Deiidrayvonne - posted on 12/17/2014 ( 5 moms have responded )
My trying to look out for my son is straining my relationship. I am in a 7 year relationship with a great man. We have a 6 yr old together. We just moved into our own home and my 20 yr old son is living with us. My fiancé keeps telling me that I spoil him, that I make excuses for him and he's not the only person who has said this to me. I know it's the truth...I know I've been too easy on him, but I don't know how not to be. It's my nature. My biggest fear is I will send this lazy, irresponsible, disrespectful human being into the world and someone who doesn't love him like we do and doesn't care for him, will deal with him the way the world deals with these kinds of people. I've tried to talk to him about his actions and lack there of but he JUST DOESN'T SEEM TO GET IT! And then I end up in the middle with my fiancé upset because he feels disrespected in his own house and my son not being able to understand what the big deal is that he didn't do the dishes, he didn't return something he borrowed, he didn't clean up after himself. He doesn't work, he has a 2 year old son and I can't shake him out of this limbo!! I'm afraid that if I throw him out that something will happen to him! I love both of these men with all of my heart...what do I do?