my 28 month son Francis always hits me when I do not do what he wants

Clare - posted on 10/27/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Both at home and in public places, Francis always hits me with his hands and some angry noise when I do not do what he wants to do or when i order him to do something but he doesnot want to do. I am very embarrassed when this happens and feel sad too.
I believe All the Moms have good tip. Please share it with me. Thank you in advance.

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Michelle - posted on 10/28/2015

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I have 1 question, do you spank/hit him at all?
If you do then stop now, if you don't just ignore my question.

Dave has some great advice. At his age, they are seeing how far they can go and it's normal. You need to be consistent and follow through when you give him a consequence.

Clare - posted on 10/27/2015

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Dove, many thanks for your very helpful experience. I feel less stress now already.

Dove - posted on 10/27/2015

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When he hits you, firmly (but gentle enough not to hurt) grab his hand and sternly tell him 'no hitting, be gentle' and then show him gentle by stroking your cheek w/ his hand. That is generally the advice I give out w/ younger toddlers, so I will add that if he persists in trying to hit you can sit him in a chair and tell him 'since you keep trying to hit mommy you will sit in this chair for 2 minutes'... and when he is out of time out remind him that he was in time out because he was hitting. Be firm and consistent, but calm and gentle w/ him. He'll get it.

As far as ordering him to do things.. you can try rewording your request (like instead of 'pick up your toys now' try 'as soon as you get these toys picked up we can go play outside... or whatever else'). He's 2, so don't REALLY expect it to work very well. His job right now is to test his boundaries and push your buttons. Very frustrating, but completely normal. Doing what you can to take the 'fight' out of situations can help a lot. The rest is just a matter of time, consistency, and a LOT of patience.

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