a young child to understand what you say and they will do that thing because they have heard it enough times.

2) If you have concerns talk to his doctor. The doc can help you find resources to test for your concerns.

3) He sounds normal to me for his age.

NOTE: MY son was about three before he could say three word sentences and it is not uncommon for boys to be a bit behind in development because they mature at a different rate than girls. My son did have learning issues in school but he got help and he is doing fine. He is wanting to be a mechanic when he gets out of high school.

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