My 20 months old son showing me autism signs

Bhawana - posted on 08/27/2013 ( 12 moms have responded )

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I m really worried about my 20 months old son..who is not talking,is having only 10-15 words.he makes a very good eye contact,he does point sometimes to the things he wants and sometimes he would put his hand towards what he wants,he does show me things intersted to him by pointing and does lot of babbling that i dont understand.he listens to his name fr about 70-80 percent,he smiles when smiled at,he does play with his older brother but now for last 1week i m noticing that he tries to stay aloof n sometimes he would just take his favourite toy n sit in a different area of the room or leave for the other room n close d door.he doesnot like playing with other kids at park or library.Just two days ago i saw him walking on tip toe for 3-4seconds and then today for 2seconds..he loves to be with adults..he would go and approach others n n smile or do hi five or seek for attention by falling down on grass and will move back his head to see if any adult(including me) is looking at him or not..he can show me many of his body parts.and responds well.i went to check with paedtrition..she asked us to start speech therapy,n due to long wait in our area.i m taking private speech therapy once a week with not much improvement.n paedtrition was also talking about autism but is not sure at this timeby looking at him and no screening in our area can be done before he turns 2,acc to her...but i m still confused that is he autistic or i m just too worried.can anyone pls suggest...

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Kim - posted on 08/30/2013

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Well, We started the therapy at 18 months. We started with simple sign language to get them engaged with communicating. They said a few words at this point, but only enough to count on one hand and not very clear. It took about a year for them to really start talking, so at 2 1/2.

While seeing the speech pathologist at the school, she mentioned that one of my boys was showing signs of a spectrum disorder. She said he had a hard time sitting still and understanding social cues. He also had some hand flapping. But during our home therapy, the specialists never thought the hand flapping was an issue. He would just flap his arms when he got excited or talked. When he tried to get words out, he would make a lot of body movements. I actually haven't seen him do this in a while. They are both talking very well now, their vocabulary is amazing. Some words still unclear.

My best advice is to be patient. Get as many opinions as you need, do your research, and don't let anyone talk you into anything you don't "feel" is right. There are many tools speech therapist can use to help children talk, sign language, picture boards, tablets etc. Just keep talking and reading to him.

Kim - posted on 08/29/2013

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I have twin boys and I was concerned with their development when they were 18 months. I reached out to an early intervention program in my state called "birth to 3". They evaluated them and they qualified for services. They did not talk, didn't point and were behind on other developmental milestones. We had an teacher and speech therapist come to my home once a week. When they turned 3, they were referred to the public school system and received speech therapy with a speech pathologist. Maybe you need to increase his speech therapy. Or try sign language to encourage communication. (that's how we started) Now they are 3 1/2 and right no track and starting pre school next week. Get your son evaluated by a professional and don't panic! If you need more resources, contact the public school system in your area and maybe they will be able to help.

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Bhawana - posted on 08/30/2013

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Thanks kim,,right therapy at the right time really works...going to see another paedtrition on sept 3...as not so satisfied with the current one...she is too busy to spend 10 minutes with concerning parents...i hope to get right direction from the new paedtrition n hoping to get appt with developmental paed as well...its amazed to know how ur kids improved..god bless them..i am getting developmental screening done as well in sept.,,n also putting my best to make him learn...i hope n pray he gets better too...thanks a lot for ur reply.

Bhawana - posted on 08/29/2013

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Thanks fr ur post kim .r ur boys talking now?what r there developments now...my speech pathologist came yesterday n my son didnt respond well...For the first time he didnt make much eye contact with her..still walking on tip toe..was staring at things often for no reason..so she was concerned too,flapping hands ocassionally...sign language sounds good to me..will definitely work on it wid him....will talk to school as well...do let me know about the improvements on ur kids...all d best...

Bhawana - posted on 08/27/2013

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Thanx evelyn...really appreciate ur concern n help...will definitely keep u posted...

Ev - posted on 08/27/2013

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And as long as you have the drive that you seem to have, the sky is the limit. Sounds like you got yourself set to succeed for him and with him. Just keep up the hard work and it will pay off. I just hope that he is fine and there is nothing more than delay of speech to as little an extent as possible. Keep me posted? PLease?

Bhawana - posted on 08/27/2013

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Ur efforts are priceless...makes me feel there is so much i can do for my kids..n i m sure i will..my husband never felt nything is wrong with our son but if there is anything..then he will do the best for him for sure...here in canada things work differently..for the speech therapy there is a wait for 6months n for autism screening its more than 18 months...acc to paedtrition...but i m doing my work by approaching different institutes run by community partners n going for developmental screening in second week of september,also i hv put my son to daycare 3hrs everyday for 5 days a week starting from sept first week..so to make him socialize more.but i know i have to put lot of hardwork and time myself to make it happen ..

Ev - posted on 08/27/2013

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There is a lot of help available if you know where to look or who to ask to direct you to them. As for the tippy toes==my daughter did that a when she was little but she never became autistic. THat is sometimes something kids like to do and may not mean anything. As for me and my son and his father (my ex); I think I was able to embrace the idea better than his dad was because I work with kids with special needs. Its been a passion in the last ten years of mine to see kids make lots of progress to catch up to peers. It really makes me feel like I have given them something and they have given me back something too. Because of being able to work in that environment, I have been able to more understand about therapies and things that his dad has no ideas about how to understand. Because of this I think it prepared me to be able to handle things. We are also very close and that helps too. He is my other pride and joy. His sister is my other one. SHe is seven years older. THey both have shown me what it takes to be strong too.....I could not have asked for a better son and daughter.

Bhawana - posted on 08/27/2013

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Evelyn--i am having sleepless nights for last few weeks n felt so weak ..but this is the first time i felt better..you n your son dealt with the situation so bravely...i hope i can do the same...its just for last few weeks only my son is playing aloof...that gave me a hard time...he doesnot even look at other kids at park,even if they come close to him n say hi....he has been playing obsessively with his car toys....but there r good signs too i.e; he will request things he wants n also is alert,is very much aware of who is coming in n going out of the house..occasional tip toe walking made my heart sank....but ur son is an inspiration n i believe with the help available nowadays can make remarkable improvements...

Ev - posted on 08/27/2013

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Bhawana-my son is nearly 17 years old and he has come a long ways with it. He is getting the help he needs to get through his classes at school, he has had therapy for social skills, speech, occupational therapy and even physical therapy during the said time frame. He had a learning problem discovered early on so the school helped with that. He is on his way to wanting to become a mechanic when he gets done with school and turns 18. You would not know now he even had problems. Its sometimes the absence of normal behaviors but there are also a lot of abnormal ones such as wagging the arms all the time or ticks and things like that. Not Terettes. Being alone a lot is also a sign too though its also a normal thing for some people. It just depends on the individual.

Bhawana - posted on 08/27/2013

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Thanks evelyn..ur response is very helpful..it gives me a sense of relief..u r right,,even i sometimes feel that he is ok n if not then probably not very serious..but i have heard that early signs of autism is not the presence of abnormal behaviours but the absence of normal ones....thats y i get scared...best of luck for ur son...thanks a lot for ur reply.

Ev - posted on 08/27/2013

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First, at 20 months a child is not going to have a lot of words or make any sentences as yet. He won't make any two or three word sentences until after age 2. As for understanding his name when called 70 or 80 percent of the time, kids this age have long since started to tune out things to see how far they can push buttons. IF he is understanding and babbling then he is pretty much on target. Pointing to what he wants is also on target. Second, not playing with other kids all the time is not abnormal. Some kids are naturally loners or rather be alone. Does not mean they are autistic. Making eye contact and smiling and reacting to them sounds like normal stuff. His falling down to seek attention is also something a kid his age does normally. Third, its true that most kids are not tested for any kind of autistic issues until after 2. He sounds very active and right on target to me. Speech therapy may help him get better at language use and so on, but I do not think he is autistic. But that is my opinion and I am not an expert. My own son has a form of autism that shows he is very high functioning and it was not detected until age 11. My daughter's best friend in high school did not get diagnosed with high functioning autism until senior year. SO if there is any type of autism going on it may not be as bad as you think.

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