My 2yr old daughter is calling my husband by his first name, we can't get her to stop.

Amy - posted on 01/31/2009 ( 28 moms have responded )

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My daughter consistantly is calling my husband her father by his first name and not daddy. We have tried ignoring it and have tried reminding her each time to call him daddy and she still is doing it. Any suggestions on how to change this behavior??

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Tara - posted on 01/31/2009

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Would you be confused if everyone you knew called your husband Bob?  Your daughter is just experimenting with the new things she's learning.  It's a good thing!  When my daughter started calling us by our first names I told her she was right ... "Yes, honey, momma's name is Tara.  What's your name?"  and  "That's right Madi, daddy's name is Jamie.  We call him Daddy 'cause we love him."  She stopped calling us by our names as quickly as she started, but sometimes when daddy calls me momma she reminds him "Momma's name is Tara".  I think it's good when children learn their parents names, there are situations where they may need to know.

Jennifer - posted on 04/10/2011

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don't make a big deal of it - she will grow out of it. if you feel you need to say something, when she calls him by his first name - tell her yes, thats daddys name! its a good thing for children to know their parents actual names and it will fade with time. mostly - do not let it get to you or bother you.

Kim - posted on 02/01/2009

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My 2-yr old is also doing this.  I am now not calling my husband by his name.  I call him darling, daddy, babe, etc, to try and stop it.  I think the best thing is not to make a big deal out of it, as the bigger the deal, the more likely he will keep doing it.



 



All the best with your daughter.  Its probably a phase and she will grow out of it at some stage.

Laura - posted on 02/01/2009

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So????  She must have great listening skills.  What if she were lost or you were hurt/husband hurt or she needed help and another adult came to help....Guess what she knows your name...she could probably help out more than you know...it could save her life!  Why not look at this as a POSITIVE thing....maybe something that lots more kids should know!!!  Of all the words to pick up and 'repeat'...she is brilliant!

Dominque - posted on 02/01/2009

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hey my daughter was doing the same but we found that she just stop doing it after a while

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Vanessa - posted on 01/31/2009

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Hi there,



 



Yeah I was the same and Jolene Rundell, I kept calling my Dad by his first name, She should just grow out of it. But maybe just try not to answer her and say to her Daddy wont talk to you unless you call him by his name.



 



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mine did the exact same thing! the way we solved it was by me calling him daddy too as she was just copying us calling him his proper name. try it i hope it works for you!!

User - posted on 01/31/2009

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My boy (now 22 months) use to call every man he saw - Dad, how embarrassing. The phase only lasted two or three months.



Your daughter obviously hears you & everyone else call her father by his first name. Habits once formed are hard to break, lets hope these are the worst habits they develop.

Jessica - posted on 01/31/2009

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I agree with those who have said call each other Mummy / Daddy. I do that with my Ex, and he calls me Mummy so that our daughter doesnt call us by any other. However, she DOES know that my name is Jess (as I am repartnered, and this is what his children call me...) and that her fathers name is Nat (as he is also repartnered and this is what his partner calls him.)

Michelle - posted on 01/31/2009

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Hi ! I had the same situation with my daughter when she was almost 2 years old. I was then alarmed so I started calling my husband daddy so she would pick up and just drop calling him by his first name. It was a struggle at first. She then got the hang of it after a few months. She just picks up with what we say. Two year olds are at the stage that they immitate everything that they see and hear. The curious stage that's why its the terrible two stage!  She will out grow that but mind you it never stops. Its one thing after the other. Its a learning experience.

Kristy - posted on 01/31/2009

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It might sound strange at 1st but call each other mum/dad when she is around. call each other whatever u like when shes not. ur daughter will stop eventually. and im sure that no matter what she does call ur hubby she knows hes her dad.

Claudette - posted on 01/31/2009

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I think she is just coping what you call him, its probabley just a phase..it will pass.

Sarah - posted on 01/31/2009

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Many kids go through the stage of calling their parents by their first names. Most of the time they are only copying what they have heard their parents calling each other. I would not worry too much about it. My son did the same exact thing but has now moved out of the stage and calls my husband daddy. One suggestion is possibly using the word you want her to use when you call on him so she will start copying you when you are using the word you like. It takes a little practice but that is the way I got my son out of it.

Isabell - posted on 01/31/2009

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tell your daughter to ask daddy to play.  Then tell your husband only to anwer when she asks daddy you want to play.  Give it a couple of shots if it doesn't work try again another day.  Hang in there and give it time.

Ghostdarlin - posted on 01/31/2009

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Simple-address him as Daddy to your daughter when you're talking to her and try to avoid using his actual name as much as possible around her. I say "hon" or "sweetheart" and she'll see that Daddy is what she should call him. She will pick up the difference eventually. When she does say it, correct her and say, no, only Mommy can call Daddy by his first name. Daddy is what you call him-it's a special name daughters call their fathers. Kids are smarter than we give them credit for.

Dory - posted on 01/31/2009

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don't make a big deal of it and when you ask him to do something be like daddy can you get the bag out of the car she is just imitating you. but be glad that she nows your names. if she ever got lost at least she could say my daddys name is____?

Brenda - posted on 01/31/2009

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It will probably fade.  For a while my son went through that, calling my husband "Mike!" all the time.  He would also yell "Hey dear!" at him.  The reason he did this is because I always refer to my husband as "dear" and everyone else called him "Mike".  I went through a phase as a child, calling my mom by her first name, and it eventually stopped.  If you want to curb it faster, change your own reference to your husband when she's around to daddy instead of using his name.  She is just doing what you do, a favorite tactic of two year olds, and eventually she'll lose interest in it like my son did.  Once she figures out that Daddy is the same thing as his name, it changes a lot of things.  Saying "What's daddy's name?"  helped my son.  "Mike is daddy's name."  He never referred to me by my name, because my husband always calls me "momma" around him.  I'd ask him what my name was and he'd say "Momma!" and then ask what daddy's name was and he'd say "Mike!"

Melissa - posted on 01/31/2009

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I would say it's deffinately a phase. My two children, now 9 and 6, did this too.  We laughed at first which caused them to do it more. We had to stop laughing when they did it, told them, "Yes that's mommy/daddy's name, good job. But mommy/daddy is a special name you get to call us because no one else is lucky enough to have you as a daughter/son."  Both kids did it now and then but we kept reminding them how special our "titles" were. I think a lot of it has to do with a 2 year old learning more about the world around them and testing it out. I did ignore my sone when he over did it until he called us mommy or daddy. He was a little more persistant. 



Good luck



Melissa

Bhavani - posted on 01/31/2009

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Hi Amy,



First  of all I'd like to say you got onecute cool baby.  Most probably she's calling her dad by his first name because of you.  She's maybe imitating you.  Toddlers often imitate their parents' mannerisms and talk.  That's the way they learn to speak and act until they start getting their own personality and develop it.  You could try calling your husband daddy, or dad  so that she  could imitate you eventually.  And watch out for bad language!  They pick them up easily too!

Cynthia - posted on 01/31/2009

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I realized my 2.5 yr old was simply repeating what he heard us calling each other. |So we now refer to each other as mommy or daddy when calling across the house for each other or talking to each other. he went right back to mommy and daddy pretty quick. we tried ignoring it, he just would yell our names louder, go figure.

I did have a conversation about it though. He was finally able to call me by my name last week (Cynthia is a tough one to spit out) and he asked me about my name. I just explained that is the name everyone gets to call me just like everyone calls him Brandon, but only he gets to call me mommy (and his brother when he's older). it helped make ti special again.Good luck.

Misty - posted on 01/31/2009

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It's just a phase that lots of little ones go thru. She'll stop doing it after a while. My baby started calling me by my first name when he was 18 months old. He didn't stop until recently, but still calls me by my first name every once in a while. He's only 23 months old now. I was told it's like a new word to the little ones and they want to use it for a while. And if they were to ever get lost they can tell someone your name, so it's actually a good thing.

Sally - posted on 01/31/2009

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My 2-year-old is doing it too and we try not to laugh anymore because I think she just liked the way that we reacted the first few times she said it. She has been using his name less now, but today I heard her call him "Honey!"...here we go again!

Jodie - posted on 01/31/2009

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'Ignore her and dont react. My son was doing this to me as my step sons call me by my first name, I chose to ignore him and he lost interest quickly

Amy - posted on 01/31/2009

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We did used to think that it was cute she was calling us by our first names, she now calls me mommy but is still calling my husband by his first name a majority of the time. Hoping that it is just a phase....

Lorraine - posted on 01/31/2009

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mi little boy does the same thing call each other mummy and daddy then she will get used to hearing rather than your names x

Amanda - posted on 01/31/2009

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My 2 1/2 yr old is doing that as well, not all the time but a few times a day. She thinks it's funny b/c now she knows all our names. I think it's probably just a phase and it'll pass.

Amanda - posted on 01/31/2009

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My daughter still calls mu husband babe, but now i didnt like it at first, but now i am use to it.  But she knows he is her daddy and calls him that very once in a while, so i figure it will stop eventually.

Jolene - posted on 01/31/2009

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For some reason when I was little I called my dad by his first name too. No idea why. I just grew out of it.

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