my 2yr old son automatically changes attitude when his dad is around,he becomes wild,how can i discipline him?
Ariana - posted on 10/11/2012
Take the toy away and say we don't hit people .Take him into a time-out section then if there isn't another room, or put him into his playpen for a few minutes to calm down. Once he's calmed down (even if it's much later, not necessarily once you take him out of the time-out section) you can talk to him and tell him he needs to be gentle. Get him to give his sister a gentle pat wherever he hit her or a kiss to make her feel better.
Sometimes kids act up more with one parent then the other, it happens. You need to show him that he can't just do whatever he wants without a natural consequence. If you hit people you get taken away from them. He might act up a LOT once you do it the first couple times but eventually he'll realize he can't hit people.
Ariana - posted on 10/10/2012
What exactly is your son doing? Is he hitting? Yelling? Just running around? It's helpful to have more specific behaviors to deal with.
At this age discipline is hard. A lot of times just getting rid of the powerstruggle can be a major help.
I found if I give my son limited options it can really help. So instead of, come here and get changed it become, would you like to bring 1 or 2 stuffed animals over with you? It seems silly but it really does help! Kids want to be in control.
Natural consequences work pretty well. Although with a 2 year old they have to be safe and everything has to be immediate. So if you don't stay in the drive way while we're outside we have to play inside, if you throw a toy it gets taken away. Warn them beforehand if possible of the natural consequence.
If he hits you tell him he obviously needs time away to cool down and bring him to a room/spot where he can sit for a bit to calm down.
If you have more specific areas where your son is being difficult it would be helpful in giving advise.
A lot of kids act differently with different parents. My son was actually worse when my mom and I were together ( she takes care of him in the daytime while I'm off) then by ourselves.
You could also incorperate a 'special' time with him. Take 20 minutes a day to do something he really likes, anything. I once spent 20 straight minutes playing 'chase'. Doesn't seem like much but when you've ran around a couch for the 100th time time seems to drag on. But you know what? My son was so connected with me afterwards and wanted to play with me and was happy to be around me. A happy child who's connected is much more willing to take direction. It won't work all the time, but it can be helpful.
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