my 2year old won't listen

Stacey - posted on 01/08/2016 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My two year old son won't listen to anything we say. It seems like we have tried everything, but nothing is working. He will look you straight in the face and do what he knows he is not supposed to be doing. I feel so horrible bc I'm always yelling at him, and even that doesn't hep. So that makes me feel even worse. Please help.

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Sarah - posted on 01/08/2016

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I agree with everything Dove stated. To add make sure you are getting one on one time with him. I also do in home daycare. Sometimes this can be hard on my own kids. They have to share their home, their toys, and their mom. Sometimes behaviors come out when they just need a little more one on one. For my kids I also have a few rules to help them out with their home being invaded. 1. No day care child is allowed in my child's bedroom....that is their "safe zone" that they can go to if they need a break from the other kids. 2. Special toys (their favorites, recent birthday or Christmas presents) are kept in their bedrooms and if they wish to share it then they can bring it out to share. If they don't want to share they must play with it in their room.

Dove - posted on 01/08/2016

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Firmly (but gentle enough not to hurt) grab his hand and sternly (but not yelling) tell him 'no hitting'. Then in a gentler voice tell him 'be gentle'... and then SHOW him gentle by using his hand to stroke your cheek or maybe pat the child that he hit. Firmly and consistently... every time he hits.

If after you do that once or twice he's still hitting... sit him in time out and tell him 'since you can't stop hitting you can't play right now'... and after 2 minutes in time out you remind him to be gentle w/ his friends.

Don't hit him for hitting because that sends a conflicting message to his brain. If he won't stop hitting when you leave the room... make him be your 'shadow' for a while and stay w/ you wherever you go.

Hitting is a VERY normal toddler stage. Be firm (but calm and gentle) and extremely consistent... he'll get there.

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Stacey - posted on 01/08/2016

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I watch kids at my house and he alway hitting.I will tell him that you don't hit your friends and I tell him to give them a hug and say I'm sorry, when I leave out he will do a walk by and do the same thing. I have taken the toys, given spankings, and times out and nothing works.

Sarah - posted on 01/08/2016

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As Dove requested,can you paint a picture of a scenario? That will help with feedback

Dove - posted on 01/08/2016

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It's good you recognize that yelling doesn't help. Yelling actually just makes everything worse.... I AM a yeller though. lol

What is it that he is not supposed to be doing? What do you do when he doesn't listen?

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