Tina Michelle - posted on 11/21/2015 ( 11 moms have responded )
Hello, I will try to condense my story. My daughter met a boy back in May of this year, and ever since my life has been a living hell. She was always a very good girl, doing well in school and even college. She also has a 19 month old son from another boy, who is now 22. Yes, I know it sounds bad, and it is embarrassing. Here's the deal---When she brought this boy over I could tell right away that he was bad news. He was so fake and bought her gifts with credit cards (which since all had to be returned). He is very unstable. Has had 13 jobs since May. Wont work. Wants somebody to take care of him. He is rude, disrespectful and posts the nastiest stuff of social media and it makes me sick. She left with him back in June when I told him to get out of my house because he got up and cussed me out when I told him to be quiet after yelling at me about something trivial. She left and took my grandbaby. I was devasted and wanted to die. It was hard but I got through it. Fastforward---She came back after a few months and told me he had been beating her, tried to rape her once, very controlling, jealous, etc. She showed me pics of a bruised eye and her hair that he had pulled out in clumps. They had been living in a terrible apartment building. I was worried all the time. She went back to school in August and was doing great. She wants to be a nurse and had high grades and honor status. Well, she went to the apartment to get a few of her things and he beat her, put her in a choke hold and tried to rape her. Her friends made her go to the police. He was arrested with 3 different charges. And then a DVO was put on him for 3 years so he was to stay away from her,,etc. Well, She started acting funny and I knew she had to be seeing him secretly. So, one day I went and sat outside his apartment. She had been texting me saying she was in class. Then, 10 minutes later, here they come in her car and he was driving!! I was furious as you can imagine. I even called the police so they would arrest him, but he ran away and the police wouldn't do anything. The police convinced my daughter to live in a domestic violence shelter to get help, etc. And she was a little afraid to come home I know. This happened a week ago, and I am worried sick about my grandbaby. She told me she loves this boy and always will..THEN tells me she is pregnant with his child!! I was mortified. Now, she will barely speak to me, I had to threaten to get a lawyer to see my grandchild. I had him for one day. I am in college so its hard to make time, but I do. I don't know what to think about this. I don't know why she would go back to someone who beat her up and did horrible things to her and of course I fear for my grandchild because I really believe she is secretly seeing him even still. All of the grandparents are discussing taking her child away if she is going to be with this violent boy, which is 20. He has ADHD and severe bipolar issues,,,bad temper, etc. I am not prejudiced against anyone with disorders, however when they do not take their meds its a bad situation. He has cheated on her multiple times as well. Please help me understand this. I know she wants to be independent and all the other things people say..I get that. But my question is WHY??? Why would she choose this? She had a great home here, paid for all her bills, college, car, gas, insurance, phone...etc. I wanted her to succeed in college so she wouldn't have to depend on anyone in the future. There is a lot more bad things about this boy, too much too mention, I just gave some of the worse. I appreciate any help or advice. This is so hard on me and my husband. Thank you!!!!