My 27 year old son is hooked on heroin....he hit rock bottom,,no job, no car, living in a house with no light, no water , and no heat,,,his girlfriend just broke up with him..was going to kill himself until his father found him and took him in...he had no health insurance...we were trying to get him in to a rehab..or get some kind of help for him...in the mean time his father was giving him money and was driving him to the drug dealers house to get heroin...so he wouldnt go through withdrawals...his father was mad at me for not giving money for this....i said no flat out no...i will not buy my son heroin...no his father is condemning me as a mother for not doing this for my son...help

Dorothy - posted on 01/03/2013 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My 27 year old son is hooked on heroin....he hit rock bottom,,no job, no car, living in a house with no light, no water , and no heat,,,his girlfriend just broke up with him..was going to kill himself until his father found him and took him in...he had no health insurance...we were trying to get him in to a rehab..or get some kind of help for him...in the mean time his father was giving him money and was driving him to the drug dealers house to get heroin...so he wouldnt go through withdrawals...his father was mad at me for not giving money for this....i said no flat out no...i will not buy my son heroin...no his father is condemning me as a mother for not doing this for my son...help

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 01/03/2013

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But, Dorothy, did he choose to go, or was he forced to go? Big difference. Those who choose will succeed, and move forward. Those who are forced will resist and as soon as they feel they've successfully pulled the wool back over everyone's eyes will jump right back into the drugs.

If he went voluntarily, then prepare to help him move forward upon his release. If he was forced, then be prepared to stay tough.

I hope it works out :-)

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 01/03/2013

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His father is the one being a poor parent. You don't buy your kid more crap to keep him from withdrawals, you let him EXPERIENCE the withdrawls and take him to the hospital for professional help.

Unfortunately, the best thing that you can do is to distance yourself from the situation. If he's not willing to rehab, he's not ready. And if he's not ready, he won't do it. Tough to hear, tough to say, but the facts are an addict HAS TO HELP HIMSELF. Otherwise everyone else is just wasting their time, and in his father's case...their money.

Turn his father in for aiding and abetting a drug addict. The purchase of (or facilitating purchase of) drugs is a crime. Maybe, when he does a couple of nights in jail for purchasing a manufactured controlled substance, he'll see where HE is wrong, and YOU are right.

Blessings and love to you, my dear. I'll pray for you and your son.

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 01/03/2013

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Beautiful! AWesome!

Dorothy, that's just great. He'll have so much more of a chance to succeed! Will still keep you all in my prayers, though!

Dorothy - posted on 01/03/2013

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thank you and my son is now in rehab..but i am scared when he gets released ....

Dove - posted on 01/03/2013

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I wouldn't give him money or take him to the drug dealer's house either. I'd probably drive him straight to the ER if I were worried about withdrawal symptoms. Giving him more money and more drugs would NOT be helping him. It would just be prolonging the problem and putting you at legal risk.

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