My 25 yr sons been taking pills and drinking alot. Should we have him come stay with us for awhile to get him away from some of his friends and try to help him. He did admit once he needs to get away. Will that help him or hurt him.


Tamara - posted on 04/14/2014




Ya it does talked to him yesterday hes going to go three weekends in a row camping with us and my daughter is going to. He was happy about that just to get away from some of his friends. And we talked to him about rehad if it is that bad. He said he is really wanted to stop or really cut back. So I hope he really will try. We told him that hes a grown man and we can give are support and we are here for you. And we will check on him often. If you think you need help or ready for help we will support you. Had a good talk with hope he tries. Hes still are boy.


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Tamara - posted on 04/15/2014




Thanks Kristen. We weren't going to have him move in just come and stay a couple weeks to see if that would help him some. He says he would like to get away from some of the old friends. I was just offering him to come out to have him think for awhile away from them. But I've not had to deal with that before. He will still be paying his own stuff. Just hope he think what he is doing. And I really hope he isnt a alcoholic.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/15/2014




Do you want to enable him? Allowing a drug addict (your kid or not) to live in your home will free up his money to buy more drugs.

He's not ready yet. His statement of wanting to 'cut back' indicates that he's still feeding his addiction. Unfortunately all you can do now is enforce 'clean' family outings, if he's joining you, and let him know that you will fully support his efforts to get clean and sober. DO NOT take him back into your home, not unless he's ready to commit to and finish rehab.

Good luck.

Kristin - posted on 04/15/2014




NO!!! I have a brother we went through this with. It was extremely difficult. We had to learn the hard way that us helping was actually enabling him to use more. The hardest part was that my brother was so convincing that he needed our help. I honestly wish you the best of luck in this situation but I strongly advice don't be an enabler. That includes giving him a place to stay giving him money or letting him use your vehicle. Stay strong

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its ok, i just wntd to share sme helpful thoughts though, i totally agree about wht u said, but u knw ths is the only way i thougt about it to make him 4get the bad things and bad friends, and try to get him addicted to smthng useful, with happy timez 4 him, (dunno if dis helps u, guud luck)

Ev - posted on 04/13/2014




Clear Heart-I am not sure I understand that you can give advise being 14 years old and not a mom. This place is for mothers to give advice and such. Your idea of taking a 25 year old man home and having movie nights with pizza and parties does not address the idea of his taking pills and drinking. Those two issues even combined are a danger to his health, well being and mental health. He needs professional help in this not some fly by night teenage party. I am not attacking you for your idea would do well with a teenager having some issues and needed to be cheered up.

Tamara-Your son need professional help. As was said in a post below get him into a treatment facility. Only doing that is going to save his life. Having him live at home is not going to get him away from those bad friends of his nor is it going to get him away from the ability to get pills or booze. Only in a facility can he get the right treatment for his problems, the help to face them and talk about them, and the way to learn how to live in a world where it exists and lastly to learn how to fight it everyday.

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hurt him and take him to do more fun and good activities, that wil help him and make some refreshing moments at home, like special dinner once in a week or a party with pizzas and popcorns and movies that willl make him forget the bad things, we all look for fun in our lves

good luck maam

Sarah - posted on 04/13/2014




My advise you be to get him into a treatment facility that can address his addictions.

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