Donna - posted on 01/18/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )
My 20 year old son is in his second year of college and has started making some very questionable choices. A month after the last fall semester he started dating a girl and has become completely engrossed with her. Her current status is that she has no vehicle, a low paying job, isn't currently taking classes as of January because she messes up her scholarship she had, and her parents live 6 hours away. My son, against our advice has taken her into the dorm and she is living there full time. He is in a private room with a private bathroom so no other roommates are effected except in public areas on the floor. His father and I told him before he left at the holidays that she was not to live in the dorm since it was against the schools policy to have non students in the dorms for any extended period of time. Now that I have the information that he has broken the rules I'm not sure what to do. Do we pull him out of school? Wait for him to get caught and kicked off campus? Pull the funding for school? We are currently paying for all room and board fees, phone bills, car insurance, and of course the books and school itself. Oh and I have also found out that they smoke marijuana on a regular basis. All of this from a kid that has seemed to have his head straight since day one. I have no idea what to do with him! Help!