My 23 month old baby does not sleep well. Any suggestions?

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hi, im 23 years old i have a daughter whos 23months old, i am a single mum and her dad has nothing to do with her at all, me and my daughter live in our own flat,



here is my problem- ever since i gave birth to her ( emergancy c-section) she has been a nightmare at sleeping, she would just scream and scream nothing would stop her, even the hospital didnt know what to do with her!! she was just awfull, she would fall asleep on the bottle then i'd put her in the cot and shed wake up screaming! eventually i put her in bed with me and she slept a little longer maybe a hour then wake up for a 4/5 hours sleep again maybe a hour.



anyway she is now 23months and still doesnt sleep, i have just managed to get her to fall asleep in her own bed it only takes 20mins, she goes to bed at 8, then will wake up at 12ish and that will be it she will stay awake for about 5 hours screaming/playing/laughing/talking/moaning/ then fall asleep about 5 in the morning and then wake up at 7. she sometimes sleeps in the day for 40mins.

during the day she is always running around at the park/garden, at mummy baby groups,

we do lots of playtime, reading, sticking, colouring, puzzles, dancing with music, jumps on her bouncy castle,



she just wont sleep!!!!! im sooooooooo tired of doing this everynite, i just dont no wot 2 do with her! i am at breaking point.

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Louise - posted on 03/04/2010

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Hi,
Does not sound like fun. I went throught the same thing with my second son at 10months old. He wanted to be up all night and sleep in the day, unfortunately I was up all night with him and all day with his brother so I had no sleep. I took him to the doctors to have a complete check up and they found nothing wrong with him so the doctor perscribed phenorgen even though he was so young. I gave him phenorgen every night for three nights which was enough to change his sleeping pattern and it also gave me some long awaited sleep. I have never used it since and never had the need to. Some children do suffer with sleep deprivation when they are over stimulated in the day they just do not want to stop what they are doing and sleep. This causes a knock on effect to night time sleep. Try and make a regular afternoon time which you sit quietly with a book or watch a favorite programme like "The night Garden" which is designed around sleep, place her in her cot/bed with her best teddy or soothing toy and leave her. She is safe, so let her scream, do not go back in as she will just cry for you again and again it becomes a game. After a few days she should be getting the message that screaming will not get the results she wants. This is going to be hard on you but I promise you it will pay off in the end. Use the same technique at night time, if she cries in the night go in once to check she is safe and that there is no obvious problem and then say nite nite and leave her to cry. She will get the message. Mums have to be cruel to be kind sometimes.GOOD LUCK xx

Kathleen - posted on 03/14/2013

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Hi Everyone, My 2 1/2 nephew does not sleep through the night. Unfortunately is still on the bottle and is obsessed with it. He doesn't have it during the day and only at night. He wakes up screaming bloody murder for it. In October he suffered a life threatening seizure that had him on a respirator for 2 days. He made it thru that but he's on a strong anti-seizure medication called Kepra. He wasn't sleeping thru the night before that so I'm not sure if its the meds. we can't use the Johnson & Johnson lavender cream because of his exzema. He has a strict schedule during the day and goes to a daycare center. does anyone have a suggestions??

Sneaky - posted on 03/04/2010

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Hi Lianne, whatever health adviser told you that this was 'fine' needs to be shot right now before they can say anything else stupid. . . . your little one needs her sleep (and I know that you do too!!!) I remember reading somewhere that at her age she will still need about 12 hours sleep in one day/night just for her brain development. True, some bubs need less, but what you are describing seems really not normal.

I can only tell you what I would do if I were in this situation and that is - I would not stand for it anymore. It seems obvious that your sweetie has some sort of problem and you need help ASAP. If that means you have to take her to your GP and cry at him until they give you a referral to a pediatrician and/or a sleep clinic and every other professional and service that you can access then that is what I would be doing.

And my motivation would be, not just the lack of sleep (which must be affecting your health by now too) but I would be really, really worried that she did have a medical condition that needs treatment and all the health professionals that you have met so far are too stupid to have seen it!

Please, please, please promise that you will take her to your doctor (and a second doctor, or a third and a fourth if the first one does not help you) and demand help, support and medical intervention for both of you as soon as you can. I can NOT imagine how hard it is to only get maybe four hours of unbroken sleep a night and I am so upset for you, I am almost crying (but I am pregnant so my hormones are contributing to that!).

I have read the posts from other mums who have had babies go through this stage and they are trying to support you by saying that she will grow out of it, but if she has done this since birth then it has been going on for TWO YEARS now. It is not a stage. I am also giving advice from the stand point of a mum who currently has two girls (46 months and 21 months old) who both sleep between 10 and 12 hours through at night so that is why I am so aghast at your daughters sleeping pattern and the fact that anyone would suggest it was 'fine' or just a stage. If any health adviser tried to tell me it was 'fine' I would probably punch them in the head . . . or maybe fall sobbing into their lap.

Good luck with this Lianne, I hope you get it sorted out soon and please know that we are thinking of you!

Katt - posted on 03/03/2010

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Well my daughter was this way at 2 months. If she was in bed with me she would sleep all night but as soon as I would put her in her crib she would wake up 10 times a night. So what I did (I'll probably get a lot of heat for this but oh well) was I put 2 pillows from our bed in her crib so she would lay on them. I did that and she slept all night in her crib after about 2 weeks I replaced the pillows with a light blanket then 2 weeks later I took the blanket out and now that is the only place she will sleep and she sleeps 12hrs Plus a night!! I don't know if this will work for an almost 2 year old. Another thing my sister in law uses is a sleeping pillow it's made with lavender and chamomile sent. Another thing I do is you can buy a lavender spray that you spray on a pillow to help them calm down and I spray that on her pillow/blanket. My brother did this also and my mom found out he was sensitive to a certain red and orange food dye. If he ate ketchup or processed cheese slices he would be crazy hyper and not sleep...that might be something to consider too.

Emma - posted on 03/03/2010

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Have you had her checked for hyperthyroidism? Its when you can't stop, you are so full of energy it affects your sleep, eating (difficulty gaining weight), fidgety. She sounds like a handful and more than likely you need to take her to your doctor and insist on a thorough check up. Once that is done, insist on seeing a specialist for children, to rule out any other behavioural problems that could be an underlying reason to her lack of sleep. Food sensitivities can trigger an ADHD reaction even in children as young as yours. I am not saying she is ADHD, but could be having a reaction to something in her diet that is giving her an abundance of energy.

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Ideliz - posted on 03/10/2010

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well first, i'd advise putting her on a strict routine so will know what to expect throughout her day. my son fights his sleep all the time although he doesn't do the constant screaming. i usually give him a bath before bedtime to start relaxing him. i already have his bottle set and pj's set out before hand to prevent giving him the time to get riled up again. it's important to set the mood. have all the lights turned off except for a night light. try to snuggle her while reading to her. the soft rythmic tone of your voice and your scent should comfort her and make her feel secure. when she falls her asleep, leave something that has your scent next to her. if she stays asleep, dont wake her up. at 23 mths, she's fine to sleep through the night. let her wake up on her own f anything. you can try feeding her something before bed if you think it's because she is hungry. or if you think it's the milk or formula, try switching. for example try formula for babies with colic or try soy milk in stead of regular milk. maybe it's her tummy that bothers her. very important to be very patient. she will sense your frustration and become more irritable that way. walk away for a minute if you start feeling overwhelmed. eventually she should grow out of it. my sister was colic and my dad used to have to take her for a drive for her to fall asleep. whatever you find that works,stick with it and i wish you the best of luck.

Mellissa - posted on 03/10/2010

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Have you had your little girl checked for allergies? I had a boss once whose son was allergic to potatoes and when he ate them he became hyperactive and had mood swings and did not sleep well. They can do a battery of allergy tests all at once and maybe something will turn up. Also red dyes can do this to a child. They are in lots of things like juice, hot dogs and jello. Let us know if anything helps, and I hope that you find something that works soon!!

TARA - posted on 03/10/2010

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i never had a situation like this with mine but if u let her stay up til 12 when she would first wake up then sit in her room with her when its dark and rub her head til she goes to sleep it might help sorry i ain't much help on this one good luck

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Joey- i am taking my daughter to the doctor because she is not getting enough sleep and it is affecting her behaviour big time. and im not going to put up with it any longer, she quite clearly has a sleep problem so im going 2 get it sorted.

Joey - posted on 03/10/2010

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By the way, having unlocked this conversation by replying, I am finally able to read other people's posts. As an Anthropologist and a Midwife, I'm so SAD that we are taking our babies to doctors for medications to help them sleep through the night.

First of all doctors are not specialist in infant behavior. Many will dish out advice on anything because they are so used to being the ultimate expert, but it's not necessarily relevant advice. Secondly, that's just how babies sleep. That's how lots of grown ups sleep too. How many people nod off for a few minutes on their break at work? Or lay down for 20 minutes after they kick their shoes off when they get home? Or the "nocturnal newborn". They are nocturnal because their entire life before they are born they are trapped by the weight of gravity and rocked to sleep by mamas motion while they are in utero.

Joey - posted on 03/10/2010

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Sleep issues can be soooo frustrating. But I think they are increased by the idea that kids should sleep through the night and that they should sleep in their own beds. Humans are evolutionarily designed to cry out for help if they wake up alone when they are little. Because the only reason they would be alone when they are little is if you lost them. They need to be found and picked up or they will be eaten. So your little person is highly evolved to wake up and scream for you.



Second, the sleep through the night issue. Most people are still more likely to sleep in spurts rather than all at once. People are really supposed to sleep more like dogs do, go go go then nap. Go go go, then nap. There are entire cultures built around having a ciesta, or mid-day down time. So while it sounds like your child isn't sleeping much period and that's the main part of the challenge, at least the sleeping patterns seem really normal and infact very well adapted for survival.



Other people who's kids sleep quietly in the other room are not sleeping through the night either usually. They have just learned that if they cry out they will not get their needs met. It breeds little people who stop asking for what they need because they don't trust that their parents are going to meet their needs. Or they go the opposite and get super needy, clingy, and helpless.



My daughter just moved out of my bed on her own at 9, simply because there isn't enough room for her in the bed. Also, now we have a puppy that sleeps with her. But recently we moved, and she was back in my room everynight, on the floor though this time.



Good luck to you and I hope you get some more sleep soon...

Weslin - posted on 03/10/2010

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Hi Lianne,

Wish i could hug you now... My 3 yr old gave me hell on the 'staying asleep' dept as well... But as she started her playgroup, things got better. There was a schedule that both of us were forced to adhere too, and that set the tone in place. Also i Iet her sleep in bed with me, i made sure that i was always touching/ holding her arm or leg.

Hope it helps...good luck, god bless

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thanx everyone, i have seen a ENT and they said everything was fine, the johnsons bath stuff just doesnt work i tried the lotin after aswell, and even the talc, i have spoke to a doctor and health visitor but they said she will grow out of it,
but i have made another appointment next week and im goin 2 make sure they listen and help me and my daughter sleep!!

sorry if i havent anwsered anyones questions im trying! ive had such alot of great advice and im trying to answer all your questions thank you all so much.

Brandy - posted on 03/09/2010

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My 2nd son would wake up exactly every 2 hours screaming bloody murder. It was the most horrible experience of my life and We could not figure out how to help him. we later found out that he was having night terrors. Baby night mares. He dreams so vividly that his dreams scared him. If not that it could be that you are over stimulating her and she doesn't want to miss anything. from a mother who has been there sleep any chance you get.

Kendra - posted on 03/09/2010

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First, bless you that you have survived this long! My grand daughter was the same way. She did not sleep through the night until she was almost 3 years old. I am wondering if you have talked to your dr. about this. If you have and everything seems fine, here is what we did. We kept Destiny awake all day long and gave her a good warm bath, a small snack and read her a story and then told her it was time for bed. She was put in her own bed with a small night light on and when she would get up she was told she had to go back to her bed and to sleep. It took a while, but eventually it caught on. Stay firm and patient with her. Perhaps even rub her back or do something relaxing until she falls asleep.Perhaps even put an appropriate relaxing or her favorite movie on if she has a tv in her room. I dont really recommend doing this BUT it has worked for us in the past. God bless you and I hope you find a solution.

Kim - posted on 03/09/2010

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Play Country music or any soothing music a little on the loud side. It might take you some time to go to sleep with the noise but it will keep her from thinking in her sleep and when you can't think you can't have night mares. It is called night tearers. If you had a lot of strass when you where pregant it might have had somethink to do with it. Try to get a baby yoga tape. You should be able to order one online, and do that with her.

Nancy - posted on 03/09/2010

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I often wonder why some babies "just don't sleep" it's so hard. I would first have her completely checked out by your doctor or maybe two doctors. Then there are things you can give your baby that are natural like "melatonin" from the health food store. Make sure and get the correct dose. Don't believe people when they say it's your fault. You need your sleep and so does your baby. It's not healthy to "not sleep". I have four children and I needed my sleep while raising them. It is critical to get sleep for both of you. If your doctor says this is normal for "some children" ask him for a referral for another doctor that specializes in active babies or let him take her for a week and see what it's like. I'm kidding but I want you to get the help you need asap. Love, Nancy, a California Mom

Christy - posted on 03/09/2010

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If your daughter has asthma is it triggered by allergies (airborne allergies)? Sometimes kids that have allergies to inhalent things also have food sensitivities. A food sensitivity is still an allergy, but much more subtle. Will not cause her to swell up or break out in hives, but may cause behavior or other types of issues (like reflux) even well after the food is eaten. I also have a child who is a vivid dreamer (like night terrors type stuff) and she was also not a good sleeper when she was much younger, so I think if they are a vivid dreamer that starts very young. She's 11 now, and still dreams a lot, and usually they are scary dreams.

Heather - posted on 03/09/2010

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you said you tryed a bath and it hyped her up more ty using johnson and johnson lavender bath in the purple bottle. it worked for my middle daughter she was like yours is and it worked

Amanda - posted on 03/09/2010

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Hi! This is crazy! For your sanity and to be the best mom you can you need your rest which means you need to get that girl to sleep!!! When my son was a year old and was still waking in the middle of the night I was going insane. His doctor suggested something called Melatonin. It's something that your body naturally produces and it can help you sleep. They sell it in pill form at the drug store. What we did was cut it in half, crush one half and put it in a tablespoon of water or milk and have him drink. 15 minutes of crying and out for the rest of the night. He got used to sleeping through the night and after a month of giving it to him he now at 2 sleeps through the night from 9pm-8am without issue. I don't think she has medical issues in my opinion I just think she is just a toddler and she wants to play because sleeping is no fun! I am not a doctor but you sound desperate so I thought I would let you know what has worked for me. I don't know where you live but the sell melatonin at drugstores for about $8 a bottle. If I were you I would give it a go!

Nicole - posted on 03/09/2010

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I feel so sorry for you but what i did when my daughter used to get up alot i would just leave her cry and scream until she goes back to sleep. she once in a while does wake up but i just let her put herself back to sleep. dont get into the routine of letting her get uo every few hours or you will have big problems with getting her to sleep and dont whatever you do dont let her sleep with you cause then she will always want to sleep with you and never want to sleep in her own bed

Heather - posted on 03/09/2010

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My 2nd child Garrett never slept through the night until he was 5 years old. That's when we took him to an Ear, Nose, Throat doctor and realized that his tonsils were abnormally large. They removed his tonsils, as well as his adenoids, and within a few months he was sleeping all night long. He was having issues breathing and therefore wouldn't/couldn't sleep. Just a thought, and something you might want to check into. I know what it's like to go through that kind of sleep deprivation. I feel for you, I truly do.

FATIMA - posted on 03/09/2010

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hi,



I have read what you have said and by the sounds of it seems like she is a very hyper child usually kids who very hyper active they behave like this and to come around it you need to check her diet she should not be on any food which would make her hyper.



Have you spoken to the the health visitor about all this?????? also have your tried giving her bath every nite with the johson's bed time bath believe me it works and than massage her with the bed time lotion it does work as my 13 month son was similar to your daughter and also give her high calories food for dinner which would help her sleep for longer. I hope this would help

Susie - posted on 03/09/2010

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Lianne, How challenging. This is your first child too which makes it a learning experience for both you and your daughter. She is the one who made you a mom. It is difficult to raise your child by yourself, but the Lord will not give you more than you can handle. And, babies are really intuitive. They can sense when Mom is tense or upset and that just revs them up more. Active children can be a hand full. The neat thing is, you and she will both survive this and she will eventually get straightened out. And all that energy will be rechanneled to new tasks. Occasionally, when children have been hyperstimulated during the day it can spill over into the night. You would think it would wear them out, but some kids aren't wired that way. Good parents are frequently a bit nervous sometimes about what they are doing as parents. Am I doing this or that right? Why isn't it working with my baby? Don't go there, if you can keep from thinking that way. You know babies have always been uniquely different even from the womb. Remember the twins, Esau? Hey, there's something to hang on to...she isn't twins. You two will be able to get through this. Your schedules will get worked around. It is so hard when you are single because you need a break at times. Let someone know when you need a break. Hire a sitter for a few hours. sleep then, or do what you need to do to replenish your own energy level. And, congratulations!

Swati - posted on 03/09/2010

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well this is what mt sister did with my niece..she gave her a doll and asked her to may be sing a lullaby or a story to the doll just like the mom does to the kid.she asked her to lay with the doll by her side and asked to make the doll sleep.in this process my niece used to fall asleep.it took sometime for her to get into that routine but then eventually it helped and now she has a definite routine of a 10 hrs sleep....and after an year of that trick being used on her...she no longer needs a doll to falll asleeep..



i know that may sound funny but you can give it a try as your condition is no better than my sister.and plz do tell me if it helped you.all the best and give my blessings to your daughter.

Andrea - posted on 03/09/2010

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Sounds like you've tried everything you can think of. A friend of mine had similar problems. Hers turned out to be silly enough gas and acid reflux. When her daughter would lay down, the reflux would act up just like it does in adults. She elevated the head of her daughter's mattress with folded blankets and her doctor gave her a prescription for the gas and reflux. She sleeps fine now. Maybe you have a similar issue. Worth a shot?

Kylie - posted on 03/09/2010

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wow, sounds like you have it full on, you have done this well to get here, not many people would have :) congrats its a hard one, but you are just going to have to let her cry show her that you are boss, just shut the door and turn up the music or turn off baby monitor.



Check this site out http://www.wikihow.com/Put-a-Two-Year-Ol... if that doesnt help i find that if i google search my problem there is heaps of help there :)

Danne - posted on 03/09/2010

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I know this will sound funny, but have you had her tested for colic? Sometimes, when a little one has a lot of gas, they scream a lot more than usual. Being in the medical field, that is the first thing they look for. Let me ask, doe taking a car ride sooth her?

Allie - posted on 03/09/2010

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OMG thats got to be hard!.. my daughter was bad when she was 1st born.. she would sleep all day and be up all night.. she would fall asleep on my boob and as soon as i put her down she would wake up and cry.. we would have to rock her to sleep but eventually she got used to day & night.. Maybe you should try letting her sleep less during the day so that way she will be more tired at night.. and if she does sleep during the day make sure shes not napping to late bc then she wont be tired when its bedtime..

Tifani - posted on 03/09/2010

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Hang in there girl. My now 14 year old was born a preemie. She was what the doctors called a "High Need Baby" She had to see me at all times. It wasnt even good enough to be talking to her from another room. She would sleep for 20 minute intervals every few hours. I tried everything from keeping her up with no naps so she would sleep to finally out of sheer exhaustion, letting her sleep on my tummy. By age 3 she finally would sleep through the night. Gosh knows I tried everything under the sun but what finally seemed to work was I invested in a small CD player (I was a single mom at that time too, so a $15 one from walmart worked great) and I got some soothing lullaby music to play. Put it on and hit repeat so it just plays over and over. My heart goes out to you though. After having a "non-sleeping" child, I was so leary of trying again several years later after I remarried. But I did, and now have a wonderful little boy to add to our family (who thank god sleeps like a dream) Try some soft music though and if all else fails, a box fan that provides that consistent droning sound aimed toward a corner so the air isnt blowing on her. There is something soothing with that sound to some. Good luck and my thoughts are with you.

Lisa - posted on 03/09/2010

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i am so sorry to hear that. it must be very difficult. i am the mother of 20 month old twins and would pull my hair out if that happened. out of necessity, I have had to let them cry it out. they need to learn how to put themselves to sleep. They now fall asleep within 20 mins and sleep though the night. they also take a 2 hr nap in the middle of the day. I have found the book " Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" by Dr. Marc Weissbluth extremely helpful. Napping is key to getting you kid to sleep well at night. Lots of luck.

User - posted on 03/09/2010

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hey i read your post. it is important to put a child on a sleeping schedule from day one because otherwise you will encounter this problem. its tough because she has many sleeping patterns. you are doing all the right things, hopefully its just a stage!

Stephania - posted on 03/09/2010

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I have 2 boys and they always slept with me in bed. I think theyfeel safer and more secure, think about letting her sleep with you, there are a lot of benefits from sharing a bed with the parents!

Barbara - posted on 03/09/2010

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~is she on "table food"?

~is she eating a lot of animal products...milk, cheese, meat?

~how does she do with veggies?

The reason why I ask is due to the way the animals are being fed, a lot of the hormones and antibiotics effect everyone of all ages differently this might be something to think about, only give her grass fed animal products...eggs, meats, milks. Kick green veggies and more fruit into her diet (organic). needs to play outside for at least 20 min. daily (vitamin D intake) You need that vitamin too. a nice mellow walk before bedtime is relaxing for everyone who goes on the walk & you sleep more soundly. If you are breast feeding still than you need to think about the foods you are eating.

Brooke - posted on 03/09/2010

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Oh WOw!!!! What a touching story!!! Have you ever had her tested fro Acid Reflux? My daughter had that when she was little and she would never sleep because when they lay down it burns!!! Sorry I dont have much to offer but hope this helps!!

Kate - posted on 03/09/2010

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at that age, i would say to let her cry it out. she will do it for a few nights but by the end of the week you will be loving your new found sleep! there are some behavioral disorders associated with chronically sleep deprived children. Maybe see a specialist about it.

Phillipdurnell - posted on 03/09/2010

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Hello there. I would like to bless you and you daughter. You should probably change you and your childs schedule. She is use to you doing the same things over and over. Remember you are the parent and need to try something different. Are their any other adults in her life? You need a break! Does she have a Man in her life? or Father figure?You can not do everything by yourself. Do you pray? Do you have a Higher Power. If I could ever help you in any way, please do not hesitate to drop me a line. May the God of my Understanding richly bless you and your daughter.

Jennifer - posted on 03/09/2010

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As a mother of 8 children I to have had to face many different reasons for not getting sleep. However, I didnt notice if anyone had spoke to you about melatonin(please forgive my spelling) Since melatonin is something out bodies already have to put us to sleep. It is safe and will put anyone out like a light and for about 6 to 8 hours. My children have had to take it when we are moving due to my husbands orders and their schedule gets jacked up. Like I said it's safe and you can even ask your Dr. about it or look it up. Gnc sells chewable cherry flavor for kids. Good Luck on your search!

Eileen - posted on 03/08/2010

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Lianne, I had the same problem with my sons. Both of them are autistic and continue to have problems sleeping. My last child is the most like your daughter, and he is just plain irritable a lot of the time. It has nothing to do with being tired, he is just irritable. It did get better, but they never sleep a full night. My older son will be 13 next month and getting him to sleep is often a pain. Getting your DD to a pediatric specialist that treats children with autism is a good place to start. Even if she does not have the disorder, that doctor may have a better clue as to what is going on since he/she will be viewing it from a different perspective. Certainly none of us could know what is going on with your DD, but there is a lot of good advise given here. Medical attention is a very good place to start, whether it be a food allergy, medical condition, or just something she needs to grow out of........knowing what to do and what is going on gives a huge sense of piece and shine that proverbial light at the end of the tunnel. Good luck!

Lauren - posted on 03/08/2010

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You might try contacting an ENT (ear nose and throat) Dr. After a year we found out my daughter needed tubes put in. Sometimes it causes headachs and laying down makes the pressure worse. May she has something going on that causes the pressure which is maybe why she screams...because it hurts. Hang in there! It can only get better!

Shannon - posted on 03/08/2010

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Sounds a bit like reflux... but it also sounds lke mom needs some outside help as well. Do you have anyone that could watch her so that you can get some sleep? I would harass my medical personel until someone gave me answers... hang in there!

Elisa - posted on 03/08/2010

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Hi I went through that with my son, turns out he suffered from Colic, I tried every formula on the market, (and they are not cheap) one day my mom suggest Carnation evaporated milk, she said we all grew up on it. and it worked. No more crying or sleeping 5 mins and wake up screaming again. It worked for me, give it a shot.

Jennifer - posted on 03/08/2010

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I would establish a routine. My daughter is about the same age and she goes to bed at 7:30 pm with no problems. She sleeps all night until 7:00 am. She has breakfast lunch and supper at the same time everyday and gets outside alot. She naps everyday from 12:30 pm until around 3:00pm. Hope that helps

Ruth - posted on 03/08/2010

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Well a mother of two men now 29 and 35 and 4 grandchildren trial and error is always there... but after having a colic son of my own, when my grandchildren his kids first came I learned some new tricks, soft melody music not the kid stuff ocean breezes and a light that shows images on the wall helps, turn the music up so they cant here your tv or movement crack the door but dont go in for a least 15 mins or listen on a baby monitor , teething is probably your culprit, 1 dose of tylenol at night 30 mins before bedtime after 7 or 8. no sweet treats after 4pm,no bottle in the bed, if need water cold, lying down with a bottle cause pressure on the ears, and promotes ear infection and teething worsens,sitting in the room nooooooooo cause once you start you will be doing it when they are in school, lying with her the same... start the calm music while you are dressing them for bed and lavender bath warm is so helpfull too or lavender powder. constantly for about a hr say baby its ALMOST BEDTIME, TIME FOR NIGHT NIGHT MOMMY LOVES YOU BIG GIRLLLLL I hope i have helped trust me you try these things they work I promise you... let me know a grandma that has been there 4 times

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Okay I will keep this quick as you have had plenty of replies already but I want to say that children require a certain amount of hours of sleep for proper brain development and she's now getting it and nether are you. The best thing I can recomend is medication. I know people will react to it but I have three kids of my own all with special needs and eventually meds come into play. I did herbal.... belladonna works well as does melatonin but when your done with those clonidine works the best. It gently lowers their blood preasure to help them drift off and lasts through the night if they get up again redosing is possible and as it is not a nerological drug it isn't messing with their brain development.

Susan - posted on 03/08/2010

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bring it up with her dr. There has to be something they can do to help especially if you feel you dont have it in you any longer to keep doing this. have you tried a lavender bath just before bed or a warm milk bottle?

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Dear Lianne, I am so sorry to hear about your daughter. A few questions. Does she have a bedtime routine? Is she going to be the same time every night? Does she listen to music while she sleeps? Does she have a pacifier? When is her last feeding? Sometimes, just things that are repetitive will help some babies. If she falls asleep with the bottle, maybe try giving her a bottle or cup of water to keep in her bed at night. ALso try a small late nite snack with her just before bed. Also I used to listen to music with my kids during the day (The Laurie Berkner Band) and once they liked the songs I would put the cd on for them at night and that would also help them to sleep. Good Job on getting her to sleep in her own bed!!! That alone is a huge feat!!! Please keep me updated on how she is doing! Good luck!

Angel - posted on 03/08/2010

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Lianne, I sympathize with you totally. My 21 yr old was the same as an infant. I would fall asleep holding her while she was crying and screaming, I cried all the time, was stressed to the max, and one day I lost it and handed her to a neighbor walking down the hallway and went inside my own apartment and shut the door. This can make you crazy! I know from experience. Please find a "new mommy" support group, something, anything, for yours and her mental health. My daughter finally outgrew it around age 3 but I truly do understand the pain you are going through . You need a support system sweety, just so that you won't feel so alone and overwhelmed... Good luck to both of you..

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Hey just relax... Consistent care is what she needs. It's takes a week or two but you need to put her in her own bed. Let her cry until she falls asleep. Do not put her in your bed - do not put her in any other bed until you have established a schedule she understands. She is being the Mom not you right now. It's just what you have to do. Happened to me with my first child and my Mom tells the same story. So just relax help is only two weeks away. Hold on....

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Lorie hi, yea when she was a baby she was always sick, and had very bad colic, she is fussy whenever no just after eating, yes she does have a bottle only at bedtime with warm milk.

Julie - posted on 03/08/2010

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hi I am relativly new to circle of moms but I saw your post and went through a similar thing with my son. I lasted until he was 2 1/2. WE found out it was food allergies, the formula he was on was not agreeing with him. he ended up on soy form.ula. my daughter started with the same symptoms and it was the formula too. found out she was actually allergic to milk, not lactose intolerant, Allergic to milk. Had to had soy and rice based product until she was 3 . food allergies can play havoc on our kids.

Another thing, if you are not getting help from you childs dr maybe you should look into getting a second opinion. I went round and round with my childs dr and finally went to see someone else to find out my child had Asthma. ANd difficulty getting oxygen into his lower lobes of his lungs. Do hesitate to ask another peditrician to check things for you. GOod luck!

Raquel Astrid - posted on 03/08/2010

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before she sleep give her a lukewarm bath and dont give chocolate coz chocolate give high energy to the kids.hope i can help

Lorie - posted on 03/08/2010

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I was just wondering if she, as a baby, spit up a lot? Now as she is older, is is fussy after she eats? Does she still suck a bottle? If so does she have a bottle at bedtime? What is her favorite thing to drink? I am just checking on some things for you and need to know these answers to try and help you better.

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