Lindsay - posted on 08/08/2016 ( 6 moms have responded )
So I was married to my HS sweetheart, unfortunately drugs and alcohol were more important than me and the kids. I got a divorce. I met a man very quickly after who was wonderful. We dated for two years and then got married. We are now 2 years in and have a 1yo. He HATES my ex. My ex has since gotten his life in order and is doing good. We are just now starting to get along. It was really bad for awhile. The problem is that now we are cooperating, my husband has become irrational. The kids are now old enough to walk home from school so that means there is no after school care place for my ex to pick them up. I said it was ok for him to pick them up from the house. He gets them even before I get home. This has become such a problem for my husband that now he wants out. He says that I go out of my way to make it easy on my ex. My ex has had to work late a few times and so I kept the kids on his day. I don't see this as a big deal. My husband says I don't care about him and that he wishes he would get killed (he is deployed) so he wouldn't have to stress about it. He now wants nothing to do with me, won't talk to me. I think it is important for my ex and I to be civil and help each other out when it comes to the kids. If I put them in after school care it would cost me more than I can handle. I am at a loss. Am I being to nice to my ex or just being an adult?