My 20 year old step daughter drugged and sexually violated by her ex employer

Lisa - posted on 04/09/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My step daughter revealed to me yesterday that she has been given narcotic pain medication and them sexually violated by a man she was baby sitting for. She refuses to tell her father or allow me to. I don't know what to do. I can't keep this secret from my husband and I don't want to betray her trust. How do I convince her to do the right thing?

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Lisa - posted on 04/09/2015

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It wasnt that type of sexual assault. She has put me in bad place by telling me this and expecting me to keep this horrible ugly secret. I am betraying her father and if he ever finds out I will be served with divorce papers, I am her step mother and she still lives at home with us, she is a student and has been off the chain since this began. Its not fair for my husband to think she is just partying and doing whatever because she feels like it. This is a problem that needs to be fixed and its our responsiblity as her parents to help her. I was assaulted and I lived with it until I was 40 years old before I told anyone because I feared judgement just like she does. I don't want her to live her life like that.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/09/2015

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Be there for her. She clearly trusts you, so keep building that trust. Let her discuss it, and be her shoulder to cry on. It is an awful thing that happened to her, and hopefully she will come around and press charges. It really is her choice who she tells. So be there for her to confide in. This is a terrible position to be in, but think more about what she is going through. Good luck.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/09/2015

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She's an adult, and if she doesn't want to share this with her father, that's her choice. Encourage her to press charges. Hopefully she at least had a rape kit done at the hospital or clinic.

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