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MY darling daughter, has a darling daughter of her own who will be 4 in july. They have lived with us all of my grandbabys life, except for 6 months when mom decided she wasnt done living it up. Myla stayed with us while mom ran wild. You name it mom was doing it, she claimed she was going to try to make a life for them while she had this freetime. Well since the day Myla was born my kid had trouble taking the bull by the horns, she has some issues of her own, that are now being addressed thankfully, but at that time she was in denial of these problems. She did then and even now still, stays out all nite, then comes home and sleeps. Myla is left in my care. If I try to force her to step up, Myla pays the price with moms anger, and well honestly I want to say it seems like hatred, that she has to parent. She chose to keep her, I told her I would support whatever decision she made and she made this one, knowing that we are having a tough go financially. She used to leave in the middle of the night to hook up with men, dragging myla with her. I was working overnites at the time so was unaware she was leaving. Grandpa works hard all day so when he sleeps he hears nothing, outside the bedroom. Eventually, I quit my job because mom had left home and left myla with us. Mom has since moved back, just 2 months ago but has not changed her ways much except that she doesnt drag Myla out in the middle of the night. If she goes anywhere now its early, but of course she leaves myla with sitters. I finally just said if it comes down to anouncing on FB to your friends that you need a sitter and me, just know I am first choice. Some of her "friends" are questionable and some have criminal records, and she doesnt care who watches myla as long as she can run wild. I dont mind caring for myla really in fact I prefer it. Mom behaves like she is Mylas babysitter more so then her parent. Bad sitter yes I know but its the only analogy I could think of. I used to contact the county about this, but all they tell me is as long the child is being taken care of there is nothing they will do. We let mom move back because honestly she was on a downward spiral messed up in pills so bad she wouldnt remember coming out here to visit myla she would lose weeks at a time. She seems to have done well with the drug issue but the parent issue stil eludes her. She doesnt work manipulates people into paying for her gas and other wants. Short of food shelter and basic survival needs we do not support her at all. We do support myla because no one else will. Its just the right thing to do. Honestly, I regret letting her move back because, she is not a productive or responsible person at all. She wont clean or cook, barely takes care of myla when she is here and awake. She shows no signs of working on this either. She says she knows shes messing up, she always says she knows, well knowing and caring are 2 different things and she doesn care that she is setting a bad example for her child and probably forming a relationship with her that will later be very strained and maybe even distant. Myla comes to me for everything, because she knows her needs will be met...and not with venemous anger. I will continue to do for myla what mom refuses to do, that is my job. I dont resent having to take care of myla I love it, I just wish mom would really see what it is she is doing and try to fix the damage before its to late.