My 23 year old daughter is disrespectful, and very hurtful to me.

Laura - posted on 03/15/2016 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I completely cut my 23 year old daughter off, when she graduated from college. While she was in college she came out. Meaning she dates girls now. At first I totally freaked. But at the beginning I told her that I loved her and she was my daughter no matter what.
After I cried, for mths. I told my family. I have excepted it, but it still hurts my heart. She has dated many guys. I just don't understand it.
She has a very good job that she hates. She totally supports herself. She calls me all of the time complaining about the job. Not only complaining but crying. I really don't take up for her when I see that she is wrong. I just tell her how it is, to live in a adult life. She is so mean to me and tells me the most hurtful things that I will never forget. She curses to me. She says that I'm mean. She is going to quit her job. Or they might fire her first. I don't know how to handle it at all any more. I'm tired of getting hurt.

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Sarah - posted on 03/15/2016

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Your her mother, if she can't come to you to vent, where should she go. Is this about her sexuality? If not, why even bring it up? You say you cut her off, how? If she has a good job, she does not need your financial support. If you are tired of getting hurt, then tell her to treat you with respect or not to call in the first place. We teach people how to treat us, and you have taught your daughter to treat you like this.

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Laura - posted on 03/16/2016

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I guess I said this wrong. What I meant when I said that I cut her off was, she had to pay for everything herself. I didn't cut her off from my life that would never happen she's my baby. It's not who she is dating. The whole thing is she really depends on me and I do everything I can for her. I don't mind that. She does not have any respect for me. She was not brought up like that. Her sisters are not like that. I never treated my parents like she treats me. She says very hurtful things to me. I don't know how to handle it anymore.

Sarah - posted on 03/16/2016

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If you cut her off, then why are you so concerned about your relationship? I asked earlier if your issues stem from her sexuality. If she is gay and you don't support her, then what to you think the outcome will be?

Strong - posted on 03/15/2016

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I certainly understand what you’re going through and I know how heartbroken you must be. (Hug) It is difficult to imagine the depth of pain that a parent experiences in discovering that a son or daughter is involved in the homosexual lifestyle. I’m sorry to hear that she’s been disrespectful to you. I just a prayer for God to comfort you and surround you with His peace. Why don’t you speak with a professional who can offer guidance? I’ve heard that Focus on the Family offers free counseling and I think you may find it helpful to speak with one of the counselors about this. Take a look at this Q&A (http://bit.ly/1QWya3a) and the resources mentioned at the bottom of the page. You might find it helpful. Focus’ phone number is in the Q&A. *Much love*

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